I've been thinking about sexuality a lot lately for some reason and I've come to the conclusion that I dont believe in such a thing as "gay" and "straight". I believe that love is love and no one can help who they fall in love with. People just set their minds to say that they only like males or females, but everyone has the ability to fall in love with essentially anyone. For most of my life, I thought that I was only attracted to males, probably becuase I was taught to like men through the people I was surrounded with or the realtionships that I witnessed. Eventually, I realized that females can be attractive as well. Now, I've never had a realtionship with a female, but if it were to happen I would see no problem with it. I just wish that we, as a society, would stop labeling our own sexuality and just fell free to love whomever we end up falling in love with. Just some thoughts...do you agree or disagree? Feel free to comment
i couldn't agree with you more Sunshine. It's too bad that alot of people can't just relax, be themselves, and live and quit judging others who are trying to just be themselves.
I agree that people put way too much value in certain labels... however I think that people DO have definite sexual orientations...sexual attraction is a very powerful force and you can't become sexually attracted to someone of a sex that you're not naturally oriented too, no matter how attractive they are..you can fall in love with somone of the same sex even if you're straight, but whether you'd be willing to have sex with them is a complete other story..
It's a really tricky issue, in my opinion. I think some people have very definite orientations, others not nearly as much. I have found that mine is very much malleable depending on where I want it to go, my mood, etc. I can imagine that other people are very much completely heterosexual (it is hard for me to imagine someone being 100% homosexual, but I know people say that they are, and who am I to doubt them) and genuinely have, for all practical purposes, absolutely no desire to be with the same sex. I do agree though that the labels can be pretty annoying, especially if you are someone like me who considers himself outside of pretty much any label, especially a sexual one. It's just not something that can be defined so easily. There are many factors... there is physical attraction, sexual enjoyment, romantic love/relationship appeal. If people could just be themselves and learn to love, unabashedly and boldly, whatever and whomever they love most in the deepest corners of their hearts, the world would be such a better place.
This may sound sorta silly but the love I have had for really good friends (same sex) early on in life does'nt seem so different to me than the love I have had in opposite sex (romantic)relationships.To me it seems quite the same.When I was a child I still had not been completely exposed to the worlds close minded ideas of sexuality and was somewhat sheltered from lifes realities.I really had no labels and acted naturally without shame or hesitance up to a certain piont.Eventually I was affected by close minded people and became secretive and afraid of being exposed as gay or bi.I'd say orientationt is different for everybody yes.I can only speak for myself.It was wonderful for a short time though when the words gay,fag etc.were not in my vocabulary and I was free with my sexuality at that young age.There's so much stigma attached to being any other orientation than straight.I am not really comfortable with any label since its restrictive and usually not very accurate.It also seems to seperate people,putting people into neat little catagories and it's just not that simple.It pisses me off.I don't want to be anything but me I really have no real use for labels.To me there created by scared people to give them a better sense of control.To me it's all bullshit lol.Just be yourself.Be who you are it's ok,do your thing and be good to others. So I really agree with Sunshine daydream with this,that's not to say it's not different for others though.Just my thoughts from my expirience.Awesome thread I think alot about this too.I wonder how many more people are out there who feel like I do about this.
i firmly believe that everyone has bisexual tendencies in them- there is NO SUCH THING as being *just* straight! i can't believe that, and i don't.lol.
Joey, I couldn't disagree with you more about friendships being the same as romantic relationships....to me there is a world of difference. the way you feel, the way you act around them, the way they make you feel...there's no comparison. however, I definitely agree with the rest of your post! we should be free about our sexuality instead of trying to put it all into categories, that can get so confusing and hurtful sometimes!
Well,It's all 'bout the Love.Thinking about it now,that does'nt seem so different to me.All I've wanted wuz to give and recieve love in one way or another.When you get to the bottom of it that's the common denominator.That's just the way I'm looking at it at the moment Annajane. But I know what you mean though.I'm not disagreeing with you at all. Yea they've got a catagory for everything.Jeez people are just confused when they should'nt be trying so hard to fit into something.We spend so much time trying to figure out who we are instead of enjoying life.It deffinetely is hurtful the agony of confusion and not fitting in,the fear,the alienation etc etc.Its horrible.If only everyone could lighten up....
