My Partner Never Orgasms During Sex

When I have sex with my partner she never orgasms, she only orgasms when i stimulate her clit or use vibrator.

She often says i take too long thrusting her, she would like the thrusting to be max 5 mins.

What are your opinions on this?

 

well, i guess my opinion is that your partner orgasms from clit stimulation rather than penetration, and she would like the thrusting to be max 5 mins.

 

You're probably so used to her not saying anything that it comes as a bit of a surprise. But many women do not experience climax due to penetration. You have to be able to accept that it's just the way things are.

I think it's a good sign that she's trying to be honest about it with you!

 

Listen to her. Learn from her. Change things up a bit. Maybe you get her wet first , then penetrate her for a few strokes, stop and do oral on her and make her climax. Then go back and penetrate her. The point is change something,but most of listen to her. Let her guide you to what she likes. I came speak for everyone, but minutes is to short for me. That would like a quicky all the time. My wife and I like to be intimate longe. Some times we lay connected to each other with just a very slight bit of movement before we increase the tempo. Hope this helps. A senior guy

 

My opinion is you should learn some skills, if she is tired of your "thrusting" in only a couple minutes..your not doing it right. Just sayin.
And secondly, you need to take a moment to learn how sex with a woman works...aka..it doesn't work like porn...porn is laughably unrealistic.

Here's a hint...women make sex better. If it is up to the man, he would get on top and start humping till he gets off. Then roll over and watch some tv.
Women are a bit more sophisticated than us, they want variety...foreplay...playing...multiple positions etc. And I thank God for it. Everything I learned about having good sex, I learned from the gals.
Listen and learn grasshopper.

 

Reading comments like this, makes me wonder how many people consider making love and sex as two different things. As long as you are able to make each other happy, what difference does it make who is doing what at the moment of climax. If you feel a bit cheated about the way that you never seem to climax together, you should simply do what she enjoys and then 'slip inside' at the right moment. It does not seem like rocket science to me. Trying out different methods to achieve this should be great fun and give you a few good laughs when it all goes wrong. If love making was just bouncing up and down, I would have died of boredom by now. One suggestion. Wear an old pair of cut off Levi's in bed, the rough denim and buttons may work wonders on her throbbing clit as you go in and out. Just don't ask me how I found that out.!!!!! LOL.

 

Usually, I have to be on top to orgasm during sex. I prefer clitoral stimulation and then have sex, after. Everyone is different but it’s not uncommon for women to not O from intercourse, OP.

 

lol men...

 

From my experience as a dedicated husband to my wife of 26 years, foreplay is a huge factor along with the mental aspect such as naughty talk or a little role playing, teasing around the nipples, around the clit and vulva, and finally lightly touching the clit. Then clitoral area stimulation with some good sexy penetration have led to some amazing long lasting orgasms with contractions lasting as long as 40 seconds. I am a firm believer in the clitoris being the essential area necessary for the vast majority of female orgasms. And it is amazingly sexy and very satisfy to watch!!

 

From my experience as a dedicated husband to my wife of 26 years, foreplay is a huge factor along with the mental aspect such as naughty talk or a little role playing, teasing around the nipples, around the clit and vulva, and finally lightly touching the clit. Then clitoral area stimulation with some good sexy penetration have led to some amazing long lasting orgasms with contractions lasting as long as 40 seconds. I am a firm believer in the clitoris being the essential area necessary for the vast majority of female orgasms. And it is amazingly sexy and very satisfy to watch!!

 

I mean, I really don't see many if any women ever orgasming without rubbing or vibrating the clit at some point with penetration being a nice bonus.

 

Is that really true, or is it just the kind of thing you think you are supposed to say so the female members here think you are a nice guy

So, a couple seconds before you cum, you are thinking about how happy you have made each other, emotionally bonded, shit like that....as opposed to how you are going to cum, how hard you are going to cum, the jugs on the 19 yr old that served you coffee the morning before to get yourself over the line

I'm guessing you found that out by wearing an old pair of denim cut offs to bed

Yes, I like to be a smartass

 

90% correct. It was on a camping holiday where I slept in my shorts in case the tent blew down in the middle of the night. That was the same time that she bought me some new shorts and posted them as our avatar. I wonder what she would do if she was camping with you in all that gorilla fur. LOL.

 

What I think is great is that you two are talking about it. So, do what she says. Then talk to her and see if she's ok with doing what you say. Communication regarding sex is like orgasms in the bank!

 

One of my old girlfriends could only orgasm during penetration. Oral done nothing for her so she said. She also said that a woman who could only cum during oral or clitoral stimulation was most likely a lesbian. I don’t exactly agree with that. My wife orgasms both ways. If she needs clitoral stimulation then she or I will take care of that during intercourse. Sometimes when I’m fucking her from behind and Its taking a little while for me to cum she will reach and play with my balls. It drives me wild when she does that and I cum quickly. Mix it up a little. Don’t get stuck doing the same ol same ol. No pun intended......

 

Plenty of foreplay for you BOTH - you wont bore her with your'too long' thrusting. On that point she can reduce this time and make you cum quicker, its simple. Tell her that. She can research this, or is it all down to you?
If shes a clit only cummer thats fine and very common,cant remember %'s right now, give her a reach around, this can be done in most positions-even missionary. Or buy a clit stimulator/bumper,cant remember the name right now.
Either of these methods used properly will let u both climax during penetration.