My Parents made me...

Why is it that so many young people are adhearing to their parents just because its their parents? It blows my mind how much these people think they "can't" do something simply because they'll get in trouble. I mean honestly do these kids relize how little your parents can do to you? Like that one kid who got his hair cut... Why did you go inside? Just walk the other direction. Whats going to happen?

 

maybe people want to respect their parents, you know possibly give your creators some sort of grattitude for your being... you know maybe make them feel good about their children

but these ideas seem too radical to be taken seriously

 

Those a difference between respect and obiediance

 

Unless your parents are beating the blood and shit out of you or making you work like slaves then i dont see why you cant simply respect your parents when they ask you something

just gonna be a rebel without a thought

 

I think that unless the parents are unfit [they beat a child, etc], that respect as well as obedience is owed to them. If they are truly good parents, all they want is to look out for you. You may not like what they have to say [and hell, many times you won't agree.. I know I don't], but they have reasons for doing what they do.

I have excellent parents, and although I'd often like to do things I am not allowed, I listen. This allows them to also have respect for me, as I do with them.

 

They might cancel my internet if I do something... Other than that... what can they really take from me... I never go anywhere, so making me stay in my room (which they never have done and probably never will happen) would be sort of... a reward... yay.. i don't have to go in public and be around people. So... to tell you the truth... there isn't much they can take. My allowance?.. well.. I could get a job instead (I did have my own ebay business at one point too)... My parents never really do anything to me... probably because I never do anything wrong and never have.

 

While you are under 18 and living under your parents roof, you are obliged to listen and obey them. Telling young people to rebel delibritly against their parents is just fucking retarded. If they are feeding and clothing you, you owe them your fucking respect.

 

Dont misunderstand me. I'm not talking about chores or responsibillities. I'm talking about shit like how you dress or style your hair. I'm not sure why you can feel it nessasary to respect and obey someone just because they created you. Being an accident maybe that plays a different part in my mind.

PS: How do you rebel accidently?

 

This still doesnt give any reason at all to not respect your parents wishes, I dont do absolutley everything my mother says because its impossible

Hair can always grow back, and once your on your own youll be happy to do whatever the hell you want...i really dont see your reason for rebellion if there isnt anything of high threat to your freedom to rebel against

 

Eh, filial piety's overrated.

I think that some level of deference to one's parents is natural, but I don't think it has to be unconditional. I get on well with my dad, but ignoring my mother has almost been a requisite to retain sanity. She's very old-fashioned (one of those traditional Asian mothers, they're a fright), often immature, and presenting her with logical arguments tends to only piss her off. So tuning her out has been more than justified in my opinion. I'm actually in a feud with her at present, this time over my appearance - "only homeless people have long hair." Yeah... I hate financial dependence.

So I dunno, I think there's a limit to where you have to follow your parents' wishes.

 

I've not obeyed them before and it usually comes back to bite me in the ass because they can pull restrictions away and then I ignore those and that leads to confrontation and about a month of hellish fights until I finally resolve the matter by explaining something to them that I did when I first got punished.

But ya, I do ignore them sometimes, like going to appointments that I don't want to; not my fault they wanted to make me go and then I don't show up and they have to pay for the missed visit.

 

It's generally a matter of respect for me. Legally, they have no power over me anymore. But my parents have done so much for me that I could never even dream of being able to repay them. I think I owe it to them to respect their wishes most of the time. This is not to say that I never do things they don't want me to do, but I pick my battles.

 

Kids are just piss scared of parents. It's crazyness. I do as little as my parents say as possible. It's not because I don't respect them, I just look at it like *It's my life. I'm the one who has to die at the end of it, why not live it like I want to.* My parents got over their power trip quickly, and don't bug me about things anymore. Kids just need to put their foots down.

 

In this debate, the 'parents' involved seem to be summed up as one similar group. Depending on certain aspects, (e.g. age, experience, religion, job, etc.) a parent's methods used for learning and disciplining are certainly going to differentiate because of these aspects, respectively. I, for one, know my parents to be of older age, more experienced, no restricting religions, independent jobs, etc. therefore their methods are weighted and influenced by how all of these things affect their lives and how they feel about them, THEREFORE putting me between a rock and a hard place, for my parents are quite intelligent human beings.

All there is to say is that, while some parents may be lenient and understanding, others may not be, and direction and obedience is expected and satisfying. It's merely a personal situation that no one but the one involved can make assumptions for, whether they be on the mark or quite incorrect. Perhaps we need to consider these facts before judgements are made.

 

my parents say i can do whatever i want. there's things they prefer i don't do, and some of those i do but i lie so not to break their hearts. they never know unless i tell them.


sometimes they get all parent-y on me though and i end up holding it against them and doing that thing in paticular. not so much to be rebelious, but because they never raised me to take orders. i listen to people when they are requesting and wishing i do something. thats it.

 

my parents can be bad at times, especially during the school year cuz they say i have to go straight home so i dont hang out with druggies. right now my dad is saying that i need to cut my hair and dress like a man(supposedly men dont wear tiedye) or i am gonna have to move out. my mom doesnt really care she just says to ignore him cuz he wouldnt kick me out till im 18 anyway. but i do all my chores that my parents ask me, ive been kinda grounded for over a month and a half and i wanna get on their good sides so theyll let me go out and do stuff with friends again, cuz they postponed buying me a car after they found out i smoked weed. i thought it was crap but whatever. when you turn 18 you dont have to listen to them or obey their rules anymore but until then your kinda fucked in my opinion, unless you have groovy parents

 

of course you should respect your parents. no different than you should respect everyone. let's think about this: pretty simple -> parents aren't some higher breed of beings, they're just people, same as you and me. most peoples problem is simply that they don't understand the idea behind freedom. Freedom should be respected just as your would respect your parents. If you want to do something and it's not going to hurt another person, fuck it, do it, who cares about a "rule"

 

Of course it is important for a child to have "rights", and not to be forced to do inhumane things, but parents also have "rights", which include being allowed to worry about their child's future and to be treated as a human being rather than as a simple source of food, money etc.

 

the only time you should rebel on what your parents tell you is if your parents are bad parents. then rebeling will often make you into a wonderfull person as you'll be doing what's right...but if your parents are good parents, then rebeling will make you the oposite, and make you a bad person

and think of all they have done for you. they'll look after you for 18 or so years of your life, they'll make you smile and catch your tears more than any other. yeah, it doesnt mean you have to be their slave as a way of saying thankyou, but rebeling is just mean

 

Kill those old pricks