So earlier today ... (going way way back) -> My mom & I do not really get along but i love her as a person. in a MSN she puts I've accepted that you hate me . Huh ? i told my mom i don't want a Relationship mother daughter -going out to the mall shop dinner she stalls - shew has problems but thats not my problem. Truly she does. i don't hate anyone than i'm 25 i would love to have my own baby although i have medical problems, so i talked it over with my hubby after college we're going to adopt , so i told my dad after 4 years thats what were going to do he basically i better have enough monry for pampers etc I've been a enhance worker respite provider EA and TA since i was 18 My dad once i told him got off line what do you think that means? I know when my sister got pregnant she had a p time job he was all lovey dovey and me hes all you better have a damn good job. i don't understand
Wait until your daughter feels this way about you. Karma will catch up. Even if she did you wrong, you will find more inner peace doing what is right. Sounds like he just wants you to think through your decision. Parents are like that. When the kid is inevitable they throw the switch.
That sucks, especially the part about your dad picking and choosing favorites. He's probably just a jackass. I'm very sorry to hear that. As for your mom, maybe you're being a little too hard on her. She probably has excess guilt from the past, and on top of it all, you don't want to have a whole lot to do with her. Both of these things simultaneously coming at her might make her feel a bit terrible. Maybe she wants to patch things up. Maybe you can both move on to have a great relationship. Or at least give it a try. And hey, you're 34. If your parents are still going to treat you like shit at this point, they don't deserve to be a part of your life. Open yourself up to them. Stretch out your arms and try, just try to forgive them if you can. It's worth a try, really. Anyways, good luck. I wish you all the best.
I don't know who wrote the previous post (which I'm editing out the words now) but it wasn't me. No way did I think you was still living at home. And what do I care how you write? Although, I had a hard time understanding what you were trying to say. Someone must have hacked into my account. Actually I did assume you lived at home. It is very hard to understand what you're saying. You know, maybe I did write that. I think I do remember writing it. Because I had a hard time understanding what you were saying. Well, I think your parents care about you is all. Hard to say since we don't know all the facts though. Maybe it's just me who doesn't understand it.
Okay, I deleted my original post up there. Here it is: I couldn't understand what you were trying to say. Let's see if we can't make it clearer so that everyone can understand and maybe help you. "So earlier today ... (going way way back)" Not sure what that is. Was it earlier today or was it way way back? Then you say: "My mom & I do not really get along but i love her as a person. in a MSN she puts I've accepted that you hate me ." I'm not sure what 'earlier today, way way back' has to do with that but that's okay. I'm assuming 'in a MSN' means IM or something like that? "i told my mom i don't want a Relationship mother daughter -going out to the mall shop dinner she stalls" What's 'going out to the mall shop dinner she stalls'? Not sure what this means either: "i don't hate anyone than i'm 25" "I've been a enhance worker respite provider EA and TA since i was 18" What's a 'respite provider EA and TA'? We can't help you if we can't understand what you're trying to say.
I couldn't understand what you were trying to say. Let's see if we can't make it clearer so that everyone can understand and maybe help you. "So earlier today ... (going way way back)" Not sure what that is. Was it earlier today or was it way way back? Then you say: "My mom & I do not really get along but i love her as a person. in a MSN she puts I've accepted that you hate me ." I'm not sure what 'earlier today, way way back' has to do with that but that's okay. I'm assuming 'in a MSN' means IM or something like that? "i told my mom i don't want a Relationship mother daughter -going out to the mall shop dinner she stalls" What's 'going out to the mall shop dinner she stalls'? Not sure what this means either: "i don't hate anyone than i'm 25" "I've been a enhance worker respite provider EA and TA since i was 18" What's a 'respite provider EA and TA'? We can't help you if we can't understand what you're trying to say. So my mom has problems herself. She doesn't get along w/ family. The only time shes ever said i love you to me is this Valentines day and my wedding day. (pretty sad if you ask me). My mother thinks that i cannot get a job. I've been working since i was 18. EA (educational assistant) TA (Teacher assistant) and respite provider which helps relieve parents or caregivers on a on-going basis. So my mom is just not the person you can comunicate w/. She thinks i hate her for some odd reason. Just because she has problems doesn't mean i look at her any different . I mean i work with families with the same problem so whats the big deal here . i'm 25 years old and shes treating me like i'm 2 years old. I'm taking the Social worker course and i personally don't think shes given it 2 thoughts that i'm going to become a Social worker. Furthermore My sister had a baby at the age of 22 w/ a part time job and i WANT to adopt theres just so many babies out there w/o care in the world plus my health problems. My dad was telling me "you better think long and hard on this one because it costs a lot of money for kids these days" I know this i work with them. I don't need the critisism. I know its tough love but why would he be lovey dovey with my sister being pregnant than when i want to adopt he gets all stressed out? I don't understand? You understand I'm not 14 and i'm not 34 i'm 25 w/ step children. sorry i do short forms because then my posts end up like this
Sounds like you need to stop worrying what others think. If you want to adopt, adopt. Only you can make that decision. It also sounds like your parents mean well. Unfortunately, kids don't come with an instruction manual (you'll find that out quick) so parents say the wrong things sometimes. It's not their fault. They love you and want what's best for you.
yes your right chuck . i worry too much what other ppl think . And you know the reason i do . is because i don't want them looking at me like i'm a bad person. I have a very bad habit of not being able to say no. I don't know i suppose i have to put my foot down more often.
Yup, that's what I suggest. Basically though, just chill out. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. It's your's and you husband's lives, you're the ones that have to live it. It really does sound more like your parents are just concerned about you though. When you get your first adopted child, they'll fall in love with it just the same as your sisters kid.
It's suppose to look terrible. He's Riff Raff (played by Richard O'Brien) a character on the rocky horror picture show. I'm not usually that kind. Really.
