Hello all, I have a problem. I have been all my life attracted to men and I am still to this day attracted to men. But I have fallen in love with someone of the same sex. I do not find other women attractive except this one person. We have talked about it and she feels the exact same way that I do. I would be willing to either A.) Hide this relationship from others and continue it in secret B.) openly explain it to family and friends and anyone else for that matter. The problem is that my "partner?" says she isn't strong enough to face the scrutiny that will come with an outward and public display of our love for one another. She wants us to continue what we are doing now in private and says that she wants to be with me forever but that we can't. She says that we will both move on and find others (men) who we will fall in love with. I don't want anyone else. I can't even begin to think of being with someone else. I have everything I could ever want right now. I don't know what to do or what to say. Part of me understands what she means and doesn't want to push her but the other part of me wants desperately for her to change her mind. I would go the ends of the earth for this person. I want them in every aspect of my life from now till forever and the thought of her walking away with someone else (a guy) just because the world says it's ok for her to be with him is killing me. I just need some help on any part of my situation that you can help me with. What is this feeling I have? and what should I do to keep the soul that I've fallen for?
sounds like your "partner" isn't really homosexual...or at least is wavering on the subject...probably doesn't feel the SAME as you - it's obvious she doesn't gonna have to move on or just take it for what it is at this point
The thing about it is that I'm not homosexual either. I am attracted to men. I just happen to have fallen in love with a woman.
then you both have talking to do. she sounds wavering and makes it seem like she would rather be involved in straight relationships i.e. not with you
If you have fallen in love with a woman, you are gay. That's obvious, or at least bi curious or something. Just do you. Know what's comfortable and flow with it. Thats life man.
If this relationship ended I wouldn't want a woman though. I would want a man. Does that still make me gay?
I think your putting too much thought into the whole gay thing, who cares. If you don't know what you want yet don't worry about labeling yourself
Maybe I'm just confused on the definition of each of these terms. I don't consider myself Bisexual or Homosexual.
stick with what you know for right now and take things one at a time. you know you really want to be with this girl, so go for it. leave the labeling alone. I wouldnt get into a serious relationship with her though because the situation you described about her going for a guy can very much happen, and if you have such a love like that for her, i think it would be smarter to cherish it by being her friend instead of risking a potential seperation
Don't good friends love eachother? Or are you in lust for her? Either way, labels are stupid, yall could just mess around and have crazy threesomes with guys or just have an open realtionship. Love is a fickle mistress IMO anway.
