My gf cheated on me

Ok guys heres the story, i found out a couple of hours ago that my girlfreind who ive been with for about 2-3 months now had sex with her ex-boyfreind while she was away for the week.

Shed bin out with her ex-boyfreind for 3 years but nows is really good freinds with him so she went over to see him for the week as freinds. I suppose it sounds stupid now but i guess i trusted her with him. an now she tells me she slept with him.

I donno what to do, i feel terrible. I really like this girl an i really dont want to have to dump her as all my relationships fail after the first month for some reason or the other. I suppose i should award her honesty as she could of just kept it a secrect.

I donno wot do.... what do guys suggest?

 

I live by the rule...once a cheater, always the cheater. If she's going to do it once, chances are she'll do it again. Regardless whether or not she told you, YOU trusted her, and she broke that trust.

I don't know, that's just my opinion. Maybe that's why I've gone through relationships like water...

ah well...such as life...

 

I agree with Annie, I'd find it hard to her trust again

 

I'd keep her around for booty calls and nothing more.

 

I can't think about her the same way again.
I'd have to agree with DancerAnnie.
Also, I feel that another reason you're thinking about forgiving her or not is because you want to break your trend of having short relationships.

If she slept with him, then she must still have feelings and its very likely to happen again.

 

although you love her, you will never trust her again. that trust has been broken, therefore it cant ever get to what it once was. I've been through something similar, and i know this for a fact! ...sorry to say this, but after what she's done i dont think things will be the same again. you'll always feel betrayed and uncomfortable for what she did.
good luck to you mate, hope your soul heals soon.

 

cheating is probably the single worst thing a person could do to someone else, drop that bitch like a rock

 

That sucks,I hate girls sometimes, I say you leave her. I know it is hard to leave someone you love but she obviously doesm't love you all that much if she went and cheated on you. I think that you coulc prolly do better.

 

if she's 16 and fucking other guys i'd dump her...if she was 18 and flet it was a mistkae, i'd be able to forgive, but if they're that young, their gonna want to be testing the water at various beaches if ya know what i mean, so it might be best to lose her now before she does it again.

 

^.This Get rid. Now. Call her fat first.

It's not that cheating is necessarily unforgivable, but it's not even a long-term relationship. It's not worth going out with someone for the sake of longevity, I'm not sure that's what you're doing, but it's better to end a relationship when it's run its course than months later.

I know how you feel, I've found myself saying "I really like x guy", and then being unable to explain even to myself exactly why. Ask yrself no "Do I love her enough to forgive her?", but "Does she love me enough that she should be forgiven?"

 

I don't agree with "once a cheater always a cheater," though I do understand it's easy to feel that way.

I cheated with my girlfriend years ago (now an ex) and it taught me how awful it feels to do it. I didn't even get caught -- I confessed it. It made us break up for a while because she was real bothered by it, but we got back together. (She got her equal time afterward, btw.)

Some guys or girls cheat because they're selfish assholes and they'll do it whenever they can. Others cheat because they're lonely and separated from their lover and need release and make the mistake of taking it when it's offered. That's what I did.

I'm not seeing anyone right now, but anyone I do date will have my exclusive attention if that's what we agree to, and I won't cheat again. I don't want to be that kind of person.

The original poster needs to work on his typing, btw. What the hell is this about substituting "bin" for "been"?!

-Jeffrey

 

There's no way that we can all be sure of all the dynamics going on here.

Maybe the girl is struggling to make a break from the old guy but she had unresolved feelings. Maybe she's apologetic about having cheated. Who knows?

What to do as the guy who was cheated on depends heavily on what her attitude about it is.

I can say as a guy who has cheated and been cheated on that it's not always clear cut, and I won't cheat again even though I did in the past. So if I expect to be given a chance by girls in the future, I sure as heck better be willing to believe someone can reform.

-Jeffrey

 

Drop her like a bad habit...

 

:H

 

thanx guys, just finished speakin with her an we're no longer together........ plenty more fish in the sea eh!

 

Thing is, it doesn't really matter if you're "always a cheater". She shouldn't have cheated on him once. OK, so there's reasons why you might cheat on someone, but at the end of the day it's completely out of your hands as to whether the other person is willing to forgive. You can't cheat and then expect the other to forgive you. You have to beg.

 

SelfControl, I dig the Travis quote in your signature. (Big fan of Travis and DPlan)

 

Take some time for yourself, things like that should not be decided in any hast, than talk to her about it ask her why she even told you, take another few days and when you are sure make your decision.

I for myself honer honesty more than anything else, as you say she also could have kept it a secret. She harmed you but you can live, eye for an eye or give her another chance. People are not perfect so they make errors, and if she is realy sorry and cares about you, she won't do it twice.
Of course there will be some time going by till you trust her again but, think about it.

The most important thing about this is to take your time to think about it!

 

Hello, I am new to the forum. I feel you did the best thing for her and yourself. You are so right, many more fish in the sea.

Stan

 

Well, if it was me.... I would dump the bitch. Knowing that she had cheeted on me would eat me up inside. Better to dump someone like that before you get too attached.