My dad is getting married

I don't think you should go.
But I have unusual views on the matter of "obligation".
Life is about doing what you feel is Right.
Not doing what you feel is expected or demanded of you.
Only you can obligate yourself.

 

Not attending is a fine way to state how you feel about it.

 

She thinks he is nuts he started a Facebook war with everyone and said some really mean things about my mom it’s like leave us alone I talked too my sister she is ready too tell him to fuck off about this wedding cara the soon to be bride wanted Jackie too walk her down they i’ll and give her away jack thought that might be weird my dad blasted jack care if crying and I’m hurt you won’t do this

 

We really don’t even know cara all that well

 

You've already said you don't want to be mean like your dad is. So regarding the wedding you only have two choices. Be nice and give him another chance and go. Or ignore the occasion as I originally suggested, maybe tell him you have to wash your hair, and stay home.

What you gonna do?

 

seems like everyone i meet who fits that description is married. often for the 3rd or 4th time.

 

Which tells me he's available for marriage, but not what I would consider "marriage material".

 

my point is, someone keeps marrying these guys, so those people must consider them marriage material.

 

My dad message me ask if me and jack are coming for the vows jacks husband said he is not going no way am I gonna let my sister go alone to this shit wedding The wedding is in September if Jack goes I’ll go with too support my sister

 

Well, I say go. He may not appreciate it now, but someday, somehow, it will mean something. Maybe it'll put him in a good mood for a week. I don't know.

 

Good for you. At least you'll get to see and visit with your sister.

 

Jennifer - what the latest?

 

My sister message me my dad started attacking her again he told her he cut her out of his will he is pissed she won’t walk cara down they I’ll all jack said is it might be weird she was not mean in anyway so she message me she probe not going so I’m not either I’m supporting my sisters on this one

 

I would buy him a bottle of his favorite liquor, and leave it with a note that says, "Hope you die faster", because you are killing us. Watch how fast he drinks it, and you'll know whether you should skip Dallas altogether and get the fuck out of Dodge before he flips his wig altogether. Its hard to admit there's nobody home when its someone you love or wish you could love.

 

I think you are making a wise decision. He doesn't sound stable.

 

No he is not stable he is losing it this is how he wants too leave things with all this hatred

 

He didn’t go see his dying dad in the hospital he said he wasn’t invited too go wtf this not some party you arsp too it’s your fucking dad who is dying be blamed his sister my gram said she doesn’t even think she can be civil too him going around no one told him his dad was sick that’s bullshit my aunt left too message we all tried getting him too go too the hospital

 

Wow. A strange guy to say the least.

 

Impulse control is the big issue. The more you drink, the more your impulse control goes down the toilet and you say and do things you never would otherwise and can't imagine even why you said them and did them. Winos become what tribal people describe as a cockroach, with Groucho Marx and Oscar the Grouch being classic examples. The lights are on, but nobody is home, and there's nothing left but a bundle of bad habits and anger. Nobody's in charge anymore, and you might as well talk to the nearest wall.

You could compare it to an adult version of a temper tantrum in a spoiled child who never stops lashing out at the world in anger. They might as well plug their ears and shout, "I can't hear you!" For all the difference it makes. Maybe they had a traumatic childhood and weren't breast fed or something, but the issue remains as to who the fuck do they want to become now and do you want anything to do with them.