My current boyfriend and I had sex...

...while he was still dating his ex, who I had known for eight years.

I'm a bad person.

 

Nah, maybe you didnt do the right thing, but as far as people go, that doesnt make you bad.

 

If he was able to cheat on his ex (even thought it was with you) than he can probable cheat again.

 

You're a bad person? Howcome you don't think he's a bad person for cheating on his ex with you?

 

^ maybe she seduced him.

 

do you feel bad?
If so yeah u are dont really matter wat we think

 

but not a nice thought you are sharing 'stuff' between the 3 of you ..................

 

does the ex know about it?

 

So what? It doesn't matter if she seduced him or not. If she held a gun to his head I would understand it. In the end he chose to be with her yet she feels like she's a bad person. I don't get it. Personally, I think if anything, they're both guilty.

 

Some people are easier 'persuaded' to make certain choices then others, hell most are, especially if theres emotional/relationship issues or substances involved.

But i agree with what you said about both being guilty.

 

And if you feel guilty...well, you'll probably just feel guilty forever. I just kissed a guy a few times in high school, knowing he had a girlfriend, and that was years and years ago and I still feel guilty and still think I should. You were both wrong and expect he'll do the same to you. I've seen it way too many times. Get prepared for the heartbreak, because it's coming.

 

Karma has great ways of manifesting itself...

 

Where did she say she doesnt think he is a bad person? maybe this thread is about her and not her boyfriend? maybe she is more concerned with her own morality?

 

She didn't say that. But she should know that she isn't the only one at fault. If she's a bad person then he's just as bad. When I read it I get the impression she blames herself.

 

Well im not excusing his actions but she does have only herself to blame, as you said unless she had a gun to her head, she had a choice.

Anyway, cheating sux but i dont think it is a super big deal either, not that i've ever cheated, i dont see the point.

 

Cheating is wrong.
Helping people cheat is wrong.
You ARE a bad person.
And so is he.

I'm sorry, but I'm only being honest.

 

The world isn't so black and white once you get out into the world. Making mistakes doesn't make you a bad person. Are you perfect? I highly doubt it, so you're in no place to decide if a person is "bad" or not.

 

why am I not surprise??

 

it took me too long to finally accept this.

 

Haha obviously the world is not black and white, I am not colorblind, I see color.
My mistakes are not being questioned here, and I never claimed to be perfect...
Nor did I say I was a good person.
I'm pointing out that doing that makes her a bad person, and she should regret it.
Maybe I'm a bad person too. Hah. So don't assume I'm calling myself perfect when I point out flaws in others.