My boyfriend wants to see me with other men

Hey.. new here.

I have kind of a problem.
My boyfriend told me he gets horny from thinking of other men seeing me naked and them getting horny from me.
And he told me he would like to do it somehow (most likely online).

I told him I don't like that, and don't wanna do it, and would feel cheap and bad about it. But I know it's still his fantasy even though he says he doesnt want that anymore.

What can I do? \:

 

Nobody Knows, And Nobody Cares...:coffee:



Cheers Glen.

 

Do what is best for you. If he cannot understand that, then he is not right for you. A common misconception is that relationships are about compromise.

 

If you don't wnat to do it then don't do it.

 

Don't do anything you do not feel comfortable doing! Realize this though his fantasy is not that uncommon. The fact that he told you about it should not be looked at as a bad thing. Having open communication with your partner and being able to tell them all your fantasy's is healthy. Not saying you should do everything they want, but accepting them will only make things better. I am guessing the reason he says he doesn't want to anymore is, because you got upset with him and made him feel like he was a bad person for having this fantasy. All that is going to do is make him think twice about telling you things. There is no harm in fantasy even if that is all it will ever be.

 

Don't.

 

Don't do it online. If you regret it - the internet has a tendency not to.

 

^agreed

 

Online is a bad idea because you don't know if the other person is recording it.

I really don't see why this should be your problem. The fantasy is his, not yours.

If he's pressuring you, or won't leave you alone about it; dump him, he's selfish and manipulating.
If he isn't, stop pressuring yourself, and stand your ground.

 

Even though the Internet is vast, it's also permanent. I wouldn't do it.

 

Fine, I will help you and your boyfriend out. Where and when shall we meet?

 

Even if you put a photo of yourself on here but with a rear view or partly clothed & no face visible? That would be my suggestion. Safe & no one sees who you are. I dare you to!

 

It's fine for him to voice his fantasy to you - in fact, I would even say that was a good thing for him to be open in that way, but if you're not comfortable with it, then he should accept it at that. You are not his property to do with as he pleases.

 

Maybe he would be happy with a little public flashing.
You need to be aware though that once you open that door it may be hard to close.

 

Its Pandoras Box

If he takes you down the garden path of playing with other guys then its not so simple to come back should he decide he don't like it.
If your not comftable with it don't do it simple, you always got to look after No.1 Yourself.

Dont do it just for him, if and when you split up you will only feel worse about it..

 

It is a fantasy with my BF and for me it will remain his fantasy, unless he gets another GF

 

Do not do anything you do not want to.
If he doesnt understand that you arent comfortable with it, then maybe he is not the person for you :/

 

Here's an interesting compromise you videotape yourselves having sex with him holding the camera so that he can't see his face. You talk to the camera like he is watching the video of you being fucked saying things like "You love watching me suck his cock, don't you" or "His cock is so huge isn't it."

Later you can watch the video either together or him alone and pretend he is watching you fuck someone else.

C/S,
Rev J

 

Online is okay if you really get to know someone first. In your case though don't do it. I can understand your boyfriend's point of view. It is extremely sexy watching my wife and another man but it is mutual for both of us.

Whenever one person is against it and feels strongly the fantasy has to stay as a fantasy. You will resent being pressured into a situation you didn't want and it will destroy your relationship.

 

It is not a unique wish and I have come across men who are happy to watch other men pleasure their girlfriend. Though if you are not happy, don't do it.

 

I would screenshot girls I knew for years when I was a teen. I trusted them, they trusted me; but I didn't feel like I was doing anything wrong. 'Just preserving the memory'. I would only not screenshot them if they specifically asked me not to, or I was so into our fun that I didn't bother.

And that was before video capture got big and easy to do.

FYI