My boyfriend just split with me because of tarot cards

My boyfriend broke up with me because of a tarot reading, i bought him them for xmas and he said he got the tower in the reading and must reak up with me, because of it i'm so heart broken and we were getting on great.

My friend told me to get the truth with tarots you have to use candles, because if thats the case my boyfriend ex whatever doesnt have candles

what should i do

 

lol

this is so fucked

 

You should date smarter people.

 

Definitely agree with this one

 

give music next time maybe the Bee Gees

 

Dreamgirl. ... give up on this whole tarot thing. If you believe your friend who says candles will give a true reading ...then i guess you'll believe anything yes?
You and your boyfriend (ex) and your friend are all far too superstitious to gain any insight from tarot. It seems your boyfriend has split with you because of some paranoia about this 'tower' card. It's ridiculous really... your relationship has ended (for the time being at least) because of some stupid pack of cards and your friends advise about candles is just plain stupid too.

If a belief in tarot is causing pain and problems for you then STOP IT. You have a heart and mind ... use them instead like you should.
Tell you boyfriend (ex) IN WRITING that you feel you both get on great, that you think it's just not worth breaking up with you over a stupid tarot card and to listen to HIS heart and mind instead. Tell him this whole situation is insane ... that you wish you'd never given him the cards, that you wish you'd never bought them or seen them or believed they could ever tell you anything concrete and real ... and that you just want to get to being real together ... without the hocus pocus.

Well, ... you did ask eh? That's what i'd do.

 

Well dreamgirl, I usually agree with liquidlight on most things, but I'm going to differ on this one.

If all it takes is a card in a Tarot reading to lose your boyfriend, then I say he isn't worth bending over backwards to keep. Sure, maybe you were getting along great before this, but now you've found out a heck of a lot more about him because of this incident, haven't you? If there was really something there between you, it would take a helluva lot more than a Tarot card to break you up.

I say bite the bullet, get past this momentary pain, continue opening your mind and pursuing your desires and goals, and leave this guy in your dust.

Love to you and God's blessings.

 

Yeah, once you get the tower with candles there is no turning back. Cosmopolitan magazine has better suggestions for Christmas gifts, if you want to check it next time.

Sorry for you loss.

 

I don't believe that tarot cards have any kind of predictive power, but the superstition isn't even the issue. If he were a better boyfriend, he would get the card, see it as a problem, and try to figure out how to fix it. After all, as upsetting as the Tower card may be, the trouble it tells of is supposed to be a change for the better. By most interpretations, this card is about getting to the truth of things. As it is, it sounds like he was just worried about himself.

 

haa wow!

well, it wasn't meant to be..

 

What did the rest of the cards say? And I doubt that the card read directly and without other possible interpretation 'break up with your girlfriend'. I think he may have been looking for an excuse, and was perhaps even mocking you with the use of your gift. But that's just one... interrpretation.

 

lol wow

if he would do something like this then it is most likely best that you arent with him

sorry to hear this :/

 

Well, i wouldn't be so quick to ditch him, people have issues that need to be worked through so i'm all for trying rather than giving up at the first hurdle. Paranoia/mistrust can easily arise in young relationships.

 

The damn tower caused me alot of troubles too.

 

If it causes you troubles, just try a deck without it! There are so many.

Which makes me wonder, if you had given him one without the tower, would he still have broken up with you? Would this other deck still predict it somehow, or would he just find another excuse?

 

Sorry for your unhappiness.

I once had a girl breakup with me because we saw the movie "The Way We Were" [way back in the stoned age]. It was a crash and burn love story, with an unhappy ending where the two main characters go their separate, bitter sweet, ways in the end.

As we left the theater, she got all emotional, and said the same would eventually happen to us, so we should end it right then and there -- and we had been together for 3 years!

Which just tells me, she already had these thoughts, and doubts, in her head. And, the movie just pushed her buttons about it.

I'd have to say the same about your ex and The Tower card.
Any one who runs out on some one they "say" they are in love with, and their reason is as trivial as a single tarot card, movie, etc. Is just using the outside stimulus, whatever it is, as an excuse to justify, and do, what's already in their heart and mind.

"I have to break up with you because of a movie, or tarot card" -- come on!
Any one who'd do that, is as trivial as their excuse, and, isn't worth a single thought more.

Time to move on with a lesson learned.

 

Thank you, mojave.
That was such a neat story and answer, I just had to quote it again. Seriously, I don't really care for jackasses, be it men or women that use a particular, specific thing - be it a card or movie as an excuse or reason for actions that have long lasting results. So, why yeah -
Forget this dude. You are Better Off Without Him. Period.

 

By this reasoning, anything at all could be taken as the message, and it guarantees a hit even if the cards aren't doing anything. I could ask the pen here on my desk a question, and with that kind of criteria for an answer I would certainly get one.

I don't mean to argue about the efficacy of Tarot cards because that's another topic, but positions like yours are the same ones used to explain away the lack of any result from all kinds of magic and from prayer or what have you, and it just sets you up to get false positives.

That is called a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's like predicting that I'm about to get up and walk across the room and then doing it to prove myself right.

Magic or no, you've hit the bottom line right on the nose.

 

sometimes you just need a trigger outside of yourself to help you look at things you don't want to see. my guess is that's what happened here. i watched the break up with a girlfriend at the time and it triggered something in me that I already knew, that we would break up, or that we wouldn't last. a month and a half later we split. it's the nature of relationships to end in death or by choice. besides there's a lot lot lot of cosmic change and massive shifts to the collective consciousness.

the positive is that whatever you want can turn up just as fast. sucks the way it happened though. give him a tarot for dummies book or something.

 

Option 1: Let him go
Option 2: Tell him you got another Tarot reading with the Lover's card which means you'll be getting back together.