My boyfriend is in jail..

You'll see.

 

And you're a Pollyanna.
Yay, I can do it too!

 

i finally got some information from his dad.
he didnt even do anything_he was just guilty by association.
his friends were car hopping && he sat at the corner of the street;
but when the cops came , his friends said he was w. them.
but he's getting let out soon_he just got extended probation.
&& when he said it was my job to keep him_he meant he will stay w. me as long as i dont do nothing stupid; he's not leaving me unless i cheat or do drugs or something. he didnt mean it in a bad wayy.

 

he never said i HAD to wait for him.
i didnt even talk to him when he left, i found out 8th period in school from his dad. we werent having any trouble. i WANT to wait for him though. ive never felt this strong for anyone in my lifee; it what i need to do. && him being in jail_guilty by association. he didnt do nothing. his friends are assholes though.

 

Now we know a little bit more, it really is up to you. If you feel you can do it, good luck and God bless. I'm rooting for you, but don't let it wreck you, 'kay? It's going to be hard as fuck, and you'll go through all sorts of different stages. Some can weather it and some can't. I don't begrudge anyone who can't. Not after what I've been through.

 

I'm not sure about the slang, is "carhopping" using hydrolics to make a car go up and down or is it a style of selling drugs.
If the former, I don't see where "2 years" comes from.

If the latter, would it be wise to tie yourself (and your kids) to this kind of guy and his record?

(in responce to "It wasn't him, it was his friends". Does this tell you something about his choices for friends? Don't you want the father of your kids to choose friends who don't get him arrested?)

(Also, the possibility mentioned in the OP, that you would wait 2 years for this guy, suggestes to me that a long term relationship, possibly involving kids was what you are lookig for in this guy.)

He's a loser (probation for doing nothing = loser), he's dumb (probation for doing nothing = dumb), you can do much better.

 

Wow,,, Dude why so agro??? all he/she said was she could do better. Calm Down.

 

If he can't stay away from the losers, completely, he is a loser himself.

 

The OP is still in the part of the relationship where she is making choices about her future with him.
I think that there are better options for her and her future than a felon (albeit on probation ). (The possibility of a 2 yr. sentence suggests a felony.)

No, it ain't the romantic approach to her problem.

 

I
HATE
this argument.
Hate it hate it hate it.
You can be friends with someone and not completely agree with all of their principals. Just because the law says so, doesn't mean it's right. I have some loser friends that do shit that irk me. Once they picked us up to go to a movie and stopped to sell weed on the way. We were pissed, and let them know it, but we didn't disown them. If you would, that's your business. I wouldn't, though, because that is not ALL that they are. You don't just stop associating with people because they are into shit. If anything, they need your support (not your life-force, just a little support).
Obviously this guy was in the wrong place at the wrong time. Or not. I wasn't there, but from what it sounds like, he didn't deserve this just because he needs to "get new friends" or whatever you're suggesting. True, they shouldn't have involved him, and true he should have bailed before it got to that point, but hell, everyone makes mistakes...
Whether or not she stays should be entirely up to her weighing the situation, not judging him because his friends are dumbasses. If that was the way things worked, no one would have a gf, because everyone has at least one loser-ass friend who ain't quite right, but you love them anyway for reasons that are entirely personal.

 

He was standing at the corner and I am quite sure car hoppin in this context is stealing cars. Sounds like a look out to me every one in jail is "innocent" hun

 

Stop making excuses and leave his sorry ass.

You can't face the truth. You can hate what others say all you want, but that doesn't change the fact that he is a loser.