I never saw myself in this position. He's in afghanistan right now and I got drunk at the bar last night and brought someone home with me. I didn't have sex with him, but I really feel like a terrible person. I slept with another man and this morning after the guy left, I got flowers from my boyfriend. I don't even know if I'm making much sense, but I have to get this off my chest. I've never cheated on anyone that I've ever been with and I don't know what to do with myself. As much as I love him, I feel so alone. And as nice as it was to have someone there at the time, I feel disgusted that I did this.
He just worries so much that something like this was gonna happen. We fought about it before and part of me really thinks that if he had more faith in me, I could have had more faith in myself. Should I tell him, or would it be best to just accept that it happened and move on. Even more so, the guy that I was with doesn't know about him and wants to see me again. I can't do it. Part of me wants the comfort of having someone here, but I really can't do it.
get a puppy or a cat some thing to show affection to and receive it will help keep u mind off things if i was him, i would be worried too too many things could happen and he would never know in Phily a veteran came home to find his wife left him and sold all his possession and so on so i say he does have the right to have fears and what not i wouldnt tell him couse that can totally fuck with his mind as long as there was no sex anything its ok i guess. lol buy a toy when u need it or something
Id say tell him normally, but its different cause he is not there with you. When he gets back, think about talking to him about it, dont break his heart while hes out fighting for our country.
Thats pretty low though, I mean the men that leave there girlfriends and wives to go and fight in a war diserve more then that. They trust the fact that while they are out fighting you will be trust worthy. Personally I'd tell him because I'd feel like shit living with that while I was with him. I think honesty is what makes good relationships. If you can't give that to him 100% then you need to tell him so he can find someone who can. These guys need someone to fight for when they are over there, someone who loves them dearly.
I've fought harder than you could really imagine. He broke up with me once since he left, just because he doesn't trust me (and at the time, I would have never even dreamed of doing anything) And he cheated on me right before he left. We've been through a lot together and I want it to work so badly, but I'm doubting that things are gonna work more and more every day. Part of me thinks that the only reason he's with me is because he wants someone to come home to. In 3 and a half months I've only heard his voice twice. It's a lot harder to deal with than most people can imagine.
depend on what branch u are Navy/airforce are more relaxed and are able to have communtication with family. now the army and marines have stricter polices about that and are able to talk to family a lot less it keeps them less human or something was the reason a friend of my father said (idk could be that some general's wife didnt blow him and he was pissed)
