My boyfriend can't take the dick

Hi everyone,

I am seeking help

My boyfriend and I are both vers. He prefer to top most of the time and I prefer to bottom most of the time.

My problem is when he bottoms he can't take the dick, it's not that im too large. He bought an anal vibrator years ago, in the end he stopped using it. The vibrator is not that big.

We tried to go slowly or even him go a day with a butt plug to stretch his anus.

Do you guys have any solution to that?

P.S. : We always use water based lube for penetrations

 

Have you tried silicone based lube? They seem slicker to me.

 

I see two possible factors. One is your boyfriend's anatomy might not be compatible. I've heard of cases where guys might not be set up physically or "wired" to enjoy getting anal.
The other way I think is worth looking at this is psychologically. You have to be pretty relaxed in order to let this happen. Maybe there's something on your boyfriend's mind? Maybe some latent internalized homophobia?
All possibilities are worth considering, especially when something potentially really fun is at stake! But I guess you also have to accept that sometimes things are just not meant to be.

 

If he wants it it’ll fit. Get a bottle of lotion finger and slather it in , take your time . Work him over for awhile , add fingers . Really once the heads in and you’re well lubed, he’s fuckin’

 

I'll take it

 

You bad boy...................lol

 

Going slow and using lots of lube seems to be the general rule...except for one more thing...

*RELAX*

A bottom who is nervous, unsure, apprehensive, etc...is going to find it hard to relax enough so his ass will willingly open up and accept a cock.
In my opinion, its good advice to get him to lay still while the top takes his time. Yes...rim him, use lube and gently rub his hole and slowly work in a finger tip, then a finger.
Another idea...If he wants it...let him get on top and see if he can slowly lower himself down at his pace. Let him ease the cock into his own ass...then he can relax because he's not fighting it.

 

I'm not sure I have not found any guys to play with. I have done Anal on my wife. She took some warming up to the idea, takes some to warm her up.
I love my to take it in the ass. I think it needs to be a smaller man but I really think being open to being fucked might be the key.
You have to want it to be relaxed, I've been rimmed,barely just a little by a female, fingered, and pegged with a smaller strap on and the only decent dildo I've taken I had to test myself. It's awkward to relax and feed something in yourself.
If I had a friend to take me I would try relax.
I would hope to get rimmed and fingered, I enjoy fingering an ass.
Lube me me finger and I think I could take an average cock, I hope too.
Should you buy a dildo together, just something an inch across, work some lube into him and see if you can work on him with that smallish dildo while he practices relaxing, see if he can enjoy taking it and is relaxed with you playing with his ass. Maybe see if there is a small to larger pegging kit. Sure you don't want to do him with a strap on but see if he can open to the idea of you fucking him. Start small
Can you get a numbing cream?
Lastly wshbhim clean, pick him , rim him, insert your tongue deeply. It's not so bad if he is clean.
The ass is smooth and soft if he is open to be licked out and relaxs height learn to relax.

Lead into it all slowly to see if he really wants the ass play, I think you need to be open to it to enjoy it.

I think I am ready for it and I have put a lot of thought into it.

 

Not sure exactly what his issue is, but it could be emotional. If he prefers to top most of the time, many bottoming just isn't his thing.

 

How would you know if that works?

 

Have you tried a butt plug? It is meant to be used for extended times to train your rectum to be more pliant and stretch more easily. They come in different sizes and are designed so your anus can relax while you are using the plug, and the plug has a wide base so kit cannot slip all the way inside you. Before I was penetrated by a boyfriend for the first time, I used a plug to train my body and it worked. I was able to relax more when my boyfriend's penis began to ease into me and I encountered no pain at all during lovemaking. Of course, my boyfriend's smaller cock size helped.

Now I find that no matter how long I go without having a lover, when I find a man or a trans woman interested in me, I still have no difficulties with being penetrated. For me it has been over 3 years since I've had sex, the next time I find someone willing it should be interesting to find out if I am still going to have no difficulties with penetration.

 

I like guys with small cocks!

 

I'm a size queen, the bigger the better for me, especially girth wise!!!

 

We had that issue. My bf spends a lot of time warming me up. I usually lay on my stomach on his lap as he uses his fingers and lube, often some toys as well. It may take a half an hour or sometimes even longer than that. I think it's more like foreplay than just warm up routine. I find it very tender and effective way to get ready. My bf is quite a large so this preparation is a must for us.

 

I think that’s wonderful and sweet your bf is so patient. I hope to find a great man like that. Warm up combined with foreplay is awesome.

If you don’t mind sharing how large is he?

Best wishes to both of you!

 

I have never measured, but he is large. And I am not very experienced, so there's a tricky combination.
It's getting better every day but the warming up takes still time. I don't mind really .

 

Have you managed to make this work yet. I'm pretty sure most people could relax and take it if they are wanting it.

 

"The Penis Book" by Aaron Spitz, MD is an excellent resource.