My best friend ignores me

Hi, all of you!

I am a sensitive guy, living in Stockholm. I joined here because I want to talk about something that is too embarrassing to talk about with any of my friends:

I am so sad! The Christmas was past and I hadn´t hear anything from my best friend for weeks. Not a sms, not an e-mail and not a message at Facebook. She didn´t even call me to thank for the Christmas gift I sent to her, but she has taken her time to both write and call others. I know that because they told me. It was so embarrassing.

The following nights I cried rivers of tears when I realized that my beloved little friend ignores me again, after all I have done for her. This is not the first time she act like this. I am used to be the last thing in her priorities, but I thought she would pay attention to me at least at Christmas, but I was wrong about that. I felt so unfairly treated and pretty much tossed aside. But still, she is my best friend and I love her more than anything on earth.

On Friday, after all this waiting in vain, I couldn´t stand it any longer. Therefore I sent 3000 SEK to her bank account as a birthday gift in advance. I thought it might help, and the day before yesterday she finally called. I became so incredibly happy. It was so wonderful to hear her voice that it was worth every penny. But the happiness was short-lived. I know she has invited a lot of friends to her birthday party as she is going to have tonight. I hoped that she would invite me too, but she didn´t. Instead, she asked me to babysit tonight. Can you imagine how embarrassing it feels? She wants me to babysit on New Years Eve, so she can partying and make out with some guy. It feels as if my heart will be torn to pieces, but credulous as I am, I accepted.


I am so ashamed that I always let her take advantage of me this way. It seems as she just thinks of me as some kind of servant, and that made me flooded with love emotions. I told her how much I miss her and how much I want to spend some time together with her. I even invited her for dinner tomorrow evening, when she will come and pick up her daughter, and she accepted the invitation. Now afterwards I wonder if it was a good idea. I don´t know.

Thanks for reading. It feels a bit better when I have written about it.
If you have any advices to give me I will be grateful.

 

the problem lies with YOU and not her...

you are obsessed with a girl that knows it and is using you...she does not care about your feelings and is only pretending to be your friend

you are not being like a man

there is no hope...she wont be making out with another man...she is going to fuck another man bevause loser is at home babysitting

you are even paying her to go fuck another dude


get some balls or live this life forever

 

Sounds like shes using you, sorry. Sounds like she knows that you will always be there to rely on and so uses you only for that. Confront her man, tell her you dont like being pushed around and ignored, if she wants a true friendship then she will stop. You dont have to put up with this, as much as you might love her..

 

I have to agree that she is using you.

 

please, do babysit The Kid an please have a good time taking good care of the child. Do not let negativity flow into your relationship with this infant.

if you already said yes, you committed to the infant, not to the girl.

Keep your head positive for the infant.

tis a mark of trust that the mother allows you to babysit...embrace that trust....and be happy.

 

Yes, she knows what kind of feelings I have for her. Unfortunately there is no doubt that her feelings are much less deeper than mine, and we have been talking about that. I have been in love with her for five years and I dream about her every night. My greatest wish is that we will be together but she don´t have any feelings at all for me. She says she could never imagine that we would be a loving couple, but she says that she likes me, at least a little bit, and I have to be satisfied with that.

Yes, she might even do that too. It was exactly what happened last time I was babysitting. Then she was having sex with another man. It didn´t happen once, it happened eleven times and it was so incredibly embarrassing.

 

I have confronted her once, and that resulted in a quarrel between us, and she threatened to never see me anymore. It all ended up with me crying and begged her not to abandon me, and I assured her that I will always be there for her whatever she might do to me.

 

Girl drop that zero and get yourself a hero !!!!

 

Yes, I will babysit. She will soon be here to leave her kid now, and I will take good care of it.

 

It is so hard to love someone and them not love you back. I hope you find hapiness soon.

 

Ew u shouldn't u need to cut her off is she paying u for this u are not a daycare service. It is too late now for this but do not let her use u again. This is not your child it's hers and she will never let u get as close as u want to it because the moment she sees how much u love it she will use it to get what she wants out of u. Move on!!!

 

She's not a best friend. That is in your head. She's not a friend, she is making that clear. You need to look at it for what it is. My advice is that you start making more friends.

 

Yes, it is indeed! Thank You!

 

you need to never see her again. after she picks up her kid, obviously.

 

You have to let this go! While you're weeping and wailing she's out having a good time. I know it's hard man but grow a pair and get the fuck as far away from this situation as possible. It sounds to me like it's making you unwell! You've wasted the last 5 years of your life on this person, it's not going anywhere. For your sanity sake if nothing else you have to give it up! Sorry!

 

So, you're saying you didn't learn from the past. 11 times you got a chance to learn your lesson! Did you give her money then too?

 

If she saw you cry, no wonder she doesn't want to be with you

 

This has to all be a joke.

 

dude..you have no confidence..your social skills as they pertain to women are completely messed up...

what do you think will happen if you cut this **** out of your life?

why do you think you need her...?

you are not behaving sanely...

you are headed into a shitload of pain

maybe a doctor can help you?

 

By saying that you are basically giving her permission to continue fucking you over. She was willing to walk away and never speak to you again...

If I were you, I would babysit tonight and never again. You said its happened 11 times, you babysitting her kid whilst she goes out and sleeps with other men.. that isn't going to change, sorry