My "best friend" hit on my boyfriend!

What the fuck is that? I'm so pissed off right now! He ignored her, but she knows damn well that I really care about this guy. She has a boyfriend whom she has been with for the past three years. He and I haven't been together that long, but I have been friends with this girl for the past four years. I was too mad to even say anything to her so he and I just left the party. I honestly don't know what to do. I'm really not the type of person to be jealous and I know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me, but it really breaks my heart that someone I have trusted so much would betray me like that. This has been a really shitty night!

 

what exactly happened? did she actually proposition him or was it a series of "looks" or something?

.....was she drinking? i know it's not a good excuse, but it's something of an explanation.

sorry to hear it

 

I wouldn't take it too seriously. Ask her what she meant by it and tell her that it offended you.

 

OOO i had something like that happen to me once...the guy im currently going out w/ used to go out with one of my best friends and everything..ive known her since i was 5...but anyways they broke up like 1-2 years ago and durin the summer she drove all the way to see him and tell him that she still had feelins for him..it pissed me off alot and i said something to her and told her never to do it again..so i know how it feels to have a best friend do something like that...just talk to her about it and tell her that it really made you mad and all that stuff and tell her not to do it again...if she does that she isnt really a good friend so dont try and have her hang out w/ u and ur boyfriend..stuff could get worse...just talk to her...

 

can cheese, you broke up with him 2 years ago, you don't own him, get over yourself.
morning glory, you're gonna need to be a lil more specific. what actually transpired?

 

We were pretty high when it happened so maybe it wasn't really as bad as it seemed, but it still isn't right. She was trying to get him to sit with her and she like, "Bob come sit with me, I don't want to sit by myself (even though there were like 10 other people there). You know you want to, I won't bite...hard". I know it may not seem like that big of a deal, but she just throws herself at guys. She has done that to other people before, but I thought that I could actually trust her. I've cooled off in the last couple hours and I'm just gonna talk to her about it tomorrow. I'm not really even mad anymore... I'm just confused and I want to know what she was doing.

 

ohhhhh I had a friend like this-every boyfriend I had she would go after. She did it in high school and up untill a year ago when we stopped being friends. She would wear really slutty clothes around whoever I was with and one night when we were drinking she attempted to sit on my ex boyfirends lap...he flat out shot her down and told her she needed to find someone who wasn't attached. I went out with her brother a few times and she became really jealous. She is a commercial actress and is really pretty but was soo insecure. Every female friend I have had flirts with who I am with and I'm the least ealous person there is but it really makes me lose respect for women when they do this.

 

hey i thought real friends share EVERYTHING

 

nope girls don't follow the bros before hoes policy

 

most people are horny bastards... but would it be bad to share your boyfriend?

its just our culture's view of how realationships are supposed to be that makes us think there is something wrong with sharing our lovers.

she is your best friend anyways...

 

there's no way i'd "share" my boyfriend with any of my friends... no.

 

what about "trade" for a night?

come on people, we only live once.

 

no.. when you're in love, it's love, not a game revolved around sex.

 

right.
different strokes, for different folks.

 

lol

 

If she was truly trying to hit on your boyfriend, I'd be really ticked and ask her what the hell her problem was. True best friends don't do things like that to one another. But, maybe she didn't mean it in a "intimate" way. Maybe she was just being friendly? Being under the influence can make things seem more extreme, so perhaps you were feeling more threatened due to the your state of mind at the time?

Much peace.

 

That totally sucks... some girls (and guys - don't deny it) are so insecure. The bright side is, your boyfriend was tested and blew her off... so you know he's sincere, even if maybe she's not. Have you talked to her about it yet??

 

I talked to her just a little while ago and she said that she didn't mean it like that. She said that she was just joking around, but I really don't believe her. I'm sick of the bull shit!

 

most of the time when obvious come ons are made like that its just a joke. i hit on my best friends girl friends all the time...not because im interested, but because its funny to piss your friends off.

 

You can either go up to her boyfriend, sit on his lap, and lick him on the neck or you can just tell her how you feel. (I love choices don't you?) What she did was wrong and the only reason I can give for that behavior is that she's not happy with her life. (You know what they say about misery loves company.) The fact that your boyfriend ignored her probally made her feel 10 times worse. If you really want revenge, act like it wasn't even important and even a little bit pathetic. (Give her the...I sure pity you look.) Smile and walk away with your boyfriend.