This subject is often discussed, but rarely defined. I see MM as any activity between two or more people which does not include actual cock-in-pussy fucking, but which usually results in one or more of them cumming! If I finger-fuck a woman while kissing her, it is MM! If I jack-off while eating a woman's pussy, it is MM! If another man and I sit naked and jack-off while talking about fucking each others' wives, that is MM! If another man and I suck my wife's tits while finger-fucking her or stroking each other, that is MM! Again, MM is any activity short of actual fucking which brings pleasure to someone!
I have only encountered 2 definitions of Mutual Masturbation. The first is where each partner masturbates the other at the same time. The second is where each partner masturbates in the other's presence, at the same time, but with no physical contact being made with the other. Either definition can apply to Gay or Straight Mutual Masturbation, as well as to One-On-One or Group Masturbation. I do not consider the instance where only one partner is being masturbated can be considered as being 'Mutual'.
Pineman, excellent point! I remember a MM session with a lady in which we were both naked and sitting at opposite ends of the bed, facing each other. She finger-fucked herself and I jacked-off while trying to time our orgasms to coincide. It was just about as erotic as actual fucking. But many men would be too inhibited to just jack-off while a woman watched. For some reason most men consider it a practice too private to ever be "shown" even to the women they fuck on a regular basis.
Young Love....First GF, that's all we would do, watch each other masturbate, every once in awhile, she'd let me lick her fingers off. I've jacked off in front of every GF since.
MM can be a lot of fun. Years ago a female friend and I used to engage in it fairly regularly, first only touching ourselves, then later one touching the other while she brought herself off, and then actually giving each other orgasms directly. There was no kissing, hugging or other intimacy, and it didn't feel like it was a lesbian thing to do. We stopped when we got too old for it to feel vaguely acceptable any more, heh.
Since I have a similar experience, I am wondering, at what age did it stop feeling 'vaguely acceptable'. Oh, and by the way, this kind of sexual exploration is common, in Psychology it is considered 'normal' even though it conflicts with societal 'norms'.
I enjoy MM...I enjoy watching a partner get off,while I get off. My ideas of MM involve us facing eachother and watching eachother or doing it together.
Well, we did it most around age 14-16, I suppose, and then much less towards 17 and 18. She got a boyfriend, which cut down a lot of it really quickly (but we still did it sometimes), but then it started seeming a bit odd. FWIW, I successfully set up a similar arrangement between myself and a female housemate some years later. The format was quite different this time, though, but once again it wasn't really "sex" as such.
I believe this used to be referred to as "2nd base", sort of advanced making out. Masturbating each other while on a date - ussually fully dressed in some semi public place, with our hands inside each other's clothes - was a teen rite of passage and probably still is. Always enjoyed it as an adult as well.
