I'm having some terrible issues with my mother, and I'm definately in need of some advice, or at least somewhere to vent. Some things that are important to this story: 1. I am the only child of a single mother. 2. My mother has a terrible memory, and never remembers what I tell her. 3. My aunt came up during all this, and she's being all but a positive force during all of this. So I got done with my freshman year of college in the middle of May, and for a week or so I took a much-needed break. I was still waking up at noon or 1 PM, and I was just relaxing and tutoring some high school kids three or four times a week. My mother works as a teacher, so she was at work until about a week ago. I put in an application for a 5-star restaurant, and my neighbor was going to hook me up with a nice job there. Long story short, didn't happen. So I filled out 4 or 5 applications, submitted all of them, got interviewed but was denied the position at a local bank because of scheduling conflicts. So I got on the phone with her two days ago, and she started yelling at me for not handing in an application when she wanted me to. She wanted me to go to a restaurant to hand in an application at 2:30, and I had a job interview an hour away at a location I didn't know in the opposite direction at 3:45. I took the interview more seriously, so I left my home at 2:15 and headed south to the bank headquarters/office building. I was denied the job because of scheduling conflicts, but was told to call next March and I was all but guaranteed a job. She didn't take what could have been some decent news so well. She started hounding me for the missed application opportunity and telling me I wasn't trying enough. Just having been rejected from a job for reasons I detested, I was in a bad mood at the time. We started a little fight on the phone, and I asked her to back off for a little while, because I was starting to get mad and I was at the "end of my rope". I believe I also said "this is driving me insane". Now, apparently that combination means "I'm going to kill myself". My family has a history of mental illness, to which I succumbed once or twice, and my mother went into a panic. Now, several of my relatives are calling me, making sure I'm not going to kill myself. She hasn't spoken to me since, nor has she attempted to, as she is in Canada with my aunt for a last-second vacation. The second that she gets home, I know I'm going to be subject to constant surveillance, and the job harassment won't stop. I can't go couch-surfing to my friends, because I cut most of them loose after a hairy situation at the end of college. It's not like I enjoy being unemployed, I have no cashflow and I'm bored most of the day. A good job would be a blessing right now, but flipping burger and saying "would you like fries with that" would do nothing to help me. I've had shitty jobs before, and I'd hate to go back. Please help. Anything will do. What do you do in a fight that you can't win and from which you can't surrender?
sounds pretty similar to what my situatio nwas like, except for when i did actually say id been thinking about suicide in the winter around finals, her reaction was to be mad because id wasted her time/money by us living near school (property near the univresity ocsts more) honestly the only way to relaly help alleviate the situation is to get a job. talking stuff out with her can help a little, bu tnothing will be fixed til you do actually have a job. even a gig at a movie store, or some retail, or a coffee shop. there are plenty that arent inherently crappy, it just means you have to look a little harder than the nearest McDevils. i ended up gettin ghired at a movie rental store lats week and it has helped soo much even if i just seem to be working part time at the moment
LoL. and get your hands on maybe a tape recorder, or one of those other devices for your Mom. Good Luck.
I think I can relate. My situation isn't as bad but it does include a mother that doesn't seem to understand. I try to tell her things that are bothering me and she loses the point. I want to be free, I'm 19 and even tho it might not be the exact age to be too free, I don't think I should be treated like a child. I only go out with my boyfriend and he protects me. Sorry if I changed the subject but I kinda just wanna go out with no problem and be back with not problem. Any advice?
