People are really nosy, judgmental, bossy, obnoxious, annoying, etc. I can't live with myself for not being aggressive and completely ripping them a new one. I don't talk to most people. But you have no control over the future. Who knows, I might end up in prison and get bitched at out of boredom. In college, girls who called themselves my friend picked on me. They were jealous because I had the perfect body for a black girl and got all the attention. Also, I have always seemed different and like a free spirit. I'm humble, so I don't go around calling myself a free spirit. But that's just how I come across. How do I forgive myself and others?
Maybe you should forgive yourself and not give a shit what other people think. I mean that in the best possible way.
Yughh there's nothing less attractive than a girl who says "I have the perfect body and all my friends are jealous". It's a different sort of baggage right there, baggage I cannot lay my hands near. So yeah people suck and shit but as long as the OP keeps looking at herself as that perfect object, I believe you kinda suck yourself. -shrug-
I'm glad I don't have a perfect body, but I generally find if I'm happy with myself others are happy around me.
Well, first off, you've got to identify what it is that needs forgiveness; and second, you've gotta be willing to forgive. So far, I am not persuaded you meet either criterion.
People suck because they are cruel and judgemental. I don't mind the controlling bossy attitudes as much as the general maliciousness.
I don't think they were jealous of you that way....really...There are lots of pretty girls on college campuses that get along just fine. Did you annoy them with comments like the one you just made? LOL Sorry, just asking....
The more people the better. Not everyone is going to have inspirations that change the world every minute of every day, but with enough people you can pretty much know that at any given moment someone has a great idea.
Well...one thing that happens is that people feed off of your energy. If you feel uncomfortable and like they are jealous of you...they will feel that energy and feel uncomfortable around you. I really don't think most people sit around judging people by their bodies all the time. They might judge you based on that at first, but there's a good number of people who won't care or who will at least have the decency to realize they should stop judging eventually, once they see something more from you than an elitist attitude. And I say this as someone who was trained to think girls were jealous of me too. This is what the adult women told me in my life, and I will say that I am a free spirit, but my idea was that no one else was like that and that also made people feel funny around me, call me stuck up and talk behind my back. Once people got to know me though, most of them stopped judging me and I stopped judging them. The thing is you are also judging these people by projecting these beliefs that they don't like you and that they are jealous of you. If they haven't come up to to tell you exactly that, you don't know that it's true. And you might be surprised at how many people who seem like complete sheep are free spirits who guard it when around people they don't trust completely. I really have the belief that people have more in common than differences and I find that it is really not difficult to get along with most people if you open yourself up. That means you have to challenge yourself to try to trust people and to find ways of connecting to people. We all have a story, but also share a lot in common. When I finally broke free of this idea that everyone was jealous of me, I found that the only person that was jealous of me was the one person I kept closest. One of my best friends. When I dropped her my relationships and friendships with people changed. The reason I felt people were judging me harshly was because I was hanging out with someone with a bad reputation and who was also spreading rumors and sabotaging my relationships with other people. The moral of the story...try to find ways to connect to as many people as you can and don't rely on anyone too much to control your social circle...especially if that circle centers around being most popular or elite.
