While your ideals may be perfectly laudible I would recommend caution, not everyone is as open minded these days, it only takes one person to get the wrong idea and you and your kids could be in for a world of trouble! 'why is that boy showering with his mother? why is that 12 year old girl sleeping with her father? Something has to be going on there, something sinister and probably sexually motivated', That sadly is what certain people will immediately think if they hear what you are saying, sadly it's modern times and people are too quick to jump to the wrong conclusions, potentially you could end up with social workers crawling all over you, it's the way they are. I've seen them hound a perfectly loving family just because of something someone said, yet at the same time they've ignored a family where the kids were not getting properly fed or cared for. I wish you all the best with your parenting style, but please be careful, perhaps one thing to do would be to sit down with your offspring and explain to them that your parenting style is not the same as everyone else's, at least that way they'll be ready if they start getting grief off other kids about it, kids can be really cruel at times.