Mistaken pedophilia

One of my friends was attacked by his ex's new boyfriend. Apparently his ex's little girl said that my friend touched her. My friend was like what the fuck? "I've never been around your kid unless you brought her to my place and then you were in the room." He hates kids which made me wonder why he was with his now ex in the first place.

 

How old is the little girl?

 

three and she never said anything until the new boyfriend came into the picture.

 

There was a programme on the TV this week by this Child Safety campaigner.
She said that its really hard to get young people to work with kids these days.

Her argument was that people are worried they're gonna be accused of paedophilia , for even speaking to kids.

 

people are too paranoid about pedo's.

and I'll be honest, there are few things that annoy me more than paranoid parents. probably because you can't criticize those earthily militant mother hens.

 

On this programme these young kids pretended to be lost in a shopping centre.
But over 1000 people passed em by without seeing if they needed help.

When asked , they all said "well someone might think I'm a paedephile".

-therefore putting the kid at risk of a *real* nonce..

 

I hate it when you're at work or out in public and kids come up and talk to you and you start getting into this awesome conversation about the toy they just got or about baby talk and then their embittered young mother comes and drags them off, giving you a nasty look. No wonder the youth of today are filled with hatred and mistrust.

 

luckily i dislike children, so it would be tricky for me to be falsely accused of doing anything inappropriate with one. still wouldn't surprise me that much though.

i'm curious about the specific details of the incident in the OP. did the child specifically say she was touched inappropriately? did she come up with it on her own or did the new guy lead her? do you believe him that your friend is innocent or do you have trouble trusting the guy?

 

dude shoulda stuck to staying at home watching disney channel

 

Its hard to sort out.
On one hand , there were lots of perverts who never got justice.

But on the other hand , no one wants to run youth clubs nowadays.
It was only after that programme , I wondered whether it was because of all this paedephile stuff?

Its sad when 13 year olds can only hang around in a park drinking cider , cos no one wants to run a youth club for them : (

 

well, this little girl needs therapy to see why she says things like these. one of three things is going on here:
1. her mom is telling her to say these things to get back at him for whatever reason.
2. the new boyfriend is grooming either the mom and the kid or just the kid.
3. Your friend really did touch her.

this little girl, regardless of which of those three it is, needs intervention. Pedophiles are very sneaky. for those of you who say people are too paranoid dont know that sexual abuse happens a hell of alot more than you think. it happened to me, and to many many people. boys and girls. Id rather be a paranoid parent and give strange people nasty looks that have something life crippling in some instances happen to my child. Sexual abuse changes your outlook on life and fucks with your trust of people. your innocence is taken away far before you are ready to experience that loss. it is not a nice place to be.
I hope for that little girls sake this is cleared up.

 

^yeah its a fucked up world. i've known a lot of people whose lives were touched by one form of abuse or another, and its really, really terrible

i honestly think there are too many people in the world. not that thats a cause.

 

I think parents should be on their guard, but there really is no need for the arch-bitch mama bear glare.
kids should be supervised but when people think emotionally they become idiots.

 

You should never underestimate how sneaky /switched on kids can be.

I wanted to watch the football on late night TV when I was about 7 or 8
My parents refused , so I said
"well if I cant , I'll pretend you're sex fiends". : )

Unfortunately they replied
" well if u do , they'll put u in a children's home -which *does* have sex fiends" : (

Oh well : (

PS , I've never met a paedephile , or had therapy: )

 

they dont exactly wear ID tags

 

what I mean is , I never had one try and touch me up , when I was a kid.

But , the number convicted is maybe the tip of the iceberg.
ie alot are never convicted.

 

I don't think they are thinking emotionally. I think they literally are idiots. They have become conditioned to think that all strangers are potential pedophiles. I also think they fear soiling their child's innocent mind and prefer for this to occur in early teen-hood through the internet where they can access octopus porn, anarchist literature and conversation with pervs like us.

 

well, I do think their fears have some foundation in truth. I know loads of people, mostly girls, who were sexually abused.
but you're right, they mostly are idiots or they would know not to look at the world through a lens of fear.

 

I see what you mean. They look at the stranger at the mall and through their fear they see a pedophile when it perhaps is someone perfectly well intentioned.

Fucking sad. I really like kids. Its sad that they have to live in such an atmosphere of control.

 

i thank god i was an ugly child

this is some serious kind of messed up
i think the problem with todays society is the fact that the idiots seem to be procreating the most

anyone seen the movie idiocracy?
it's fucking scarily true to life

ang i really hope your friend can deal with this by not getting too fucked over by his ex
thats just fucked, i don't get how a 3 yr old should have these thoughts in her head
it's just wrong