People is a pretty broad topic. Im a people... So im posting this here, dunno if its the proper place but didnt find anywere else to put it. Life sucks right now though. Just got fired from a job I did a year worth of training on, and im still 17k in debt. I live in the states. I didnt need to get into that amount of debt for that training, but I fucked up in college and choose the wrong courses/paths and shit so I decided to switch to a community college and go thru a quick training program. Now I worked for about a year on the job at two different places and just got fired. Told I was incompetent for this job, didnt have the knowledge, skill, or assertiveness. I was in a management type position and yea, I was a bit too nice to the people lower on the food chain. I cant light a fire under someone's ass. Im passive agressive too, not that I procrastinate on purpose or anything, but if I get pissed off I say all kinds of agressive things and swear flip off in the general direction of the person. I figure, if its not staff thats pissing me off, their fair game and I can vent around other staff members as much as I want. Now im not real high up in the food chain where I work, but I was pulled off the job as soon as I came in yesterday and they hit me with all this. Gave me a termination note, explained why, told me "staff saw you swearing and flipping off that person.. that person didnt deserve that their wife just died and there going through alot"... OK fine, thats fair if they call me out on my passive agression. I knew what that person was going through, and if they treat me like shit im sorry in the heat of the moment im going to have some pretty aggressive feelings and resentment toward them. Im not going to make their life worse by being an asshole right there to their face. But shit if I want to go somewhere and beat up a fucking pillow and flip it off and pretend its that person I have every right. Next time ill just cover it up... Go to the restroom or something. It probably shocks the hell out of staff to see some guy that is all "kind and sweet and nice" go off and have violent aggressive thoughts flying out and floating around the air. Fair enough, go ahead and call me out on that.. Ill never let anyone see that again. Im just hoping that I was fired because I was incompetent.. not because they thought I was an evil man at heart... Some people say I just shouldnt give a shit, there not involved in my life anymore. Me flipping the person off behind a wall and pitching a mini-fit had nothing to do with their wife dying or any of that. It was all about me releasing my rage. Call me immature but im not a bully or abusive. Maybe somewhat indirectly abusive which is why next time and in the future im going to cover myself. Another thing im worried about is job hunt, how the fuck am I going to make a good work history? My longest held job was a fucking minimum wage fry cook job. Now I dont want to report that I worked at my last place of work, that gives me like a 6 month employment gap. Its going to look real bad. Im considering easy redundant jobs like working in a factory or stocking shelves at wal mart. I may be extremely fucking stressed right now, but at the same time im so releived to not have all the paperwork and the responsibility of the position I was in. I try to make myself useful at home while my girlfriend is at work, it feel so fucking good to sweep, mop, vacuum, do the dishes and not worry about really fucking something up if I dont do it JUST right... Im going to love going back to menial labor, but im hoping that I dont take a huge salary decrease. If I work in a factory ill make just as much.. Maybe even more. Thats IF I can get the job.. What are they gonna think of someone who went through all this college/training and then lost it all?
you might be able to patch things up at work enough that they would give you an ok recommendation, I don't know. you could also do some temporary jobs so that you can build up a work history. A job counselor might be able to help. Just having a one-time fit that got you fired doesn't mean you're unemployable, but you'd have to show a future employer that it wouldn't be a regular thing. So if you have a clean temp work history, it might not be so bad.
Ive always worked hard, came to work on time, had a good work ethic. I never sat on my ass or anything, I HAD a good employment record till recently... I had 6 years at one job, then like 2 years at the next. now I got 6 months at one I got fired from... I dunno, maybe im pitching a fit at myself because I feel like an asswhole!
