How do you have a good relationship with someone who's life is in constant turmoil? I love my girlfriend to death. It's been almost 3 years. We've had so many ups and downs. She has really bad luck. there's always something dramatic going on. the weird thing is, 9 times out of 10, it's completely out of her control. I'm almost 20 and I feel 60. It's not her fault, but it's not mine either. I'm tired of seeing her crying and stressed out. And now, she's badly injured from a car accident (which she wouldn't have gotten into of her mom hadn't have gone into cardiac arrest again. not that this is her mom's fault, but it's why she was driving) I'm a bad boyfriend because I can't stand having to take care of all of this all of the time. But really, I'm 20 and just how much should I have to endure?How much is SHE going to endure?! I love her, but I can't take being in a relationship that's constant work. I don't want to leave her, I just want things to be normal. now everything's upside down again.
Well...if you don't like being there for her, then don't and let her find a guy that will be there for her. I don't like what you did to her and if I were her I'd have kicked you to the curb LONG ago, brother. I tell you what, headymoe has a lot more patience than I would have with you. Thank your lucky stars you found a girl like that...and get over your little boy, egotistical self... Rant over... Damn, I usually never get that mad...
ALL relationships are work. If you're looking for an easy alternative, stick to casual flings and maybe buy a puppy Second thought, puppies can be a lot of work too. Maybe a fish, or a hermit crab. Hehe, sorry On a serious note, I think maybe you need a break, bro. If what you say is true, than it's not like your girlfriend is a "drama queen", she's just having some tough luck -- and if you're not going to be supportive and help her, than, as Annie said, step aside and let her find someone who will. Besides, if you're not helping her, or atleast lending a thoughtful ear, than you're likely just adding to the problems. I'm not doubting that you love her, bro. BUT, there's a LOT of different kinds of love. And to me, it doesn't sound like your love for her is quite strong enough. This reminds me of that Ben Harper song: Don't do me any favors matter of fact why don't you do yourself a few your presence ain't nobody's blessing I've got plenty of other things I could do oh no, not another excuse your tired silly games for me are just no use and now it's plain for me to see you're with somebody that you don't want to be so won't you please please me like you want to not like you have to or won't you just go on and leave me leaving me is the least that you could do you could have spared me so much misery and told me you just wanted a friend believe me there is a difference when you mean it and when you pretend or was I just your habit cause I know a habit is a hard thing to break but won't you spare me a little mercy there's only so much that I can take so won't you please please me like you want to not like you have to or won't you just go on and leave me leaving me is the least that you could do Best of luck to you and your's.. Goo
I understand if a lot of her friends here dont' like me at all. I wouldn't either. I did some really shitty stuff to her. I was a fucking monster. I can't stand the thought of losing her. That's why I flipped before. She went through with the break in our relationship I was all talk about. It's no excuse, but it's the truth. She is wonderful. I don't know why so many bad things happen. All i know is that I'm so tired of seeing her cry.
you know she reads these forums, right? don't you think she'd be really hurt if she read this? have you talked to her about this? if you need a break, that's fine, but you should talk to her about it one-on-one and not to a bunch of people who know her from the forums...
