met guy in grocery store

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  1. ollobono

    ollobono Guest

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    thoughts on this especially guys

    this might be a teachable moment for all.

    I had to stop at the grocery on the way home so there was a really cute guy in line at the pharmacy in front of me. I noticed he looked back at me a few times but thought it was just cause he was taking so much time. I heard him asking the girl about moving his prescriptions from his pharmacy since he just moved to town. When he walked off he spoke and of course I spoke back.

    After I finished at the pharmacy, I stopped to pick up milk and went down another aisle and ran into him again. As he was passing, he stopped me and said, I am not trying to harass you but I just have to tell you I really like that dress and you look beautiful in it. I said thank you of course and told him that was a sweet thing to say, not harassment and laughed. He started to walk off and then he came back and introduced himself and stuck out his hand so I introduced myself, said nice to meet you and some kind lame silly something. I thought he might ask for my number or something but said something about it was nice meeting me too and he would let me get back to shopping.

    so the questions are .....he was really cute so what could I have said that might have got me a date without being a total skank? obviously the ball was in his court and he didn't do it often. to help the guys, what could he have done better? to help the girls, what could I have done better?

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  2. Asmodean

    Asmodean Slo motion rider

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    You could have asked his number instead if you were willing to exchange phone numbers anyway if he would have proposed it. Just wondering, is that considered skanky by you? (probably not :))
     
  3. enhancer13

    enhancer13 Senior Member

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    If you liked the guy and were interested in him then why not ask him for his number? Not sure why it is supposed to always be the guys job!
     
  4. bft4evr

    bft4evr Senior Member

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    When he spoke to you in the aisle you could have said something like "I wasn't trying to eavesdrop but I heard you say you had just moved into the area."
    See what he said to that. Ask where he came from, what kind of stuff he likes to do, what he does for a living.
    If he's interested he would have continued the conversation. It would be easy to segue into an invitation to meet for coffee, lunch or drinks.
    If you don't ask you won't get a yes.
    Nothing ventured nothing gained.
     
  5. RainyDayHype

    RainyDayHype flower power Lifetime Supporter

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    He was just released from prison in another town for a horrendous crime so he had to move where nobody knows him..
    Don't worry about not giving him your number, he's probably watching you right now!


    Joking. Well, like everyone else said, you should have just given him your number. When I've been interested in someone, I don't hesitate to ask for a number and give mine out. You'd be surprised at how many guys would just pass the moment up to ask for a girl's number. Maybe some people feel it's too forward.

    Well, maybe you'll run into him at the grocery store again. Check the pharmacy.
     
  6. Pressed_Rat

    Pressed_Rat Do you even lift, bruh?

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    I wish I could meet women randomly like that without looking like a creep.
     
  7. Lorea

    Lorea Member

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    Well, I think it's hard for a girl to ask for a number, but what you could have done was show him that you were receptive...and flirt a little. Ask him if he needed help to be shown around town, ask him if he lives nearby, etc. Basically, keep that conversation flowing long enough so that he gets the courage to ask you! And if he doesn't, you could have just teased and said "so I guess this is when you ask me for my number (or out for a drink, etc)?...because you were flirting with me, right? "
     
  8. RainyDayHype

    RainyDayHype flower power Lifetime Supporter

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    Just hang out in the organic produce section and dive right in. That's the perfect place to meet someone- produce section.

    hahaha...
    http://datingtips.match.com/meet-girls-supermarket-13443277.html


    HOW TO MEET GIRLS AT THE SUPERMARKET

    Women at the supermarket are typically there for one thing. They need to buy groceries. They don’t expect to get hit on or leave with a guy’s number, which makes meeting girls at the supermarket fairly easy. Because it is a neutral location, well-lit and populated, women feel safe and are typically open to engaging in small talk with strangers.

    STEP 1
    Dress appropriately. Be well-groomed and clean with a casual, approachable appearance. You don’t need to wear a business suit, but shouldn’t wear sweats or a stained shirt, either.

    STEP 2
    Hang out in the produce section. When you see a girl you’d like to meet, casually walk over to her and ask her a question about the produce she’s considering. Ask her how to know if it’s ripe or fresh. Find out ways to prepare it or store it. Ask if she knows anything about a different fruit or vegetable you’re interested in.

    STEP 3
    Walk the same aisle pattern as the girl you want to meet, but push your cart in the opposite direction so you face each other in each aisle. Smile at her the first time you meet. Smile and nod in the second aisle. Laugh a little and ask if she’s following you in the third aisle. Make sure she knows you’re joking. If she laughs back or makes a complimentary comment, in the fourth aisle turn your cart around and finish your shopping with her. If she seems put-off, ignores you or speeds up, casually go about your shopping and let her go with a simple, “Well, thanks for the company. Have a good one.” If she appears happy that you joined her, introduce yourself and ask for her name. Keep the conversation light and primarily about the foods in your carts. At the checkout, ask if she’d like to grab a coffee or cook together sometime.

    STEP 4
    Ask a woman who’s shopping at the meat department about a cut of meat. Ask if she knows some good lean cuts or the best way to cook a roast, which wine pairs best with fish or red meat. If she seems receptive to helping you, keep the conversation going. Ask her for cooking tips, marinade recipes and favorite side dishes. Offer to buy her a coffee or cook her a meal using all the great tips she gave you.

    STEP 5
    Go to the same checkout lane as the girl you want to meet. Pick up a magazine and comment on the cover or a story. Ask what she thinks about it and strike up a conversation. Introduce yourself and ask for her name. If she seems into you, buy the magazine and ask her out for coffee to finish discussing the interesting headlines.
     
  9. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    why was the ball obviously in his court? it sounds like he was the one that did everything so far, at what point does the ball leave his court?

    anyway, it's irrelevant. the first thing he noticed was that he liked your dress? gay.
     
  10. r0llinstoned

    r0llinstoned Gute Nacht, süßer Prinz

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    you should have peacocked more and thrown him some IOI's
     
  11. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    I occasionally edit for blogs, and I have rewritten this same crap for three different blogs. Hate the PUA sites. I slip in subversive comments that show women are people.
     
  12. Vanilla Gorilla

    Vanilla Gorilla Go Ape

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    Umm yeah, word for word would help, what did he actually say


    He was really cute and mostly interested in your dress?
     
  13. loncho

    loncho Member

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    It's funny.

    I picture the exact same situation. But if the guy wasn't cute, most girls would have posted this saying "creep harrassing me at the grocery store."



    Back to the main topic... Don't question yourself so much. He could have turned to be a great friend, an amazing lover, or a really sweet loving partner... why miss that chance just because you're afraid of what people will think of you? There's no need to complicate things. If you find yourself in a similar situation or if you see the guy again, just ask for his phone number. Get rid of the idea that the man has to make the first move. If you're interested, move ahead!
     
  14. _Bob_

    _Bob_ Una Tana Bibi

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    I met two of my exes in the grocery store-they both worked there (different grocery stores). One worked in the deli and the other in the bakery. And I didn't even need an excuse to be there-I actually was there to buy food ;)
     
  15. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    As opposed to for a guy? Or is it that you see guys as expendable and it doesn't so much matter what they feel?
     

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