Men who CAN'T masturbate

I know a guy who cannot masturbate to orgasm. I was just wondering if anyone knew anything about this. Here is a bit of background. He can orgasm normally from sex. Not oral but vaginal and anal. But whenever he tries to masturbate he can't achieve orgasm. Never, not once in his life. He doesn't have any psychological factors that he knows about. He's not very religious or has any guilt about it. He just can't orgasm from masturbation. I just think it's weird because he has no difficulties from regular sex. Is this something physically wrong with him then? Are there men out there with the same problem? He doesn't want to see a doctor probably because of the stigma attached. Any help would be very appreciated, thank you!

 

odd....he might not be mentally thinking of a girl? does he just , think to nothing?

and is this person you?

 

That is strange he can't acheive orgasm from masturbation.Maybe he should ask a psychologist.

 

Actually, this is my boyfriend of three years. It just perturbs me a bit for accouple reasons. He cannot achieve "relief" on his own so I feel pressured to provide it for him via intercourse. Not to say I'm forced or anything, but the pressure is definitely there. Sometimes he's horny and I wish he could just take care of himself sometimes, you know? lol Also, when I visit various relatives around the country and I'm gone for an extended period of time I get kind of worried . . . though so far no infidelity issues yet.

 

i was thinking the same thing. i have NEVER heard of this before. how does he survive?

 

Laurel -- If he has a lot of sex with you (and/or with other people?), then he won't be all that horny, so it will be much more difficult for him to masturbate to orgasm. Also, something might be negatively affecting his body in terms of erections, such as diabetes or too much weed. In addition, he might subconsciously be choosing sex with you over masturbation by himself. Finally, perhaps someone needs to teach him or show him how to give himself a good hand job!! Best of luck to you, Laurel.

 

More thoughts: If he's not that good at wanking off by himself, maybe you could watch him do it a time or so, so that he feels encouragement, and so that he is inspired to try some new, better techniques for himself. Also, if he doesn't feel really horny, perhaps a little oil or jelly on the shaft will help him achieve the desired goal.

 

Thanks for all the responses!

Drugs are not a factor though. This started at pre-pubescent at the age when boys first start masturbating. He would become aroused and try, but never succeeded in orgasming. He did have a brief period in his early twenties with some drugs but I really don't think that had any affect. Like I said, this started way beforehand. He doesn't touch any drugs now except for the occasional beer.

As for having too much sex and having no need to masturbate . . . that may be true now because, well, we have plenty of sex. But there have been periods of celibacy where he had the same problem. Believe me, he wanted to masturbate during those periods! LoL.

He wouldn't try to manipulate me with this. It's been three years that we've been together and, frankly, he gets plenty of sex as it is. We will mutually masturbate each other, (more for my benefit than his since he can't really get off), and he can't come by his own hands or mine. Even oral sex, no matter how deep or hard or long I do it, he just can't orgasm. It's only traditional sex and (the occassional!) anal sex that he can orgasm.

I don't know what to do. It sort of bothers him. I mean, he's used to it now but it's kinda expected of guys to jerk off. And I thoroughly enjoy masturbating myself. I think it's important in order to understand your own sexuality and experience fantasies and such. And sometimes, I'm sorry but, it's just so much easier to only worry about pleasing yourself! When we're apart, I don't have any trouble "relieving" myself when I get horny. Am I wrong to worry that this could cause infidelity down the road if I'm not there 24/7? I wish he would go see someone about it, whether it be a psychologist or a doctor. No one has heard of other guys with this problem?

 

or a sexual therapist...

it does sound peculiar, kind of makes me wonder how he's tried masturbating. Does he rely on the physical sensations alone, or has he worked with fantasizing as well? When I masturbate, a lot of it comes from fantasizing while touching myself, not just the physical sensations, they aren't enough when I'm by myself to make me orgasm

 

very weird, and I heard about one such guy. the solution for him was to guide him how to properly masturbate, i.e. in what angle to hold the pennis and how to rub it. you just have to have lots of patience, and help him find the exact recipe.

 

yup, one who's specialized and probably more comfortable when it comes to sexuality and sexual health

I've just never understood not masturbating... orgasms are so good, so much fun, why wouldn't you enjoy learning about your body like that? *sigh*

 

ihmurria- maybe orgasms are so much fun and stuff, but there are a lot of people that never find out! me included, its not a case of not wanting to learn about our bodies its a case that despite our best efforts we just cant find any way of getting there, so what do we do? continue on, getting more and more disheartened? or do we accept the fact that we are just the unlucky people out there and listen to all of you lot going on about how easy it is and how good it feels etc etc?

 

I have cerebral palsy. Having cerebral palsy makes it impossible for me to masturbate because of the limited the use of my hands. I am not allowed to have any devices in my house to help me masturbate or to have my wife come down so we can make love. Do you have any ideas to help me to have an orgasm please respond to my post! Thank you

 

I have suitable bluesy and I also can not use my hands. I am unable to use a machine to fill me masturbate. Believe me it really really sucks and hurts!

Does anybody have other ideas to help me masturbate with the work's

 

Try using whatever it is you're using to type with.

 

I can't write about that because I have two use a dictation device to write on my computer and I live with my parents.

 

Anyone who has responsibility for caring for anyone of sexually mature years should be fully aware of their needs to ease sexual tension. It's nothing to be ashamed of & is a perfectly natural condition. You should, therefore consider speaking to your parents / carer and / or your GP about this.

I used to know someone with a similar condition, and he would have someone (sometimes male, sometimes female) who came round once a week to provide the service for him. As he said, he would have preferred it to be more frequent, but it was better than nothing.

 

He's brilliant! He got you thinking the only satisfaction he can get is if you do it. A true master

 

I have talked to my parents about this. My mom just says you had to deal with it just like any other single man. I have a wife but neither of us can drive thousands of our disabilities. Thank you for talking with me about this. It really helps to have someone that understands what I am going through. I look forward to talking with you more. Thanks again