Meeting Japanese fiance's family for the first time

Next month I will meet my fiance's family for the first time. This is definitely going to be a challenge since:

a. Except for her older brother, the rest do not speak English.
b. I know a few Japanese phrases, but that's all (we only met last year and I never needed to learn Japanese before that time).

Any tips on Japanese manners that I need to observe? I already know a little, like bringing a small token from the Philippines to give them since I'll be meeting them for the first time, eating with chopsticks the right way (although I need practice), bowing, etc. Anything else?

Although I intend to be myself and not pretend, I do want to impress my soon-to-be in-laws.

 

My main advice would be to try not to worry. Obviously they won't expect to you be familiar with every aspect of Japanese etiquette (as there is sooooooo much to learn).

Just don't leave your chopsticks in food, never blow your nose in public, always try whatever you are offered, if you don't like it...at least you tried it. Never pour drinks for yourself, by all means serve others but not your own.

If you are really concerned, why not ask your girlfriend... her being Japanese and whatnot.

 

Thanks, and she has been teaching me. Actually, she's more worried than I am. She's never brought home a boyfriend before. I'll be the first one to meet the family. I didn't know about the not pouring drinks for myself. Thanks

 

I'm sure it will be fine, just go and have fun. Do as the Japanese do and you will pick it up very quickly...that's how I learnt.

 

Did you spend a long time in Japan? What did you do there? I've been to Japan with my family for vacation lots of times but usually no longer than a week.

 

I spent about 4 or 5 Months there. I wasn't working, but my ex was teaching around the Chiba prefecture. I mainly went exploring, hung out with friends, went to Japanese lessons/revised Japanese, participated in tea ceremony - both traditional and casual, went to festivals, drank too much, babysat etc etc and basically, tried to live Japan like the Japanese do. It was a wonderful experience and I can honestly say that Japan is more like home than the UK ever has been to me. I am sure to return to see my friends in the near future.

I still have my Suica card

 

I just got back from Japan yesterday! I had so much fun and they all were so nice, and I think they liked me! Yay!

 

Hey
Nice to hear that you had a good time and Omedetou (congratulations) for successfully charming those in-laws!