mediocre sex life?

self....

we are now a little distance away from each other, i've been doing a lot of soul searching, thinking about what i want before we actually marry....but i'd really like an increase in our sex life....and hell if we can even have phone sex....she just laughs when i try....

she's a very sweet girl,but maybe too sweet and innocent? how can i get her to open up....

 

Don't know what to tell you to help you, but I do know I have never meet any women that like trying new things with someone who is an asshole to them, whiny, pleading with them or begging! I would say most of those things would be a big turn off. Same goes for forcing her to have anal when she was drunk.

 

I would have dumped you years ago.

 

She's too good for you

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q64hTNEj6KQ

 

Lol, so you advice is you can only be a 'good' guy if you dont want to have sex with them. Aren't you a good little puppy dog, you've been trained well, here's a little pat on the head

The neurotic about porn / psycho jealous thing is a big red flag. Not just about what doesnt happen in the bedroom, but eveything else. Try and contol every single source of ways you might get aroused, rather than put anykind of effort into trying to make things work in the bedroom. Will end up extending to outside the bedroom as well. She loves everything you do for her, but not necessarily you. And the more you do, the more she'll expect.

It will just get worse and she gets older, you'll end up getting less sex or none at all, and she'll expect you to far more for her. And like most of them will end up a lot hornier later on with no idea how to seduce a guy, cant give it to you cos you still have to work for the honour, yet angry at every guy that gets them horny, which ends up being most of them but not you, miseable and ragging on you all the time, because they always associated sex with "getting stuff".

Also with the kid thing its a bad sign of things to come too, if she expects everything done for her now, likely she'll still be putting herself before the kids later on.

Stay away from the ones that are psycho jealous.

 

I have the opposite problem!

My gf is more kinky and experienced than me xD

I guess we all look for different things. I like girls who are innocent and sweet

 

Na, you can only be a good guy if you don't force a woman into sex acts that she does not want to participate in. The fact that he is bragging about living under bridges doesn't help either.

 

isn't that RAPE forcing someone into a sex act they do not wish to participate in......

 

and Jesus man I just read this whole thing...

why on Earth do you have this idea that being more kinky is somehow superior to being innocent and wanting romantic sex?

That's the problem right there.

 

By most definitions, yes.

 

Wow. I hope OP's girl realizes she deserves way better than that asshole.

 

Also, I hope his dick falls off. Drunkenly forcing someone into anal is deplorable.

 

maybe you should try doing something a little less douchey. If my boyfriend was an asshole or an annoying whiny baby everytime he wanted me to try something new our sex life wouldn't be that great either.

Did anyone else find it amusing that she'll pee on him before trying other, less kinky things?

you can't force sexual compatability

 

The forced drunken anal wasn't really forced....just lacj of better post.....

the romantic sex is great....the passion is there, the kink isnt....
I guess a better way to ask was for balance

 

But not everyone is into kinky stuff.

I want LESS of it in my relationship, not more.

It's just not everyone's thing...

Just like you might like action movies but not "chick flicks", or whatever?

It's not about experience it's about preference.

 

Wow....just wow. I was on a jury for a guy that is doing life for forcing someone to have anal sex. I think you need to watch out or you're going to get yourself into a lot of trouble. Nothing about that OP would make any girl I know what to do anything with you.

 

Yeah I mean, kinky stuff is totally fine if BOTH of you are into it.

But it's not like every sweet, innocent, romantic person then moves on from "Sex 101" and becomes mega dirty and kinky.

That's just not how this stuff works...

 

I think your only option left is to go on a hunger strike. Stop eating until she's ready to be more kinky.