Maturbationproblem :(

Hello forum, I'm 18 years old and im having some sort of problem while masturbating.
I can get it up often enough a day and also long enough. Though i've never been able to come/ejeculate while masturbating.

I started doing something "that felt nice" when i was like 11-12 years old. I laid in bed, thought of someone sexy, while i had some sort of teddy between my legs. In this way i came for like 4 years straight, once a day before bedtime. I tried this again a month long, day by day , just to check: but im still able to come using the teddy.

I read on this forum you should wait cause your balls/dick might be "exhausted". So i waited for over 2 weeks not having an orgasm once. This doesnt help me come while masturbating to porn or pics. ;/

Should i see a doctor for help, or has someone any suggestions how i can actually come while masturbating to porn or pictures?
p.s. im a virgin still and have a girlfriend that will last longer than my ex since 1 week now. Will i have the same problem while having sex?

Thanks in advance

 

Get healthy if you aren't already, if you are overweight lose it, smoker give it up .. If you are healthy ..see a Doctor !

 

forget the cumming part , just wank and enjoy ...no need to cum everytime. Use it or lose it

 

Don't use the teddy and try a different technique

 

Thanks for your comments guys, but i NEVER cum while masturbating ;/
I sport 2 times a week, weigh 65kg *1,75m , close to 6pack, so im not over or underweight. I dont smoke and i eat healthy.

Any suggestions what it could be?

 

maybe you should smoke

 

I'm not going to smoke to cum. I don't think that will help at all ;/ it will probably only get me lungcancer.
But i really tried several methods for masturbating and none of them worked ;/

I agree with tricky69 that it isnt Always needed to cum when masturbating.
But atleast cumming once would take the pressure of my head so much ;/ Could it be caused by the teddythingy and/or can i solve it myself or do i need someone for help ;/

 

Thanks for help but i tried many ways of masturbating, but im so disappointed cause everytime my boner just fades after a while and nothing more happend ;/

 

Why not try closing your eyes while masturbating & pretended your hands were actually that of a nice sexy female pleasuring you instead?
It may do wonders for you. Do other sexual things to yourself as well with your eyes closed - try it, you never know it may just arouse you for longer ?

 

I think that you need to clarify this statement. You never ejaculate while masturbating, but you came using a teddy for 4 years.

Do you mean to say that you orgasm but don't ejaculate? Did you ejaculate using the teddy, but don't count that as masturbation?

 

Thanks for the tip, but i've been reading on forums in the past, so i've tried that. That won't work either;/

 

Well the idea here is, that i could orgasm and ejeculate with the teddy,BUT not by myself in any way. Not by thinking of someone/watching pics/porn while rubbing it up and down. So the whole problem is that i just want to get rid of the whole teddy-idea and do it "the normal way", but i just cant orgasm

 

Okay, this may be the right approach for you, or maybe it's not... But here's just an idea. Why not actually CONTINUE to use your teddy for a little while more, but during this time period, try to figure out what it is that makes it more pleasurable than, say, masturbating with your hands? This may take a while to figure out what's really going on, but I personally don't think using a teddy in itself is a bad thing. Throughout my teen years, I was all about humping my pillow. I could cum using other methods too, but I just preferred humping a pillow for some reason. I just grew out of that phase I suppose.

Really, there's no "regular/normal" way to masturbate. There are different ways of achieving orgasm. Different ways of holding your penis, so on so forth. If it feels good, if it's not harming you, and if it's not harming others, then I wouldn't worry about it. If you worry about it too much, then it becomes stress and THAT may do you more harm to your mind than good.

That's generally my take on your situation. All the best.

 

well said alt thinker - there is no normal way.

Advice please - if you are really worrying about this that is probably what is frustrating you. If you are really stressed that something is wrong you can always visit the doctor for a checkup and ask your question. Masturbation is about feeling good and relieving stress. Just be patient, don't worry about it, do what feels good and let it develop.

 

Thanks for reading all this, i went to the doc today, to see if there was a problem. SHE (quite weird to talk about masturbation with a female doc) sent me for an echo in the hospital. This didnt give any negative results.
Theres probably a problem indeed between my mind and my cock. I tried the teddy as you said today, which made me ejec in like 5-10 mins, which is pretty normal. But im mostly worried about my girlfriend.

I've got a gf since 1,5 weeks which im pretty open with. But if she would give me a hand or blowjob im scared that i probably disappoint her in her work. Are there any tips you can give to switch from the teddy to hand. While using the teddy my dick didnt even grow full size (like semi-hard) when i ejeculate. (i think it has Always been that with the teddy. By hand it gets wayyy harder, but i simply cant do it ;/

 

u need a new hobby..

 

You're welcome.

Two things: one, what caught my attention is the part where you say you don't experience fell erections when you masturbate to orgasm with a teddy. Have you ever tried to masturbate with a teddy, but with a FULL erection? If you can achieve orgasm in this way when you're fully erect, then try to pay attention to what sort of sensation the teddy is giving you. Once you have a decent idea of what it's doing to you to push you over the edge, you might try replicating the sensations via means other than the teddy... By the way, is it safe to assume you basically hump the thing? Or am I not understanding it correctly?

And two, the general idea that I've gotten from reading your posts is that you're stressing over this matter. As kp2640 has said, that just might be contributing to your inability to orgasm without a teddy. I'm curious; is there a possibility that your subconscious is telling you NOT TO go past the point of no return when you're masturbating with a full erection via non-teddy methods? Last year, I experienced something akin to a "fear" of orgasm. This was definitely stress-induced. If you're stressed out about something, then try to deal with your stress.

Okay, I guess three things, so number three; if your girlfriend is loving and supportive, then she will likely help you get past this situation. You say you two are open with each other. That's perfect because then you can talk to her about your difficulty to orgasm. Communication is the key. You might ask her how she masturbates, and see if there's any methods where she finds unable to reach climax. Have frank and honest discussions with her on masturbation, and sexuality as a whole. You should be able to do that if you're expecting to do sexual things to her, and have her do sexual things to you. It's part of developing a relationship, and strengthening the bond between the two of you.

No guarantee that my advice will help you, but I think it's still one approach you can take to improve your situation. I mean, who knows, right? *shrugs*

 

Thanks.

 

The first one, i might have in the past. I used to watch porn like once a week/2 weeks for like 1 year long. ( now less) This made me come even faster (with the teddy), but without the teddy it wasnt possible either haha. I talked about it with my doctor and alot with my girlfriend . I already know how she deals with her climaxing. So talking isnt really the issue i think.

I was indeed basically humping it haha. I definitly have some stress, but im not sure if thats on the base of this, since i've had this problem for a long time, also when i didnt have any stress at all. I tried to do the showerthing everyone talks about, with alot of shampoo. This sometimes just gave kinda weird painful experiences, which could be the climax that should feel good but being blocked orso? I have no clue , what else it could be. Happened when making circles around it with my hand. Anyways how do you overrule your subconciousness with your conciousness. It's not like i can stop my bodyfunctions i guess?

thanks for your long helpful post by the way

 

I'm thinking it might be the way you're using your hand? Well, the shampoo thing kind of worries me because it might irritate your penis. Maybe that's why you experienced pain when you tried it. For instance, they recommend that you use MILD soap for washing your genitals. This is because there are soaps/bodywash/etc that may cause some stinging sensations in the penis. I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable using something like a shampoo to masturbate.

And you say you were making circles...but around what? The glans of your penis? The shaft? First off, stimulating your glans alone may produce a sensation that is too intense, and your brain might recognize that sensation as pain rather than pleasure. This might yield the loss of an erection. Second, if you were trying to make circles with your palm while trapping your penis in between your hand and your pelvic mound, this might also be a little awkward, thus might yield the loss of an erection. I'm not sure what you mean by "blocked", though.

Has your girlfriend ever offered to masturbate you? If so, you might take her up on that offer. It sounds like she already knows about your situation, so I don't think you need to worry about her getting "disappointed". When you do this with her, just remember to focus on what you can grasp with your consciousness. Become aware of your erection, her hand(s) on it, what it feels like to have it touched by her, how much she turns you on and makes your erection more persistent, that sort of thing.

There's also a really important thing to keep in mind as well. You need to RELAX when you do this. When your genitals are stimulated, it has a way of exciting you. Your heart rate rises and your breathing becomes heavier. But there's also something very soothing and relaxing about the sensation you feel as it is a highly pleasurable experience. You can't be tense, or thinking about stressful things, or impatient, or easily distracted, or feeling discouraged, when you're trying to approach an orgasm. The whole process of sexual stimulation and the orgasm that follows is the perfect balance of excitement and relaxation. It is about releasing the sexual energy that was built within yourself, and the releasing part won't occur unless you're mentally and physically relaxed.

Oh, and no problem. I can't help but making my replies long sometimes, because I have a habit of rambling on, lol. xD