Married to a former stripper has downside

Discussion in 'Men's Issues' started by kevinhigashi, Sep 7, 2007.

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  1. kevinhigashi

    kevinhigashi Member

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    A lot of guys would think being married to a former stripper would rock but it has a lot of downside. I am a jealous type and she can't count how many guys she gave lap dances to. She gave it up, so I try and forget it, which is only fair, but not easy for me. Also, I can suffer from some inadequacy fears. I aint a dynamo is bed and she has known so many guys that I think I must bore her. Yeah, she is hot and yeah, when she wants to turn it on, she can blow me away, but I find it a bit of a struggle at times, too.
     
  2. hitman38

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    sure it could have down side but you knew she was a stripper before you married her....she must think alot of you or she would'nt a married you.... so you should'nt feel insure about anything look at it this way she found something in you that none of the other guys had so try not to be insure and just have fun with her
     
  3. duke11

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    My wife is a stripper..currently. She's a little hotty, and here's the scoop. First, the poster who noted your wife must see something in you is right. Trust her...I'm very jealous, but my wife still strips, gives lap dances, etc. (no sex) She hauls in about $5000.00 a month cash.

    If you are an insecure man, stay away from strippers because even if they quit you will live the thought of how many men they have done (or you imagine they have done) and feel inadequate. My first night with my wife I lit her up like a Christmas tree!

    Yes, it can be a drain dwelling on whether they are screwing for cash, but that's where trust comes in. She wears a ring at all times (like men give a damn) and turns away many offers for expensive trips etc.

    Last week, she walked in with $1400.00 cash in five hours. For the first time I thought "okay..what did you do." Then she told it straight, some older dude with his hands in certain activity walked in, took one look at her and decided she was his. He insisted, after he thought he was baiting her, that she drink his drinks, normally they have juice or a touch of Pineapple juice. She agreed after he whipped out the first $200.00 after her first dance. He kept ordering rounds of Jack Daniels, and she kept dumping them under the table. She played him out until her shift ended at 9:00PM. When she left, of course he followed her out and thought he was going home with her. She nicely said "no." She jumped in a cab and walked into my arms a half hour later. She said he looked like someone kicked him in the guts as she drove away and felt guilty, but knew if not her it would be someone else in the club.

    This life isn't for everyone. I'm 43 but in great shape, and mature. Twenty years ago I would have went insane thinking about what she does and if she was doing more....now I know better. She's an awesome wife, mother, and best friend! However, don't think strippers are sex kittens; the majority are women who have cycles...but when it's on it's on!!!!
     
  4. Wild Mountain Dave

    Wild Mountain Dave Rainbow

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    I would never in a million years think that being married to a stripper has an upside. I do not, nor never would I judge a stripper but what I had/have in mind for marriage goes way beyond whats "hot". I think your fears are normal. At this point all you can do is be the best you can be in every facet of life, which I guess is what we all do anyways. Good luck with that and dont beat your own self up.
     
  5. blktiger60

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    I would never marry, or even date, someone that works or had worked in the sex industry.
    Good luck to you.
     
  6. daAbominableBluntman

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    I second this.
    eew..
    buhhh
     
  7. bigloui96

    bigloui96 Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    I hardly think strippers work in the sex industry!

    They're not selling sex!
     
  8. DNCämþër

    DNCämþër Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    You show them some green in a private lap dance and you may be surprised what they will sell you...
     
  9. Hippie McRaver

    Hippie McRaver Senior Member

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    i dated a girl who turned out to be a stripper, didn't know until like a year into our relationship. WORST RELATIONSHIP EVER fucking douche bag was used to walking over men and using sexuality to get what she wanted, that doesn't work on me so it caused a lot of tension... then in a twist of fate another x of mine, this girl I was and still am friends with starting stripping, i was disgusted, shes rich and has all the money she needed, I immediately assumed she was in some kind of bind but it turns out she did it to by a vaporizer, fucking gross. And yes, it is the sex industry, its barely a step above prostitution (and only sometimes)

    however if it works for you good, but no way in hell would I even consider it. I hate strippers, they are shells of people with nothing inside who use men and take advantage of the double standard of women vs men in our society
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    apparently strippers smell like week old jizz
     
  10. Aristartle

    Aristartle Snow Falling on Cedars Lifetime Supporter

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    You should marry her and have her dance for you and all of your buddies at your bachelor party.
     
  11. billyjean305

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    in the book " how to fuck a stripper" one of the commandments it specifically states" never try to make a stripper quit bcuz she wont" and you my friend are an example. btw what made you marry one?
     
  12. Stoned Philosopher

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    id say listen to duke13. sounds like itd comfort you. im sure it could be rough. but when you married her you should have thought about this.
     
  13. billyjean305

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    LOL wow like str8 from "how to fuck a stripper" book LOL
     
  14. ppgpussyfoot

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    I am a stripper & have never slept with one of my customers. It's in NO WAY close to prostitution. Strippers don't have sex with guys for money. Sure, some might, but that doesn't give anyone the right to put that label on ALL dancers. Pornography is closer to prostitution. I am a beautiful person inside & out. I probably have more of a conscience than most people here. I'm highly intelligent & I love what I do. Dancers don't take advantage of any double standard, but rather a man's stupidity.

    To address the real question here...it's ok to marry the girl (if you haven't already.) Just because she used to dance doesn't mean she had sex with all kinds of guys. Dancers are just regular people. It's not nearly as bad as everyone makes the industry out to be. I, too, was ignorant & thought a lot of bad things about dancers, until I went to a club & ultimately became a dancer. I was very wrong. Anybody who thinks dancers are bad people are wrong too. We're just trying to make a living & support ourselves & our families...just like everyone else. So don't go judging saying we are just "shells" of people. I've met some of the most wonderful people that just so happen to be dancers.
     
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  15. dixie_pixy

    dixie_pixy HighMandi

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    Personal problem... get a therapist!
     
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  17. drew5147

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    You cant change the past.
     
  18. zenloki

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    face the facts kevin, you have trust issues and you're with a woman that is definitely going to give you cause to confront these issues. perhaps you're in this with her to do just that.

    for all the people that think all the strippers are the same, think again. that's like saying all hippies/businessmen/republicans are the same. clearly they're not.
     
  19. billyjean305

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    Sounds LIKE BULLSHIT

    I went to a strip club for valentines day for the first time and wow! anyone like pussyfoot to said thats a respectable job is a LIAR!!!!!!!!!
    WOW nothing but hookers! those strippers are so dirty on STAGE they were showing off this pussies to every one like its all good! WTF if that a RESPECTABLE WOMEN THEN I DNT KNOW SHIT!

    STRIPPERS ALL THEY WANT IS YOUR MONEY! yes i understand that there there to sell you a fantasy but wow they will do anything to suck out your money! HOOOKERS! GOD I WOULD HATE IT if MY MOTHER OR SISTER OR DAUGHTER WAS A STRIPPER it so degrading!! i have little respect for those hookers! i feel bad for the dude who got married to this whore and now is paying the price!
     
  20. sarahrei

    sarahrei ~Lover~

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    ^Um wow.

    You know there are different quality of clubs right? I've stripped too, and I've never slept with anyone that I've danced for.

    Go to cheap clubs you get cheap girls. Simple as that.
     
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