Married but not Dead

I have been with my husband for 9 years & married for 5 of those years. For some reason- I keep devolping crushes on other men. I don't know why! I feel so ashamed of myself, but I just can't help it. Is this normal?

 

I'm sure its normal, do you act out on your "crushes"?

 

of course your normal. as long as the crush stays a crush and not develop into something else

 

Have you tried 'cheating' on your husband with your husband?

 

To answer one question- yes, I have acted on a crush before.

What do you mean by cheating on him w/ him? Sounds interesting!

 

I'm the same way. I've been married for 7 years and I love my wife but I am DYING to experience another woman (both physically and emotionally). I'm not sure why that is. I was a frequent dater prior to meeting her and maybe that's what I miss.

 

It's perfectly normal and fine, as long as you do not act on these crushes.

 

SEDUCE HIM! Maybe take seperate cars to a bar. Do not sit near each other and pretend you do not know each other. If someone tries to buy you a drink, accept it and be very nice and sweet. Allow your husband to be approached by other women (but not buy them a drink). At the end of the night have your husband buy you a drink and ask loudly if you will go home with him....then go home .
Or turn your husband into a different man. Tell him how great he is and how attractive he is and then wait and watch as you build him up to n ideal man and he starts to live to his full potential...his new confidence will give you a new and improved husband!
Or just spice it up,,,go to victoria's secret and have him go in the dressing room and get you one thing that was his favorite...but have him pick his favorite by the feel of it. Make him close his eyes and don't let him see how it looks on you until you get home...and of course you guys should run your pointless errands before you go home in order to get him as sexually frustrated as possible.

 

Hvae you been honest with him about this? If you haven't told him I don't think you should because there is no reason to hurt him. But something is wrong and I don't mean to blame it on him...but when women cheat it's usually because their husband isn't being the husband they need them to be...just my 2 cents...if it's worth anything If it's not I am sorry for interferring!
HUGS

 

After reading everyone's replies- I get it now. I should try to spice things up, & he in turn should try a littler harder as well. I have been thinking all weekend & I fell that he reason I get attracted might be because another man offered what I wasn't getting not just sex-but friendship or reassurance. Thanks again everyone!!!! Maybe I can help one of you guys out next time.

 

Get a three some going nukkah.

 

yeah i think its normal. Just dont cheat because it hurts bad. O and i wouldnt tell your husband because he will probly get hurt about it thinking that your not interested in him anymore and dont love him. I think everybody has crushes but if there in love with someone else they keep those people as crushes and nothing more.