As a married bisexual guy who has come out and been accepted as such by his wife I'm interested to know how may other guys are out to their partners and how they satisfy their sexual needs. Are you monogamous, do you have a friend with benefits, do you and your partner have an open marriage etc. Please be open with your stories - I was outed nine months ago by my wife of 18 years and she has been very accepting of my sexuality though not of previous cheating. We have made adjustments to our marriage to incorporate my needs and currently pactice a mfm three-sum. Being open together has improved our marriage and our own sex-life tremendously. What other stories, relationships do you have. Fel welcome to PM me if you wish - there are no rules for mixed orientated marriages except those that you make yourselves and we are all learning from experiences. Simon
If someone can't keep it in their pants maybe they shouldn't be married. Most bi people satisfy their needs the same way straight people do, by having sex with their partner.
Have you tried to discuss a MOM (mixed orientaton marriage) or jointly gone on to any support groups? We found MMOMW and HUGS really helpful in others experiences and solutions. AP - Altermate path for the women is good. Good luck, asto MadCApSyd - yeah, that's fine if you can live and suppress your m2m needs/desires but we're all different in the level of intensity or needs. I have lotsa great sex with my wife but there is still that hankering for a cock. Simon
No we just don't discuss it. We don't discuss sex at all. It's a little frustrating. We need to go to some kind of counseling. I'm just going day to day trying not to dwell on it too much or I'll go batty. And no I don't cheat on my wife with men. Somehow I don't think that will help any. I'll keep fantasizing, it's safer sex that way anyway ;-)
There're none that answered monogamous?! I don't know if I can answer, cause I'm not married (though I feel like I am). But I'm very bi-curious, would probably be interested in some sort've openness or swinging or something in the future; but am monogamous.
My wife knew about my previous partner Jim before we got together (his pics were in my family album). I pretty much was content for about 10 years just fucking her, but then started getting urges for guys again. She understood my time out with the boys, but we never talked about it. In fact, one of the guys I met lived in the neighborhood and the three of us would go out for breakfast together. Terry was quite obviously gay so she figured I was playing with him.
not so good huh? if u feel this need now then you need to get talking, it won't go away and, unless you're a saint, you'll need the contact. I found my wife was a bit of a saint - you might be surprised. You're right tho, cheating is not good and in most women's eyes worse than the sexulaity issue. Good luck, Simon
Your wife must have been a wise and understanding lady Shale, like mine. Mine also knew of my m2m contact before marrying but I was almost monogamous with her until a few years ago - the urge seemed to get stronger and maybe with the internet the possibilities expanded and got easier! Now I am enjoying a 'renaissance' with the possibility to fulfil my desires with my wife's understanding. Really something magic that I could not have thought possible, and I am very interested to know how others with similar sexuality deal with being married. Simon :sunny:
Married, and keep to myself for those needs. Much more common than I realized after reading around, which is a small comfort.
sure is common - there's lotsa guys who enjoy sex together; personally I think it's natural. You might be surprised what your wife will accept is she knows you love her. Simon :sunny:
si69, i WISH i had a situation such as yours. I'm 95% sure my wife wouldnt be too pleased if i told her that i want to blow a dude and 69 one. We had one very messy relationship in our family where the guy came out and just really messed up my sister and his kids. I just wish i could find some guy in the same boat as i who just wants to play here and there.
Yeah, it can be difficult and relationship-threatening if you are playing about secretly and for my wife the lying, deceit and cheating were the worst for her - she could live with the bi-sexuality. Also, to be fair she also knew that I had been with some guys before marriage, though she also knew that in 20 years of bachelor-hood I had been with many women. If your sister's partner came out then maybe you have at least a way to talk about the subject with her, or to feel your way as to her thoughts on the issue; some women are much more relaxed than we imagine esp. if they do not feel that it is/will threaten the marriage/relationship. Good luck, Simon :sunny:
my wife and i are both bi although she has played with other women though i have never been with another guy and i want to really bad. i am completely fine with her doing this but i feel like she is far less accepting of my wants. We have talked about it and she's said she accepts me but i don't feel like i can talk to her about these urges. for now when i feel these urges i masturbate. Its a strong urge and i want to satisfy it very badly but not only is it profoundly harder to hookup with guys due to social double standards(especially in the area i live in), but i think i would have to keep it completely private for fear my wife might see me differently
I'm dating a married straight woman. Both her and her hubby know that I'm bi. I've only been with her since we've started dating though. Lately I've been craving sex with others, male or female. I have the permission to do so, I'm just putting it off for a little longer.
I am am new to this group, an asian, married for 11 years and has a kid (just school going) and love my wife, but at times curiosity tend to get me (just tried twice mutual MB during school, ages ago and thats it), and as usual for the fear of safety & stds just to say a few (and i hope to keep it as such), so I keep to myself and found some ways like reading on: nifty.org which helps, to some extend. I tried out the local online thing but most are like grinder kinda thing which just adds to my paranoia. Look forward to hear more.
