I am 35 married and secretly bi curious. So far I havn't done anything with a guy but I do have an erotic fantasy I want to live out. I am basically nervous about having a real penis in my butt for the first time. Is this gonna hurt?
will this be the first thing ever penetrating your ass? take it slow, build up, and eventually you'll be fucking like a champ.
I am not being silly or anything, but you have a wife. Turn a romantic night into a journey of exploration - get her to penetrate your botty with a sex toy. Make it as romantic and erotic as you can. (which may be an oxymoron - romantic anal!) That will tell you a little about what anal sex is like. Just multiply every sensation by the power of 2 - pain, pleasure and fill feeling and you will get approximately what a real live penis can do. It can be fantastic - it can be horrendous: the population is probably split 50/50 on that, but guys (and gals) have been doing it since ..... forever, so anal sex must have something going for it. As I said, experiment with your wife. -- just a thought. And yes, I have been "done" in the botty and it's great 99% of the time.
it can but it might not hurt at all. and dildo is nowhere even close to what a penis feels like. you don't know what a penis feels like from using a dildo. two completely different things. even though they should be similar. a live warm penis, flesh that conducts electricity, that's a million times better than a dildo. you won't know what i'm talking about without experience. use lube when doing it. and get yourself cleaned out. the hurt that might accompany it is minor and nothing that can't be tolerated.
the pain sucked at first when i did anal sex for the first time, he just went in reaal slow, and then slowly out a little and back in. at this point i was already used to it, we were doin it doggy style and i pushed myself at him, i slammed my ass against him as he was thrusting into me. and let me tell u, the weird feelin/pain turned into pleasure, i was really wet and horny from it and it was a great time. i didnt even wanna have normal sex after that cuz i was so worn out, but in a good way had a smoke afterwards Since you're a guy, the feeling might be different than what i experienced. in fact, a previous poster had it right when he said there is a 50/50 chance on whether or not anal sex will be pleasurable for someone. similar to weird foods, unfamiliar music, drugs.. the only way you can truly know what it's like is if you try it. i like the idea of having your wife put a sex toy in you, it's definitely not the same but it would be hot. if i were you, id give it a go.
i'd like to mention that u shouldnt hide ur sexual orientation from ur wife. sometime u should have a talk with her and let her know that ur bicurious.
