how do you feel about marriage? For, against, just not for you? For the longest time I thought it was fine and dandy for folks who aren't me. I wasn't even interested in relatives getting married really (I mean, my dad's engaged, but when he marries it'll probly be off in Cuba) But, these last few months, I've suddenly been very excited about all things wedding-related. Probably because my cousin is getting married this august and I'm her maid of honour. But, this last very short while, I've suddenly realized I probably do want to get married someday too. It's so freaky... I've never though I would get married, but, now I want it. Ack!
Please, just be sure you are with the right person before you do it. Keep in mind that you have your whole life to be married. Get to know the man very well before you even consider it. And if you do it with intentions to make it last forever, then go for it! If you do it with the right person, it is beautiful.
I used to feel the same way ihmurria...I never wanted to get married...forget it. But lately...it sounds really appealing. Sharing your life with someone...unless he has bad credit...then...forget it. LOL
i'm probably just as well of married, and married to who i am, but the happiest times in my life have been, when i was living utterly and completely alone. i don't consider myself typical for a human. for a cat maybe but not for a human. so unless you're a cat, my example isn't likely to be of very much use to anyone. i do however feel strongly that number and gender of partners is no body's bussiness but their own, and certainly none of any government. religeons are welcome to feel how they do, as long as no one is under any obligation to join them. my main gripe is against snuggles and huggs having to be so feast or famine the way a culture of monogamy makes them. it's wonderful to get them but not so wonderful to be in so much demand of them to be able to do little else. a world in which huggs would be welcome to be given and received more freely with little else expected of them would certainly be an improvement on the one everyone i know seems to have to live in. =^^= .../\...
Yes, I know exactly what you mean. I want to be married eventually. But I can say right now, I'm in no rush to get married and commit to a single person for the rest of my life. I mean, like the above post, you do have your whole life to get married. I can't stand girls who want to get married no matter what or bitch because they feel they have to rush into marriage at a young age. It makes marriage so much less meaningful.
i'm getting un-married. it's such a hassle i'd do it again though (get married, that is, hopefully without the getting un-married bit), with the right person.
my friend just broke off her engagement, well really her fiancee broke it off because he freaked out and realised he would never get to sleep with anyone else, so he made up some lame excuse about wanting her to go off and experience other people, in other words so he wont feel bad about going on his own fuck-fest. i just think the stupid part is that they got engaged in the first place... whats the rush? but marriage does sound appealing... not for the material reasons... what a nightmare.. just the idea that you've found someone that you wanna marry and spend your life with... its tre romantic methinks
just say no ......realy almost everybody that does it , seems to suffer ... there are not realy many examples of happiness and productivity comming out of such a stupid institution .
I'm for marriage obviously, but I am very fortunate in the fact that my husband and I have an awesome marriage together. But marriage isn't for everybody. We started off as best friends and are still one another's best friend to this very day. No regrets whatsoever. None.
There is the open marriage - works very well for us. As long as you are clearheaded enough to understand that love and sex are two different things. It is the best of all worlds.
I'm married, and I have an awesome partner. That said, marriage isn't for everyone. Unless you are really prepared to be with that one person for the rest of your life, you probably shouldn't do it. Divorces are messy and expensive. I love my partner, he loves me, we wanted to have children...so we made a home for them first. Yes, we plan to be together for the rest of our lives. We have plans for what we want to do in retirement and such. As for the "wanting to have sex with others"...what for? I have had other partners before....ring-a-ding-ding. The sex I get from the one who knows my body is much better.
i would get married if it ment id get residency-citizenship in another country .....so all you pregnant gals in brazill with out a man ....maby we can help each other out .
I think its a great thing and hope to find the one to spend the rest of my life with someday. I think its important that people spend a considerable amount of time together before they consider an engagement though. There have been a few girls whom I've been so in love with that I have said to them that I want to spend the rest of my life with them, but held off on an engagement because the realist in me says that I don't fully 100% know this person yet and whether or not a partnership will work. I my opinion you don't become engaged until you are 100% certain that you are right for one another and will spend the rest of your lives together. I never want to go through a divorce and have the dream of growing old together shattered. Sometimes love isn't enough for two people to work well together in a succesful partnership or marriage. Life can be quite difficult for an individual and even though you might love your partner tremendously and they the same to you, some people just don't complement each other well and know how to support each other well enough as individuals to make the partnership work
This was on one of the pages from that site..... this is a classic.... "Wife is overweight, no sex, doesn't cook anything not in a can. 3 kids. I am stuck. I can't even cheat on her since we do a mail order company out of the house. No alone time, no peace. I think I am going crazy. Oh, another fun aspect - wife is a born again Christian, so if I bring up the sex issue she uses the bible to justify herself. I argue that, and kazam, I am Satan, and no sex for Satan. If I do not argue, no sex for me either. "
marrige?? or soulmates? marrige is somethin ya do when yer lonely for a partner,,, findin a soulmate i somethin yer blessed with,..
I, the idiot that I am, am on my third marriage. This is not to say I am an idiot for being in the marriage that I am currently in. She is my voice of reason, and my reason for living. Yeah, I catch a little shit for flirting with Boogabaah or constantly asking for pictures of ihmurria's feet, but I'm a mental case and she loves and accepts me in spite of that. I'm an idiot because I spent 20 years of my life with other people, unhappy, at times suicidal. I chose wives very badly. Divorce is horrendous. It is a drain on your spirit, your wallet, and your sanity. Funny, I didn't believe in marriage when I was young. I was raised in a single parent household and didn't see the appeal. So of course, not having a loving set of married parents I had no role model to help me choose properly. Hell, I had no role models to help me choose ANYTHING. Today I am very happy with a woman I love more than life, too many kids in our home and a job that I enjoy. And I truly wouldn't trade any of it for a wild weekend sucking grape jelly out of Boogabaah's belly button while I massaged ihmurria's feet. But it never hurts to ask...
I've always seen the appeal in marriage, not from a material aspect, but from one of unity. When you're married, you have someone to rely on, someone that relies on you. You never have to make decisions alone, but rather can make them together with someone that has different points of view and experiences than you. You get to build someone else up and be built up by that person, and experience so much joy in the things you accomplish TOGETHER. I'm all for marriage, August 12, 2006. Woo, it's coming fast!
