marriage advice needed

He should have thought of that while FUCKING!

 

Good point, it sounds corny to wait until marrige for sex but...stuff like this is everyday for a lot of people who don't. Not to say, it's completely wrong.

 

I don't know if anybody's said this or not, but whatever you do DON'T LET ANYONE PUSH YOU INTO JOINING THE ARMED FORCES. This is a really bad idea, especially at this time. As to marrying the chick, I am kind of inclined to say do it. If you love her, you can make this work, and it would certainly be better for the child. Life is not always what we want or expect, but sometimes it works out OK anyway if you step up to the plate and think of the welfare of others before yourself.

 

just do whatever YOU want to do, man. If you feel right in marrying the girl, maybe you should do it (BUT not under the pressure of her family). It's just not fair that you don't get to say anything in this. Going into the army? Come on!

You should discuss this with HER, not with the family, because for as far as you're conserned, it's none of their business!

 

Joining the military right now is a very bad idea. You essentially become United States property and you're sent to fight and die for the benefit of corporations, many of which are not really American.

And I don't think a lot of the people who keep saying "marry her, do the right thing" really give any thought to what it's like to be a child raised in a family where the interaction between your parents is one of constant hostility, which it will probably be when two people are forced to do something that they don't want to do.

There is nothing remotely healthy about that.

 

Get a paternity test after the child is born. If it is your child, then consider marriage. Currently in the USA about 30 percent of the children born were co-concieved by a man other than the alleged father.
Do not sign anything until you know the child is yours.
Do not be a patsy.

 

Sage posted they were talking about a wedding on the 22nd of last month. Has any body heard any thing from him ?
....Dennis.....Alaskan

 

my dad married my mom b/c he knocked her up with me. They sleep in different beds (as long as I remember), my mom won't be intimate with him so he fucks girlfriends and I fear prostitutes. Not a happy picture. They are sick in the head and I fear very unhappy....

and I'm 22 now. It's been how long?

 

With 40 % of the whites and 70% of the blacks giving birth to "Bastards" it just is not an issue any more. He needs to get a paternity test before he marries the >>>>>>>>>>>>>>.

Consider the other statistics: About 30 % of the men are not actually the biological fathers of their children even though they think they are.

People who marry under the age of 25 have an eighty percent chance of divorcing.

Around 60 % of first marriages end in divorce.

Women iniate the majorty of the divorces.

Nomarriage.com has many many issues to consider before you flush your future down the toilet.

 

First of all you haven't to be married to have a baby. But no matter what happens you will be the dad and that will have big responsibilties. I know I have 2 and 1 on the way, and it is one of the best things there is.
Now if you both already are thinking about getting married then go for it. But don't let her parents rush you into anything. This should be both your decision.
If you both decide to wait I think this will happen.
You sound like you really like her or else you wouldn't even be talking about it. And this will bring you even closer togerther, hearing the babies heartbeat for the first time, seeing the baby on the eco, feeling the baby kick. Now since she is pregnant and has alot of stress you will be cranky onces in a while both you both will work throw that.
So with all this going on I think you both will be ready to get married after the baby is born, but then it will be both your choice.
But the bottum line is lissen to both your hearts and go with that no matter what anyone else thinks

 

yes, marry her before she starts showing. anything less is disgraceful unless it was a casual thing or a one-night-stand thing. if you told her you love her before you had sex with her then in her head she prob thought she didn't have to worry about anything

 

Well at the moment me a Katie are living in an Historic home located in Galveston TX.
We are not married yet, but we are trying to provide a stable atmosphere for our child to come. Katie is working at a Laundry mat down the rd. from the house. I just got laid off about 2 weeks ago and looking for a job everyday. I ended up leaving her and ran away to the Quite Valley Ranch where the Kerrville Folk Festival is held. I camped there for about two weeks and she found me once again. I love her , if I didn't I would of stayed on the Ranch where I was trying to get some peace of mind for a little while. I'm still thinking of taking off to go to the Rainbow Gathering , I think she would understand , i'm still floating around in my thoughts. I know I love her and one day I will marry her , but there are something,in my heart i've got to sort out alone. I've been feeling down and out and don't know why it's hard to explain I feel like I'm living in a constant dream state. I feel I don't have the strength I use to have. I know it's there , I know I'm together but something is breaking my spirit. I'm not crazy just confused with somethings and the way I feel at the moment in my life, is not the feeling I won't when
I love someone and defiantly not the feeling I won't when our kid comes into this world. Thank you brothers and sisters for the help and feedback you all are true kinder spirits and the day we get married you are all invited.

namaste

-Rodney-

 

Getting married due to pregnancy isn't always a good thing to do. It sounds like neither of you are ready or able to take care of a child financially.

I seriously doubt that you will ever marry this girl if you won't now. That seems especially unlikely since you keep feeling a need to run off.

Just let me say this though, the time you miss, with this lady and your child, while you are "confused and feeling weak" you will be sorry you missed it one day. You can never get that time back again. It's a precious fleeting thing.

Also, keep in mind you are likely building a mountain of negative feelings in Katie's family, in Katie and if you continue to stay away, acting like an irresponsible child, in the child.

Don't be surprised if, when you finally get your act together and want to be with your lady and your child, they say no and/or have moved on.

Good luck to you and to them.

 

Well I don't want to run off , just want to go to the gathering for a few weeks lol
And me feeling weak I know it's childish but it's just a stage in life i'm going through .

 

While you have the luxury of going away and sorting your head out, your GF does not have that luxury. My husband and I were not married when we got pregnant with our first son, but we were in a committed relationship, even though we had only been together for about 6 months when I got pregnant. If you truly love her, you need to figure out how to get your head straight and be there for her. I'm not saying rushing to the altar is the right thing to do...our son was almost a year old before we got married...but, I think you to understand that you more people than just you to think about in this situation.

 

why not marrying her after? why do you have to marry her cause she got pregnant?
Jus tmove togehter, and see. No reason to rush out we are not in the middleage. marriage is ment to marry virgin so to have children.. if oyu already got her pregnant then no reason to do the ritual in a hurry. "marry her before she start showing" said one!LOL! like they were doing several hundreds years ago! what an hypocrisy! what for? for the neighbourgs?
who caress!
it is your life her life! not theirs!
Move with her togehter in a house or flat, and thats it.

 

Oh, dude ! If you're not ready for a baby and marriage, you should have used something. Don't always think the girl is taking the pill and/or telling you the truth that she is. Some guys get traped into marriage because they get a girl pregnant. You never said, but do you love this girl? If so,
then it is more the getting married part that scares you. Marriage is a BIG
step, but who is really ready when they get married? If people wait until they think they are ready, there would be less people getting married. It's not when you get married, it's working on a good loving/trusting marriage that counts. Good luck to ya, dude.

 

she's pregnant and you're unemplyed and taking off to go to a rainbow gathering to 'float around in your thoughts'. On second thought don't marry her. Sounds like she'd be better off without you.

 

Bella, baby..Ouch !

 

Was what I said not true?

ps-I'm not your baby.