Should have posted here, given my question is about sex! Have you ever had sex with your housemate? Thanks in advance for advice! http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=274364
Well, the fact that there are other people in the household might make it a little less weird. But sex will always change a relationship. Not for the better or worse. It'll just change things. I say if you want her though. Go after her. Carpe Babe lisa. Cease the babe. Uh I recommend talking to her about it after you've slept with her a few times. Hopefully she'll feel the same way on the commitment issue. It is hard to be just fuck buddies with someone though. At first it's fine, but someone will usually want more. And you living in the same house already might compound that problem. So my advice is to go for it, but tread softly.
Thanks Lode I look forward to hear from people who've had a similar experience... particularly girls... anyone?
I had sex w/ 2 of my 4 roommates while we were all living together. No problems, still friends to this day, hang out etc. I say saddle up.
When I moved in September into a smallish place with three people, two of them my landlords, the other, another tenant, within about 5 days I was sleeping with the other tenant [not common practice for me--I lost my virginity with him.] My landlords didn't like this, and in November evicted me. I wasn't 'the initiator' of the relationship, both the guy and me were (btw it's heterosexual arrangement, but I am bisexual), however, the landlords evicted me and kept him on. This pisses me off (yay sexism: I was the slut; the guy was just doing his natural thing). Anyway, as for my relationship with him, we are getting closer and closer, and I find our connection intimate, though we've never formally committed to monogamy or anything. Now I'm living a ways away and it's hard to sleep with him because at my new place I can't have people overnight (rolleyes), so I have to go to his place and it feels slightly awkward because of the landlords. All in all, I am enjoying myself with him a great deal. It leads to a lot of satisfaction and closeness in my life. I suggest you talk to this lovely girl you're interested in. You could say (in a shmoozy relaxed way ;D ), "So, you're gay I understand. So far all of *my* relationships have been straight; I think you are damn sexy and I'd love to play with you. If you've thought about having an open friends-w-benefits relationship, I want you to know I'm interested." That's when you stop and let yourself fall into her eyes smiling without diluting what you just said with any "—that's all I wanted to say's" or "yeah.. I hope that wasn't weird," etc. xoxo I wish you well in your adventurings!
Fantastic reply white ginger. Thank YOU! Of course I have my own style (which I know I would've already used were we not housemates) but I really agree about the "not diluting it" bit. That is the trickiest bit.
Sounds good! My only point with suggesting what you might say is to be clear about what you are interested in and what you aren't. How could she resist? -let us know how it goes...
Certainly agree, ginger. Thanks everyone for the good (if varied) advice... I'm glad I asked. I have worked out my own approach. Since we converse really comfortably already -- numerous conversations about sex and relationships -- there is no rush. When I know we are comfortable enough that she could reject me and not affect our friendship I'll tell her I'm attracted. If I time it right that will be enough... (more at original post)
