Making a move on housemate... Any advice?

I want to make a move on my housemate but I would love to know about others' experience doing that before I go ahead. I'm a spontaneous person but realised I just can't be spontaneous about this -- it's not fair on her...

I live in a sharehouse of 6. It's a really large place though so not as crowded as you'd think it would be. The other thing that's unique about the place is the ages of the housemates range from about 25-45. I'm at the lower end as is the girl I'm attracted to. I'm straight (well have been so far) and she's openly gay. I don't think I want a romantic relationship beyond our already existing friendship, but I definitely do want to sleep with her! I'm attracted to her in every way, but not enough for a committed exclusive relationship. Also I can't see myself giving up men!

How might she react to me asking if, for example, I could kiss her and learn more from her about loving girls? I don't want her to feel uncomfortable.

Could our friendship realistically remain the same after this? Particularly if/when we didn't want to do anything sexual anymore?

Everyone in the house is friendly and I get on well with all of them. But how might the other housemate react when they find out?

thanks for any advice...

 

I'm sure she'd more than willing to break you in. Get some drinks and then get you some.

 

Talk to her frankly and tell her that you've been having some sexual curiosities and attractions to her lately, but be honest in saying that you don't think you are gay, and you value her friendship above all else. This might just be one you have to keep in your fantasy-bank. Most gay people I know don't like sleeping with someone who's bi-curious, especially if they're friends with said persons. Always exceptions to the rule, though.

 

Forgot to mention...might not be the best idea to hook up with a house mate.

 

from my own experience, hooking up with housemates just causes drama. I moved out a few months after I was with a roommate.

 

Thanks for the good (if varied) advice... I'm glad I asked. I have worked out my own approach. Since we converse really comfortably already -- numerous conversations about sex and relationships -- there is no rush. When I know we are comfortable enough that she could reject me and not affect our friendship I'll tell her I'm attracted. If I time it right that will be enough... (more here)