My mom informed me this weekend that she will be going back to her maiden name after my brother turns 18. I freaked out because she won't be what she has been for 18 years and by then it will be 20 years. I don't feel comfortable with this. I mean how would you feel about it? I know it is only a name.
I'M NOT SURE WHY IT WOULD FREAK YOU OUT/ people need to do what is best for them. you should be happy that your mother is taking action to make herself happy. at least she is doing what she perceives as the honorable thing and waiting until your brother is 18. can you tell me what about it bothers you? and i ask in an inquizitive not condescending way!
I am happy for my mom but why didn't she do it when she divorced my dad why wait until now? I mean she said she is only doing it because she wanted to be associated with us but now she doesn't want to be? I guess thats why I am bothered because if she wanted to be associated with us why not just not change it at all?
why do people go back to school when they are 50? it is just something they have to do for themselves. i have a friend that has stronger discouraged me changing my name back saying when she had a different last name then her children , it made things harder on her and people gave her looks. perhaps your mother was worried about the social implications that it would shine on her. i dont know. did you tell her that it upset you
Oh yeah I told her. I think she never wanted to change her name and she never did until I was born now I just feel like I am some type of burden as to why she did what she did and I guess I am upset that she is doing something like this even though she never wanted it. Kind of fucked up but she won't be my mom anymore with a different name she'll be Angela Say.
NOW WHY would you feel like a burden. that makes no sense. if you had been a burden, she wouldnt have done it for you. think about that. it is easy to get caught up in our own emotions when we feel things involve us, but honestly this is all about your mom and your mom. she did what she felt was right at the time. now it is her time. damn.....it must suck to have something so insignificant give you feels of burdenness. you are what you think you are. and emily, you are beautiful and wonderful and you should never feel anything but. its your time in this life, just as its your mothers. its time for you to not let anyone or anything affect how you see yourself. turn on your lovelight, into yourself, let it shine and you will realize that something as insignificant as a last name truly means nothing. after all its just language hun
Yeah, this is not out of the ordinary. My ex had been divorced from her ex for six years and still uses his name and says she may always will so that she has the same last name as her son. She had said should she re-marry she might consider taking on a new last name, but probably with a hiphen.
I guess that I don't understand what the problem is. I wouldn't mind if my mom went back to her maiden name. But I guess that since I am not, in fact, in that situation, I can't really say. If I ever get married I am keeping me name, unless my future husband has a really cool last name.
Haha Christine you don't like your dad much anyway but seriously a friend and I were talking about this. We are both changing our names because our last names sucks: Craig and Morris. Our future men have better names I am sure.
My aunt changed back to here maiden name a few months ago, when her kid turned 18...she said she waited because when she had first got divorced many years ago, the child had to have the fathers name in order for the mother to receive child support and/or for the father to have visiting rights. As for your mom wanting to change her name it might just be a way for her to move on from the marriage.
