Made account just to say thanks, maybe ill stick around too.

Good Morning All,

My name is Tyler. As the title states, I made this account to say thank you for starters. I came across this forum on google after deciding to do some research because I thought I had a problem. After seeing numerous threads, and reading stories from the likes of BarefootBoy and others, I discovered I wasn't alone. So I guess I will dive into my story and we will roll from there. Crack a beer, sip some water, whatever it is you drink, itll be a 10min read im sure lol.

For as long as I can remember I always had a fear of people seeing my feet, and I do not know why. I remember as a Toddler I had foot problems... but they weren't bad problems knowing this now. I just had wide feet, toes splayed correctly, etc. My mom had a hard time finding me shoes that fit correctly and it would often give me severe pain, or cause my toenails to split, crack etc. She also used to cut them so short it was just insanely painful. And I guess over time I just naturally ended up seeing my feet as a problem, got shy, and became embarrassed of them.

I can recall going to pool parties and just sitting there while the other kids had fun, because i didn't want people to see me in the actual act of taking my shoes and socks off.. like how pathetic is that? Years went by, I eventually became a teenager and we moved across the country(US), and we moved in with my grandparents in sunny hot Arizona-Love it! 6 of us under 1 roof, as time went on they all began to notice i always wore socks around the house. Then they started making a big deal out of it. They used to joke saying they were going to take pics of my feet while I was sleeping and put them on the internet. One day even we were sitting on the couch, and they decided to grab my legs, rip my socks off, and then were touching them asking how I keep them so soft and sh*t. I was beyond mortified, so that just further pushed my insecurity of them. Still to this day I still feel insecure about them, but ill get to that in a minute.

I think part of my problem with my feet being seen, is for as long as I can remember Ive always been attracted to girls feet. Later on obviously it was discovered to be a fetish, Id say I was 16 figuring this out. I have always kept that to myself. I am not one to talk about it ever with anyone because I feel embarrassed about it, with it being so taboo. Reading creepy comments on social media guys are leaving on girls photos furthermore has me keeping it to myself. I see other comments that are simple as "Nice Feet" and they have replies calling them a sick f*ck and all this other foul stuff.I have no identifiable info on here so i feel okay talking about this, and i also know it will help.

Seeing the normal typical responses and conversations involving feet, people are normally grossed out, they talk sh*t about people that like feet, as if its any different than liking any other part of the body. Like people are fine with eating ass, but kissing/licking soles is a problem? I dont get it. It just is what it is, but I always have these thoughts on the back of my mind. With that said, again, I have always kept it to myself. The only time I bring it up is with Girlfriends. Not one of them liked it. They would all let me do my thing with them, but I could tell it bothered them. Years later though, my ex fiances tells me she enjoyed it, but gave me the most sh*t of them all? I Dont get it. Seems like finding someone thats okay with a foot fetish is going to be next to impossible at this point. Moving along now.

I am in the Army and I am surrounded by cocky douchebags and what not. Combine that with other friends that are also insecure but dont admit it, its hard to get my feet out of shoes and socks.
And thats where curiosities, research, and stumbling across this page came into play.

I started wondering if I was alone in this, its got to be just me insecure over something silly like this. And then I started reading these forums, all the stories, I realized wow I am not alone at all. I took yalls advice 1000%. I started out by changing my grocery shopping time. I started going at 6am right when it opened. Everyones still sleeping, its the weekend so theyre hungover LOL, perfect. I drove to the store in shoes. And before I got out I said F it, took em off and put flip flops on. Going out to the shoe store and trying on flip flops was also scary. Had to look around make sure noones looking and try them on. First time ever wearing them, the air felt great, bought em. So I started grocery shopping around the house. Then I started just being barefoot around the house, which i still do to this day. At the time my best friend and his mom lived with me. She didnt care. My buddy would see me leaving in flip flops and hed crack jokes saying nice sandals and crap like that. At first I was like seriously? Then I thought, hes insecure as hell. Hes got pastey white feet, bunions, never trims his nails so they cut his shoes up alot LOL.

So we fast forward now to 2021, I am now 30, slowly giving less of a sh*t and here is where things currently lay. Waiting for Glenn to give me sh*t LOL. Its still on my conscience every time i go out. I am NOT into actual bare footing. Its not my thing but props to yall. But going out in flip flops, sometimes chacos, and getting ballsy with crocs because theyre comfortable. Vivos are my absolute go to thouse. Foots covered, by theyre mesh, and my feet feel great, they can breathe, blah blah. I am fine with going out and strangers seeing my feet. Friends on the other hand... that have known me to never take my shoes and socks off.. thats still a thing I need to learn to say F it and do. I dont know why, but I feel like if they see me wearing flops or something similar, they wont take me seriously, or value me less of a man for having worn them, which is stupid I agree. Our minds are our own worst enemies. I know no one cares, but for some reason I do. I also like to add, I love earthing/grounding hell yea! Moved into a new house, tons of yard work to be done out back. So I do it all barefoot and enjoy it, and feel so much better afterwards. Cant wait to grow actual grass.

Theres much more to say, but I will probably just save it for replies to comments if I even get any. But my point is, I just wanted to say Thank You to you all! Without finding this page and everyone's openess to talk about this topic, I probably would still be in my shoes 24/7. Baby steps... I am getting there.

Have a good one,
Tyler aka (One of the 20,000 Viewers of that one thread haha I read it)
I might stick around... it seems like a cool forum to be apart of and I am not a forum guy.

 

Welcome Tyler. Glad you found this place and that it helped. Keep 'em bare!

 

Welcome to the forum. Tyler, I currently live in Sunny and hot Arizona I sure can relate to your story as I battled foot shyness and have a massive foot fetish like yourself. It's great to know we are in good company. As you age your insecurities will fade and someday you will be asking yourself why did I ever have to deal with this as you enjoy wearing flip flops and going barefoot in public with no hesitations.

BTW, my wife is ok with me having a foot fetish.

 

Salutations, new guy.

Your story definitely draws parallels to mine. Especially where family members are concerned. Few things are worse than your own flesh and blood acting inconsiderate about things that are sensitive to you. But I don't think it's quite at fetish levels with me. I do appreciate when girls do the whole bare feet with a T-shirt + shorts look, but there's still a long way from that to wanting to have footjobs.

You should definitely try barefoot driving one of these days. It's what I now do every summer. There's a level of sensitivity to working the pedals that you simply cannot achieve with shoes. Pools? That was one of the handful of locations where I was actually able to bare mine without issues in the past, because near bodies of water it's the natural and expected thing to do, if you're gonna swim. Funny enough, gym class/PE was another, because it was very common for the kids in my group to just barefoot trough the whole class, rather than spend money on dedicated indoor shoes, so mine didn't stand out too badly.

I finally swallowed the whole barefoot pill, when I needed to cure an unfortunate case of fungus on my toenails. This led me to experimenting with winter snowfooting as a cure, and sure enough, it worked. This was between the ages of 27-32 for me, and I've been bare ever since. My big regret now is the loss of all those childhood barefooting experiences that I can never again get a chance to experience.

Good luck to your future barefoot adventures.

 

Grew up in the tropics? Man that is awesome! If I was born into that atmosphere I probably wouldnt of been so shy growing up as for its the norm and I assume everyone does it? And you are right, F what other people think. I am great with that in all aspects of my life, minus my feet insecurity.

 

Oh really? What Part? I grew up in Mesa. I read your story, it was very inspiring, as this forum is, I actually went shopping in the flops right after I wrote the post I was so motivated... and I forgot I was even wearing them honestly. I cant wait for this one and only insecurity to be gone for good lol. Cheers

 

Yea! I opened up to my mom about how it made me feel recently and she said although she does not remember it, she does apologize for it. I am not at footjob levels either I dont think, at least I am not drawn to that, but its definitely a fetish. I have pulled the vehicles around the area of the house barefoot and yes its definitely different. I drive with minimalist shoes A LOT and it feels as barefoot as you can get without being barefoot. The pools thing was when i was young. Once I was 11 or 12, the pool I was fine with. Anywhere besides a pool and shower though, the socks stayed on. I was one of those guys that walked on the beach in shoes and got pics with the girlfriend haha. If I had to be barefoot in school during PT id probably pass out haha.
And I just got back from Korea, when it snows here, I am going to try that as well. I dont have a fungus, but both pink toenails, theyve been squished against a shoe for so many years that i dont know if its permenant damage, but the nail is white, and a new fresh nail has been trying to grow in but it just stops at the cuticle and its really thick. I bet the snow feels great though!

 

Tucson

 

It does, but you have to be careful. You could literally freeze your toes off, if you stay in there for too long. It's after all made of icy water.

 

Barefooting is a sport.

So ok army douche probably tougher then me in lots of different ways but 10 mile hike to the beach barefoot no shoes,

Who is going to win cocky douche bag or regular barefooter with naturally developed feet ?

I would win.

 

Ability to go barefoot is a survivalist and combat thing,

I would not take any shit from army folks,

 

I should not have not even have tried to reply last night, too much drinking at a party, so unhealthy, couldn't even read the whole post picked out part about army.

I just want to see what time I posted this.

 

Well just came back from the store after the above post and the woman that works there known her for years but today she was wearing flip flops I never saw her feet before and she has nice ones and I told her wow nice feet.

Its so silly I am worrying over some one in a billion chance, an impossibility if I type in the short conversation word for word someone will know this screen name is me!! 1000s of guys told women this morning nice feet all over the world.

Oh well here goes she was wearing toe rings and I said no fair I want to be able to wear toe rings too, is it fun walking around in them ?? And thats how I started conversation about her feet.

(guys are obviously allowed too wear them but I went with you can and I cant as convo starter)

I guess my best advice to anyone here who is still shy about feet and has "fetish" just throw out that whole idea of fetish when interacting with the ladies and just keep it as "feet are fun" I like feet, feet are fun going barefoot is fun foot rubs are fun and thats it.

I would never tell people I like looking on the internet to see if someday I will find that perfect picture of some perfect feet, thats private. I would rather look at feet then butts. OK so what ! Zillion webpages all made about nice feet so its not just me

I am so hung over, when will I learn ?? This is so horrible.

Anyway I was there, the same way when I was younger always keeping my feet covered ect. Again the best advice I got is keep it as "feet are fun" and the more you go barefooting you feel less and less anxious about it till its completely gone.

 

Wow my long reply got deleted. Awesome. Sigh...
I've drunk texted way more times then i care to admit lol. As far as the Army goes I can pretty much laugh off anything anyone says, and thats a whole nother story. We did a 4 mile run the other day, me wearing vivos. One of them asked what those shoes were and he never seen them. I told him theyre minimalist shoes and they follow the shape of my feet because theyre wide, and anything like nike or addidas etc hurts to wear because its too narrow. He joked and said i got monkey feet and imitated it with his hand by spreading his fingers out. I was like yea thats the way theyre supposed to be. He told me I was wrong... as usual.. im wrong about everything. Ok.

As far as conversating with girls about their feet. Thats a never from me. Its just been made into something to be too taboo. Those 1000 guys you mentioned im betting if its anything like i see on social media, 999 of them got called pervs or sick F*cks. I see those comments 100% of the time and only other fetishist will defend the person. But the stuff they say like "I want to smell those feet" or "ooo those are yummy" I agree, thats effing weird. I've always kept it to myself outside of girlfriends I felt comfortable with telling, but all of them same thing, grossed out by it, but they allowed it to make me happy, which to me kinda isnt right.

I have often wondered if there is foot fetish dating website so i can just for the love of god meet a girl who is okay with it, so its out of the way and we can move on with our lives you know? I dont like to make a big deal out of it, but I like what I like and if I want to give them some loving just let me do it haha. Like you said, I dont understand why noone bats an eye over boobs or ass, but if its feet its a problem. Or as I mentioned people are cool with eating ass but are grossed out by feet. I dont get it.

Showing my feet is probably going to be on my conscience for a long time. But I am wayyy better than i was before. Its baby steps. I dont want it to be a big deal like it kind of is right now and I cant wait until I am at that point.

Btw, I am also familiar with your username as for ive seen your replies/posts alot. Good content keep it up

 

I have done that freely without any regrets. I've complimented a few women on their feet saying that "they have nice feet" and then simply shut up! I will continue our discussion of feet if they however do so. I have willfully told some ladies that I have a foot fetish but only after they get to know me as a innocent and respectfully, a nice guy. Coming out of the closet as a barefooter and foot fetishist have been very therapeutic for me .My rule is that I look but never touch unless they care to show me their foot in a couple of instances that I have personally experienced. You hear these stores in the media about these creeps that don't know fantasy from reality who end up violating their personal space so to speak. I'm definitely not one of them. Sadly, they give us other foot fetishists a bad name.

 

That's Awesome man. More power to you. I am pretty much the same way but only with girls i am dating. And even then its brought up just in texts or messenger. I have never actually spoken to a girl about it face to face. I feel embarrassed about it. Not sure why either Lol. Probably from everything I see I guess. And I do agree, they give us a horrible name. People being close minded doesn't help either although I think secretly they're all insecure as well.