Lowering Libido Or Becoming Asexual?

Hey all,

I'll get right to the point. I want to no longer desire sex. I fluctuate between having a so-so sex drive to being constantly sort of on edge. What are some consistent, and non-harmful ways to either reduce or eliminate sexual drives and urges? Does anyone have any experience in this? I know this is a pretty counter-intuitive question, but I figure someone on here might know.

-Steve

 

Haldol

 

:d

 

Messing with your hormones is never a good idea, you probally already have an imbalance if you feel this way. Get your hormones checked.

 

I feel quite the opposite. Decreased sex drive and I'd like to up it.

Here are some tips!
-Date vile women!
-Pour your heart, soul, and ever ounce of being into a relationship!
-Watch as your girlfriend cheats on you with 6 or more of your friends!
-Break up with her
-Break up with her again!
-Muster up the courage to break up with her once and for all!
-Feel depressed as she takes all of her belongings out of your house
-Prepare for a lifetime of loneliness
-Repeat until desired results are acheived



Now get out there and show em what you got!

 

Is that a drug?

 

That has a lot of bad side effects, though. Castration stops most testosterone production, which can cause weight gain, man boobs, and depression.

 

I've had all of my levels and vitals checked. I'm good to go.

This is all pyschological, the reason I feel like this...physiologically I'm totally healthy. I want to fuck all the time. But it's also pretty destructive and distracting. I don't want it anymore.

 

You know, at least you've been able to date girls...I have failed so many times. One of the reasons I'm giving up. I've had one girlfriend my entire life, and she dumped me. I'm 27 years old now. I have a lot of lady friends who are close to me, and I wanted to date all of them at one point. They all telll me the same thing: "you're a great guy!" I'm tired of hearing it. I got to the point where I was so desperate for sex that I even started to mess around with escorts and massage parlors. It's awful. I want to be innocent again...I want to not care about dating and sex anymore. I have tried online dating, asking for numbers of girls out at social things/church/work, and nothing. I'm just undateable or something.

 

So in other words, you turn into a girl

 

So youre more of a sex addict then, yes I see where that could be emotionally hazardous to your health. My friend sees someone for the same issue.

 

Not sure if youre a sex addict or you want it so much because in your mind its unobtainable.

 

Now, this is just my opinion, but state of mind has a lot to do with almost every aspect in life. If you 'believe' that you're undateable and focus on all your 'failures,' you'll continue to fail at things that you want to acheive, Which, I guess it doesn't mean much coming from me, since I believe I'm more than a decent guy suitable for a wide variety of women, yet I've been single for over 5 years now :unsure:

But it still helps to have a positive attitude. And when all else fails, I can always use self-comedy. It's just not as easy meeting new people, men or women outside of community settings like school and work. When I go to the grocery store, I don't talk to anyone. I go in, get my groceries and get the hell out. It also seems to help if you have a wingman when you go out. Someone to make random conversations with random people just a little less awkward.

But! If you're trying to rid your life of sex and relationships, then most of my point is null. It does seem to help by having a positive attitude tho. Even when all that surrounds you is grim.

 

I don't see how you can really become asexual. I'm not really sure at all that you can even change your sexuality. Why would you want to lower your libido? Couldn't you just jerk off like everyone else, or seek abstinence guidance from your local kingdom hall of jehovah's witnesses? I've just never heard of anyone who is, in a way, blessed with sexuality who wants to reduce it. I would say that on this scale, I'm C3, and my lack of sexual desire or initiation causes problems within my relationships, but once started by my partner I am more than willing to please them, it's just a process.

 

I am very definitely an E 1.

Sexuality is bad for me because I seem to not be able to express it readily other than just masturbating. But masturbation doesn't really alleviate wanting more.

 

That's just it though. I like my life, for the most part. I have a lot going for me. I don't totally hate myself. I do have an undercurrent of some self loathing but I recognize it as bad and try to correct my thoughts all of the time. I mostly am much better than I used to be on this.

My social skills are pretty good. I get along with most people and I've been told I'm a great conversationalist. I've even had a lot of women, including lady friends I have now who I'm securely inthe friend zone with, tell me that I'm even pretty good looking.

So that said, I don't know why I have almost no success with women, other than the fact that I know that I am a nice guy. I'm a very nice guy. I will assert myself sometimes, but I'm willing to compromise on things if they aren't that important to me. I'm not really a emotionally dynamic person either. The stereotype that women subconsciously like assholes is somewhat true, because many assholes are very assertive and very confident, plus a lot of them tend to have a wide array of emotional dynamic and are often funny. I'm kind of just a nice, mild mannered guy, and I don't think I can change that.

 

Also, I should state that I want to get rid of my sexuality because at this point, it's a distraction from all of the good things in my life. It seems like my mind attributes all of my self worth around how attractive I am to women and the fact that I fail with them pretty regularly makes me thing I'm crap, when I know that I am not crap. I want to change this, but it seems like a fundamental thing. Like my main genetic perrogative is just to mate or something. (which I guess it is...but I'm not just an animal.)

 

Next time you are on a date show him/her that crimson periodic table, pretty much guaranteed to get laid



NOT

 

Hey babe, I'm an E 3...you know what that means don't ya? *rasies eyebrow*