I have this feeling right now, that love is created by us , is just something you imagine. The idea last so long with you that it becomes real. By this I'm not saying it doesn't exist, What I'm saying is, that we are the creators of love. And it will cease to exist when we stop creating it. It all lies within us, we just need to get it out. Love is not a word, is an action. More than a feeling, is life. Whenever I get in this forum, is dissapointing to me, that it feels like love is fading away. I mean all you find here.. is sex (most of it) not that there is anything wrong with it, is good, talk about it. The thing that dissapoints me, is that we are not as driven by love as we are by sex. I feel like this really idealistic, romantic person, I'm really idealistic.. romantic, don't know. This is just for us who love, love, who love to love. So love anyone?
I've always kind of thought that, too.... it's kind of like time... there really isn't such a thing as time, or measured time, at least... there's no such thing as a second or a minute or an hour, really.... it's just something we've come up with and have gotten used to thinking is something natural. Do you get what I mean? I know what I'm talking about, but it's hard to get it across. Anyway, what I mean is, if we were to irradicate it and never talk about it again, people would forget about it like it never existed. But love is a little different.... well, people are naturally attracted to each other, I guess, but that's not love... it's instinct. I'm kind of rambling. I'm sleepy.
it would be refreshing if we saw some more "love" posts on the "love and sex" forum... i'm looking for somebody to love
I know I'm gonna get crap for this, but I think the love and sex forum is filled with a lot of trash.
It totally is.... I try to keep it cool, but there is just this little handful of people who just really suck. If I had the power to ban them or whatever, I totally would. If you ever have a big problem with anything or anyone, though, just let me know.
okay i've been posting some retarded posts lately... just can't seem to think straight, but these posts got me thinking a little... I used to go to church a whole lot last year, and would hear ALL the time that love is not an emotion, it's a commitment. Basically, since you're supposed to love everybody, as a Christian (meaning, Christ-like) then you have to CHOOSE to love everybody... you must make that commitment to love somebody in order to do it fully, since some ppl are "hard to love"... I think it's interesting, and true to a point. When do you realize you love somebody anyway? I think at one point one thinks, hey, this person needs somebody to love them.. or hey, I want this person to love me, or, wow, this person is awesome, I enjoy being with them, I must love them! anyhow... i'm really rambling now...
I totally agree with u about the fact that people are now motivated by sex. I have observed many girls and many guys. It seems that about half the girls and guys are motivated mostly by sex and then complain that they aren't being loved. I think that the words "i love u" has lost its value and meaning in these modern times. I came to realize that love is expressed best by showing not by saying it. Anyone can say "i love u" but only those who truly do can really show it.
Exactly what I think.. the Love & Sex Forum is full of meaningless things, I don't want to shut them up. I mean they are free to say it. What I say is where have the love gone?? I think the love and sex forum should be divided into 2 different forums because they are two different things. And for us love seekers, and I mean just like finding some emotions, experiences, we get hit.. with all this.. Sex.. that at least me, stops looking for a thread that is about love. it makes me lose hope. I think is sad. It's like there's no love to find.
I agree with you too!! and i love that, "this is just for us who love, love,who love to love." beautiful!!!!
..Thanx, let's just say I got inspired. The weird thing is that it came from the lack of love, I find around here.
this is more the sex forum then the love forum...meh...sex is great...can't really blame people. there is a specific relationship forum, that'd prolly be the best spot for love posts...this is prolly gonna get pushed to the bottom of the page pretty quick becasue sex takes up so much of our thoughts...not complaining of course...
Love must have good sex. And, if you truly love someone special, you do want to have sex with them. It is difficult to talk about love because it affects everyone differently. Some take it in their stride, others are overwhelmed and it dominates their persona. Many have had attractions for someone and mistaken those little attractions for love. They have never really loved at all in the way I know love. Sex is easier to define. It is an act, rather than a feeling. It is measurable rather than indefinable. Love is sublime and the most wonderful thing in the world. Sex is beautiful, particularly when it is sex with someone you love. Mark
I have felt that for quite a while. I started feeling that way after a break up with a girl who I thought I was in love with me, but that simply drove me crazy and simply scared me mentally. I realized that I did condition myself to feel that it was love. I did that to myself dont get me wrong so for the most part I was mad at myself. The result was to make sure to stay away from emotions at all in the romantic department. I developped great friendships with girls but if they wanted to be too close I closed the tie... Now that I have let a little time go by I dont exactly feel the same way anymore. I think a lot of couple do condition themselves but I dont think that all do and I certainly dont want to get sucked on to something like that as well. I still feel I conditionned myself, but I do think that there is more to love then that. I just had to stay out on the market long enough to find it. I dont want to settle with just anyone now I feel alright with just being alone then being in bad company or just some kind of company! Love will come for whomever is willing to wait long enough to find it. For all of us in my case.... feel lucky there is casual sex!!! Greg
I agree. This forum is very much steered towards sex, which is no bad thing, but where has the love gone? Was it ever there? Is this symbolizing the absence of love when it comes to sex? Ahh dunno...just a thought. That was nice to read, because I'm with you on that one. It's...I dont know. I think the word "love" is thrown around alot. I overheard some 11 year old kids in the library a couple days ago teasing one of their friends because he loves some girl in their class. I thought it was adorable, and couldn't resist giggling because I remember those days so well. You could easily argue that this kid wasnt in love, he just had fond feelings for a cute girl, but who's to say what love is? Is there a dictionary definition that everyone must adhere to? I feel love for alot of people. Alot. In different ways. I love my friends so much. Two of them are leaving for college and I was verging on tears yesterday because I'm going to miss seeing them everyday. One has already left, and I miss them so much. Two different people told me they loved me yesterday, I was a little surprised, but I said it back. I meant it. I really did. However with the words being banded around so much, they have indeed lost some meaning. At the same time though, love is still not shown enough. I do still think those words special. It's still the most wonderful thing someone can tell you. You dont have to want to move mountains or build castles for someone in order to truely feel love for them, you just have to mean it when you say "I love you". I just feel like this romantic, idealistic weirdo who needs to get a grip sometimes. I'm sorry.
I've recently fallen in love with someone I can't have sex with. We're both cool with it, but it's an adjustment. I said I would leave it, but I tihnk I might try and work on him
