Let's have a discussion on Love. What is Love? Does it exist? Do you agree that sometimes people think they are in Love, but are Not? Then How can we know if Love is real? Are there Different Types of Love, like one for ones family, for ones friends, for one's sexual partner, and an abstract kind of Love directed towards all life or beauty? Or is there only one Love? Why have we as humans decided that a person may only have ONE sexual partner which we have termed as the ONE WE LOVE. As if we may only Love one person. Why do we attempt to limit Love?
i don't think there's different types of love, i think it's just directed in different ways. toward your family, toward your friends, toward humanity as a whole, or toward your someone you're sexually attracted to...i think all love springs from the same place.
Did you know that if you remove the amygdala from the brain you stop feeling any emotion towards others? Love is a purely biochemical operation.
thats so interesting, but of course we all knew that all emotion we have is "purely biochemical" I know that love, for me, cannot be controlled by social constraints. I am "in love with" at least 3 people, actively, right now. By actively I mean I feel all those feelings associated with being in love, missing that person, thinking about them, feeling "butterflies" when I see them, feeling sick when something doesnt go the way I wished, etc. But I have currently failed in figuring out how I should proceed in these matters, as social constraints affect life so strongly.
life can get kinda hairy if you try to cram too many relationships in there...especially since society doesn't support it in any way. i like to keep things simple.
simple is good. i know whats easiest. but i hate lying to myself. then again, i think, is there any truth? i had this conversation with a good friend, devout christian, who believes in god, the bible, and not evolution. she said that she believes in a true right and wrong, because otherwise how could we know anything. and i know that life would be easier and more simple if we all followed rules like that, but reaity shows me that life is never so simple, and should we JUST EMBRACE it? Is That Truth? I know I think too much, but I can hardly help it.
i wasn't thinking of following rules, i was thinking of exercizing common sense in my life. we each have limited time and resources to dedicate to a relationship, to our family and to our survival. we have to live in our environment, including our social structure, as it is. how each of us chooses to spend our resources is up to us. i don't know why lying to yourself would have to enter in.
Common sense can take you so far, but when real emotions take you, it is lying to yourself to turn from them. Part of me believes that people come into your life for a reason, and you have the chance to learn something from them, and perhaps teach them something as well. With this in mind, I am open to all people who appear in my life. Being open to relationships doesn't seem to be wrong in common sense, indeed, it seems peaceful and good. But its true, finding one "partner" to accompany your life is the best plan, common sense in mind. But finding that one...that's too hard, you don't know until it goes wrong.
that one you speak of above, is or can be one of many. we creatures..for that is what we are. are not by nature monogamous.indeed females of humankind differ from other species only in their having imagination, which allows societal restraints to be placed upon their thoughts and actions. man was ever a hunter, a taker, of females as any animal does. the result is that the female is frustrated;the male is too.
If you THINK you are in love, you are. Period. There is no one universal definition of love. It is what you make of it. That doesn't mean it has to last forever or be "true and "perfect". HOWEVER, my personal feelings are there is are two different ways of looking at love. There is love that is basically in your brain, chemicals and such that go nuts when you are falling someone. ...Now most will probably disagree with me but I also feel there is a deeper love that is more of a supernatural connection between two. It goes past the physical world, and way beyond your biological makeup. Don't get my wrong, I don't believe in soul mates, per se, because I think these combinations are possible with more than one person for every person (if that makes sense)..but maybe for some it is only one person...I guess it depends. I never believed in this before but once you experience it, you just know it. Instantly. However, the conventional love that most of us experience at least once of twice in our lives, is just what you make of it. If you are in love, enjoy it! Don't analyze it!
A drug. I loved once. Then I died. Every breath tastes like shit, yet... My eyes smell the stench of nothing and, I love it.
A more interesting question is, what is intimacy. Love is a subjective feeling and there are so many generalizations about it, it's impossible to avoid a cacophonous noise around it unless you offer your own very tight little definition.
has anyone ever thought of love as a decision? i've decided to love people not based on it being returned but because they need it. sometimes it's difficult to feel this way toward them but i it's always there.
of course you can think you're in love, and not be in love. Assuming that our definitions of "In love" are roughly the same that is. I used to think I was in love with every new girl I met...then i realized I was just incredibly horny.
And without love, without the hope of love, life is not worth living. We end up being lonely, depressed, frustrated and repressed our whole life. I take it that you have never fallen in love or known love. It's only the most talked about thing on the planet, all the poems, books and love songs... Otherwise, everything is nothing but purely biochemical reactions. That and you have devalued the worth of the human being and put it on par to a clothes hanger.
