Love u when here. hate u when gone

Is it possible for 2 of the most opposite people to ever have a relationship to accept the differences of the other person. And I'm not talking about 2 sides to the same coin. More like, a relationship between a mouse and a tiger. I'm a loser stay at home type, alone in the crowd person. He's like a crazy party animal. I'm a poor student (and I mean POOR!) and he has a career. He looks like a freak, and I look like a part of the background. And he lives 3 hrs away.

But here's the problem, everytime I'm not with him, I hate him! It's mostly my fault, even in the beginning I've given him the reins to the relationship. But even the hate is love. It's just born out of frustration that the guy that I love is so damned hard to understand. I think he agrees that he cant understand me either. I can't ask him to change(then I wouldn't be loving him, I would be loving the guy I made him into), I don't even want him to change. I just want to know why I hate him so much sometimes. We never really fight, just disagreements and then we sook for an hr and make up. Maybe what we need is a flying foreign objects freak out session. I don't know. If I knew I wouldn't be asking advice. Got any? Anyone in similar situations? AHHHHHHH!!!

 

Hey there.
My boyfriend once said to me, 'do you know, if we are not lovers, we would be the worst of the enemies and fight everyday.'

That is true. Actually, there are many things that he does that makes me so frustrated but not that he's doing it intentionally to hurt me, but then there are also things that are so sweet. We don't fight often but just have misunderstandings and disagreements derived from my frustrations.

Not to mention the fact that our backgrounds are totally different. He's lived in his country for 26 years before coming to my country, so this is the first time he has come into contact with a different culture personally. I on the other hand had grew up just about all over the world and intergrated with people from just about every possible background. He has a very good degree from a very reputable university while I on the other hand am still trying to find ways to complete my degree. Not because I am dumb but certain family reasons had held me back. His family has been very simple and 'normal' while my family is more like a soap opera, very complicated.

How did we get together and managed to stay together for over a year? I don't know, maybe its because we don't live together and don't see each other all that often but I know that he really loves me and I feel the same about him. However, that doesn't stop me from facing reality that our backgrounds are just totally different and if the tolerance and willingness to learn and understand each is not there, it would be over long ago.