I'm with this girl that i've been with for over a year. And lately things haven't been going well. We haven't been able to make love for months and months 9 maybe out of 14. I know that has alot to do with it. Because in the beginning we made love all the time. But lately it just feels fake when we kiss or hug. And when we get in arguments i can't keep my kewl like i use to. I guess i don't feel that I should have to fight with her when I don't even feel like we're together. So when things are bad they are really bad but the horrible thing is they are never really good anymore. I think we've lost something. And i don't know how to get it back. Things have been hard since the beginning. We were forced to move in together prematurely so alot of problems are a direct result of that. The problem is that I really love her. When I think about what we had it hurts like thinking about someone who broke your heart. So i know i still love her. I just can't seem to get back to that place. Where we were happy. But I know that I can't hold on much longer. It just hurts too bad. I guess i'm just trying to find out if theres any hope at all. Or if I should just throw in the towel. It seems like a lose lose situation to me. She's really the only woman i've ever loved like this and I don't think i'll find one like her again, but it's just been a struggle. theres alot of painful memories there too. I put alot of myself into this woman and i had to stick by her through alot of her personal problems, that kind of put me on hold.I gave her my life and I don't want to let her go. but I know that sometimes it's not about what you want. I just feel trapped. This is not at all what i imagined for us. If anyone out there can shine some light on this for me. I would greatly appreciate it. I need to move on one way or another I just need a little help or a point in the right direction Thanx Mike
YEP love is a bitch even though i have never dated but i have and still am in love with my best friend hehe peace chickens
ok mike, im really sorry for you, and there's not much i can do or say, but here's what i can say... you can't live your life in the past. love isn't what has happened, so much as what is happening and what's going to happen. you need to think long and hard whether braving the rough patch is going to work...is there a rainbow just around the corner? you can try things like giving each other space, sometimes this can kick start both your feelings, and do talk with her. and don't lose your cool, it doesn't solve anything and you know that. i wish you all the best, i've tried grasping at the remains of love, and it was hard and painfull, but hopefully you can do it and remember, sex isn't an issue unless you make it one
