Hi, I've only been with one person, a woman, and I'm very interested in men. But I'm very scared of STDs, I want to find someone who I can be fairly certain is clean. Obviously I'll use a condom but they aren't 100% effective. On top of that, if I ended up bottoming, I predict I'd end up getting pretty emotional. I'm like that during sex, I've almost cried before while fucking my ex, and I don't want to just go through this kind of thing with a complete stranger who would probly just look at me like "wtf dude" But I have no idea where to meet gay/bi men! Does anyone have any advice? Internet is not really an option, tried it, went terribly. Not 21, can't go to bars, and probly wouldn't want to anyway. I feel more than a sexual need to be with a man, it's almost like my soul is telling me "this is meant to happen."
Now that you have casually dismissed the two major avenues for men to meet other men: internet and real life cruising for sex, you are left with option of joining a sport club, choir, or any other gay social group in your area. This works for some people, though not for all. Remember that not everyone out there is a 21 year old Greek god, and that quite average looking guys are having fun and enjoying themselves, too. A few of us who have been around the block for more than couple of times will tell you that if you want to have the things you have never had before, you'll have to do the things you have never done before or are basically not keen on doing. No two guys are exactly the same. You tend to be very emotional in sex. Mention this to the guy you plan to have sex with. There is nothing to be ashamed of, and he needs to know that this is how you react to sexual experience. A smart dude will be most likely be thrilled. The world is full of WTF dudes who train the 'I do not give a flying...' attitude. Good Luck, KD
Definitely not looking for a greek god! Lol just someone not ridiculously older than me whose personality I like. But by doing things I'm not keen on doing, do you basically mean I need to give up on the whole fantasy of meeting and dating a guy, and just go for whoever's feeling horny?
There quite a few available and willing men out there. Try to look for the guys whom you find attractive on both accounts without shooting too far away from your league. Nope. Why would you want to give up on your fantasy. That's what is supposed to keep you going. You just need to put some serious work into it. KD
