Looking for a friendly listening ear and honest opinion

Hi, hope you’re all very well and having a great weekend
I’m new here and don’t have anyone around me that I can confide fully in, I feel lonely and a bit lost.
So, I’ve known someone for a little over 2 years. We work together and up until the last couple of months they’ve not really crossed my mind as anyone special, just a nice work colleague.
We had a bit of a flirt on a night out, and since I’ve suddenly developed these really intense feelings. It’s almost torture, I can’t switch off from it, it’s affecting my home life as I have a male partner and my feelings are for a female colleague.
The problem is that they are very complex, I feel sometimes it’s mutual and other times I feel a fool and it’s not reciprocated at all.
They are single and as far as I know have no potential partners on the horizon. I know they like men and women, I know they think a lot of me as they have said so. I think they have 100% picked up that I am behaving differently towards them, but I think (or hope!) that they don’t quite realise why!
Just looking for someone to chat with, maybe that’s in a similar situation or is good at giving sound advice
Hope I haven’t gone on too much there and hope to be around the forums regular - thank you!

 

I hope everything goes well for you and I am no Dr. Phil and need advice of my own. I have fake people and game players but sometimes I feel like I am a hypocrite too. I would straight up be blunt with do we have a chance or no. Don't want to hurt you or me and waste time.

 

Welcome aboard. Keep posting til you can DM. If you want just DM me if you just want to talk about anything. I can usually make some time to chat for a while.

 

Thank you, i should be braver, if it wasnt a work situaton i’d be more likely to face it head on. If you ever want to chat, i am always open, thanks for replying ☺️

 

Thank you for your lovely reply, I will keep posting, it seems a safe, chatty place to be ☺️

 

Welcome from North Carolina.

 

Welcome and thank you for you honest openness. Hoping the best for you. I’m sure you’ll get others to pipe in and share thoughtful suggestions. Be safe and enjoy!!

 

Hello Carla! Welcome from the sandy (temporarily snow covered) shores of Michigans West Coast.

We have threads covering most topics here, and you will be able to DM soon.

 

Welcome from Oregon.

 

Thank you ☺️ greetings, from the UK

 

Thank you for your warm welcome, looking forward to having a look around and hopefully give as much advice as I get ☺️☺️

 

Thank you ☺️ greetings from the uk

 

Thank you for your warm welcome, looking forward to becoming a member. Greetings from a mild UK (hopefully no snow on the way for us and yours clears up!)

 

Welcome from San Diego

 

Thank you ☺️ hello from the UK

 

Hi Carla,

You are by no means a fool for trying to figure out your feelings. I think you need to have a real conversation with your co-worker and see if their could be a future with her. It takes a lot of courage to act on feelings but they could be worth it if they are strong enough. Hope this gives you a bit more confidence in figuring out what to do next. I'm still new to Hip Forums as well, so I can't DM you yet.