Long distance guy problemos.

I've been talking to a guy I like a lot from another state. He's in Florida and I'm in Connecticut. We've been talking for 2 months now and a couple days ago he stops replying/won't answer any of the new texts I send. He only has an instagram, I have him added on there. He's liked and uploaded pictures since the 2 days have passed. Our ages are 19 and 26. I know that seems a little old for me but we have a lot in common and he's amazing! He does like me too and i know he isn't catfishing me. Don't worry. And we aren't together. Am I being too clingy or what? I'm just a bit confused and want some advice from everyone. Thank you for the answers.

 

what the hell is catfishing?

those ages shouldn't be an issue.

there could be a lot of reasons that he isn't replying. maybe his phone fell in the toilet. maybe you're being too clingy and he wants you to back off. maybe he realized he isn't interested and doesn't have the balls to tell you. maybe he found a real life girlfriend. maybe your texts just didn't go through. maybe he's actually a girl, considering he has an instagram.

 

Haven't seen the show Catfish?
And I told him from the start I'm a little clingy, he didn't mind. And he's been single for over a year. What a weird coincidence if he found someone the same time he's talking to me though.

 

i've never heard of the show catfish.

well you've been talking for 2 months. it's not like he met two girls the same day.

besides, it does seem to work like that. i don't know why, but it seems like you either have nobody who's interested in you, or you have multiple people at the same time.

 

There's not much information here to give any advice. You sound kinda clingy-stalky with all this "he's uploaded pictures to his instagram in the past 2 days but isn't replying to any of my messages"

I mean I guess it's pretty normal for girls to do that sort of thing, but you don't even know this guy really.

I wonder if you aren't like 15 years old. I could see myself getting crushed out on a boy I met on the internet at 15 if he was hot and paid attention to me, and then bugging out if he stopped.

 

It's just.... He's perfect for me. And I'm also just saying it's weird he can upload and like pictures, but he can't send me one text? It's not like I'm searching for his address and appearing at his house. Sigh.

 

He could send you a text, he's just not doing it. It's not easy but you have to just forget about him. He could seem perfect and be the worst possible mate you could imagine, it might take you years to know that. You just can't know anyone that well after just a few months, no matter how great it feels, it's just a high. It can't last.

My suggestion would be to find multiple guys to "talk" to so that you aren't so clingy. He might say he's fine with you being clingy but no one is really fine with that, maybe he thought you were exaggerating or maybe he had some other things in mind, so that your clingyness wouldn't really matter. Maybe he was just bored and now is more occupied. Who cares, doesn't matter. Don't let any guy get you hooked on him when you haven't even met you and he can't be consistent enough to communicate with you. He's blowing you off therefore, he doesn't deserve your thoughts. You're wasting your energy and emotions worrying about it.

 

I don't think it's stalkerish. He left her hanging and she was developing a relationship with him and feelings and all the sudden, he drops out. ...it makes you worry and it leaves you hanging.
-- have had it happen to me!
It's hard when you begin by developing a relationship with someone online and only have that way of communicating because, unfortunately they can come and go - depending on how serious that person takes your relationship. It makes you feel kind of helpless.

My advice is to wait things out. He knows how to reach you if he wants to and if he doesn't, then move on.

Just like you said, he had time to upload pictures but couldn't send you a message, I'd go with your gut feeling.
And if he does show up, don't act overly happy, be cool about it....because that was wrong of him.

Been there.

 

I wouldn't be cool about it if he came around again, I'd straight up reject him. If he keeps coming around then maybe eventually I'd give him a very tiny bit of attention, little by little.

I don't think it's stalkerish either to look at a public profile, but I think it is useful because you know he's not dead or anything he is just choosing to not communicate. I'd choose the same thing if he ever came around again.

 

So far everything has been the same. He's just liking pictures and not talking to me. I haven't sent him a message since early Tuesday. And I won't message him! If he decides to talk to me, I'll hear him out and not let him off easy (If he does decide to keep talking to me). Sounds good to me.

 

You know, that could be.
It may be that he's living a double life.

 

Thats so true, I always find that either no girl pays me any attention AT ALL, or when someone does start to give me attention I get loads of other girls interested too, or when I have a gf it seems like every girl i walk pass wants to jump on me and hump me, when im single they wouldnt even spit on me if i was on fire.. its weird that lol.. I guess it must have something to do with the energy you give out.

Regarding this situation, guys are pretty weird when it comes to things like this. If his uploading pictures to his instagram but isnt replying to your messages, my advice would be to NOT message him at all.. Upload some instagram pictures too, just to show your oblivious to the fact that his ignoring you, whatever his reason may be.

Dont beat yourself up too much, your only 19, you have a lot more to learn and so much more experience ahead of you. Maybe he just realised that his falling for you but the long distance thing scared him so he shut down. Whatever the reason may be try not to blame yourself or beat urself over it, its not worth it.

 

Thank you everyone for the advice! He came back last week. I'm sorry I didn't say anything. Now I'm deciding on whether to keep him around or kick him to the curb. Sorry, not sorry.

 

good luck

 

he's probably an older guy just using/flirting with younger girls..
guys are douche bags

 

YOUR a douche bag :boxing_smiley::beatdeadhorse5:

 

ur a douche bag

 

Hahahaha. Update: He's gone. Woohoo.