Loneliness

“I've never been lonely. I've been in a room -- I've felt suicidal. I've been depressed. I've felt awful -- awful beyond all -- but I never felt that one other person could enter that room and cure what was bothering me...or that any number of people could enter that room. In other words, loneliness is something I've never been bothered with because I've always had this terrible itch for solitude. It's being at a party, or at a stadium full of people cheering for something, that I might feel loneliness. I'll quote Ibsen, "The strongest men are the most alone." I've never thought, "Well, some beautiful blonde will come in here and give me a fuck-job, rub my balls, and I'll feel good." No, that won't help. You know the typical crowd, "Wow, it's Friday night, what are you going to do? Just sit there?" Well, yeah. Because there's nothing out there. It's stupidity. Stupid people mingling with stupid people. Let them stupidify themselves. I've never been bothered with the need to rush out into the night. I hid in bars, because I didn't want to hide in factories. That's all. Sorry for all the millions, but I've never been lonely. I like myself. I'm the best form of entertainment I have. Let's drink more wine!”



-Charles Bukowski

 

I was reading about superintelligent people and how they tend to be very selective in social mixing. Now I like socialising, but only with specific types of people these days. And its often about doing something rather than just meeting people for the sake of it.

I do find a lot of people socialise and dont really do anything. I noticed how Id see people in business on the phone all day, and I think "thats all chatter... they're not actually doing anything". Then I'd see real players, their phone hardly rings. But when they are on a call, things happen.

So I think I'm an extrovert, but only on my terms.Or rather, I like mixing when I feel Im with likeminded people.

 

What I have always wondered is... what the fuck do most people talk about when they "socialize"? Because from what I can see, it's all stupid shit that means nothing. There just seems to be very little individuality or intellectual thirst in most people. I think it's probably worse in small cities and suburbs.

 

You can be proud that all your 23,670 posts are so intelligent and enlightening.
Thank you very much Pressed_Rat, without you many of us would be lost or dead.

 

I like it when people take a personal offense to what I say. They must think I am criticizing them directly.

 

I like it when people take a personal offense to what I say. I am actually criticizing them directly.

 

Where I come from....a fuck job and ball rubbin from a beautiful Blonde DOES make you feel tons better. I mean, how could it not? Unless of course you prefer a handsome blonde.

 

there is a whole world out there. I love the feeling of being lonely in a crowd. I hate the feeling of being lonely at home.

 

socializing usually includes drugs or alcohol , so it really dont matter what they talk about. They forget the next day .. Id rather socialize on the internet.. then I dont need to kick someones ass for being stupid drunk in my face.. these days I might just shoot someone. I aint got time for that shit..

 

Some of you guys have really strange, autistic world views. By far most socializing doesn't include drugs or alcohol.

 

Im a human being , not a humpback whale.

 

Apparently you've never socialized with my friends lol

 

I thought you were a squirrel.

 

I go drinking with my friends sometimes, but since they are friends I don't need alcohol to see them and still have fun.

 

Maybe you should stop paying attention to "most people." They will never be who you want them to be no matter how much you hate them.

 

I gave up 10 years ago trying to put some sense in him. Over here at the Hipfora we just accept him as the resident paranoid cockadoodle.

 

I Googled: resident paranoid cockadoodle



...thanks, it made *chuckle*

 

well i don't agree with ALL of that, but it IS only when i'm around other people, distracting me from my own thoughts, that even the idea of lonelyness ever crosses my mind. i DO love being by myself. i don't require entertainment as such, only a lack of distraction from being creative and explorative, whether physically, on the computer, or only in my own mind. i DO spend most of my time on the computer though, now that we have them. i remember things like love and loneliness taking place in my life mostly before we did. (and that of course, was what; almost 40 years ago, or there abouts)

 

I googled it as well:

 

I thought you was a bird, so make like a tree and fly away...