I feel utter loathing for the incompotence and hipocrisy of my mother. 1. she's been cooking for years and doesn't realize that cooking something something in a pan that was dirtied by the sauteeing of onions is going to make it stick, now this is of itself a minor problem, I just have one hell of a time cooking my turkey bacon (the sugars from the onion makes it stick) but it's part of a much larger problem, I constantly hear how little I know even when I come up with the right answer and stop her from making stupid mistakes, she "remembers" things that I mysteriously forget like my agreeing to do things that there is no way in hell I'd agree to and she plays power games that are so incredibly transparent that a chimp could see them and then when I tell her that I know she's playing it she denies it 2. she plays the super right wing conservative card along with the puritanical all sex is bad bull shit outside of procreation and yet I have caught her and my father masturbating, neither knows that I caught them and it disgusts me the idiocy and imperception, not the physical act, go for it just don't say you're against it. I had to get this out and I really do hate my father and loathe my mother it's not any of their behaviours that make me hate them it's their hypocrisy if they didn't take the paper positions that they do I'd have no problem with them, in reality they disgust me, they are as a virus repellant disgusting
my mom gets like that too sometimes, with the whole transparent mind game thing, and yeah she really can get on my nerves, but you gotta love em, or else, well, you wouldnt love em, and that wouldnt be good. i figure me and my mom will start to click more as i get older and mature a little bit, and were gonna fight sometimes now, but i just have to accept it and learn from it, what else can i do really?
how is it not good that I don't love them? my family defines dysfunctional, shit my paternal grandparents got divorced and remarried 16 times (when divorce and marriage law were looser and you could go to other states and of course reno has always been the divorce capitol of the world hip hip horay (this thing sucks at sarcasm) Hell where does it say I have to love anyone, sure in maslov's (maslowe's?) hierarchy of needs but even freud said he was a nutjob liberal
Yeah, I know what you're saying. My mom is like that too, she remembers something if it's in her best interest to do so. =\ She's also quite a backstabber and blackmailer. You know, the kind of mom that has stayed in the perpetual "mom" state, and always says things like "If you don't do this for me, I'm not doing this for you." Then, she takes it to extremes and to the level of blackmail, things like, "If you don't do this for me, I'm going to tell this person this (or I'm not going to give you the right to do something that you have the legal and moral right to do)." =\ For what it's worth, I don't like my parents either.
If you don't like their rules, or their behavior, then it's time to go your own way and break free. Sheesh, it's sad to hear someone speak of their parents so brutally over such insignifant so-called faults. No one is perfect! Course, I'm sure I did it too when I was your age. I also don't know the extent of your situation, but your gripes seem so minor for absolute hatred and digust! My parents did a number on me to which has affected me to this day in many ways, but I've looked past that and forgiven them, and I love them dearly and realize that people make mistakes. Have you ever heard the saying "do as I say, not as I do?" Maybe their hypocrisy stems from that. Maybe they aren't exactly happy with things within themselves that they perhaps see within you, and they want to discourage it, and not let you fall into their footsteps. They want you to be better than they were/are. I don't know. I'm sure my kids will have plenty to say about me too when they're teenagers too.
Anyway. Not trying to take sides against you or belittle your feelings, just coming from another mama's view. Peace to you.
