Likeminded people

Do you feel you have anything in common with many or any of the people around you, with whom you associate with on a daily basis, or do you mostly feel isolated and out of touch with those people -- even though you may interact closely and get along quite well with those people, at least on a superficial, functional level?

For me, it's pretty much always been the latter. I am not really looking for people who share my views and opinions, but sometimes I think of how nice it might be to find just one or two people that are somewhat on the same wavelength as me, who I can discuss things of importance with, without having one of these cookie cutter conversations I hear most people having about something they heard on TV.

 

No "like minded" people around here...

 

I don't have a hard time finding like minded people.
The key is going out and joining in with people, doing something you have in common.

I am queer, artsy and nerdy. I do queer, artsy and nerdy things out in the community where I meet other queer, artsy nerds, which increases my chances of finding 'like-minded'


ed{ Work is a different pony. I don't have much of a choice about the roster of people to draw from there. )

 

Ive found that I can find at least one thing in common with the people I work with and, am around regularly. Most people I know dont watch much tv either which is nice, because I would hate having to hear people talk about that all the time. Recently Ive been attending meetups on meetup.com and its great! Im in like 30+ groups now that have focused interests that I like and we all try to get together and do fun things and discuss and meet new people. check it out!

 

I have a really hard time finding people with similar views. Most see my lifestyle as immoral, so I mostly keep it on the low. I recently found two friends who are pretty much exactly on the same page as me. Other than that, it's slim pickins.

 

I'm surrounded by more idiots everyday.

 

I have some likeminded friends so why should I wish/expect/demand/care for my fellow people on the street to be likeminded like me. Most of my friends are not likeminded though, and I am not bothered by that either.
But with the people you meet on the street or at work, even if you hear them talking about last night tv shows, you really should not be a convicting/judgemental figure if you do not talk with them further. I assure you that you meet people with likeminded views every once in awhile, but how would you know if you already determine they're not after noticing they do not seem to share your view about tv (for example)?

 

I find that I have something in common with most people, even if it is something small. but there are some people that I just don't connect with, and that's okay too. I try not to judge people just because they hold opposing views or seem to care about things that I don't give a shit about. It is hard to not jump to judgements at times, but I'm getting better at it.

 

It feels isolating. But that's cuz I'm only remembering the bad, and ignoring all the good.

BUT as far as high-energy-love-everyone-fully-open-direct-honesty-stuff, that people preach is the way to world peace, which I believe I do,

I feel very fucking alone in this. Everyone else just seems to socialize very casually and very subtly. I hate it.

I feel like I can't express myself completely for fear of coming on too strong, but then that bottlenecks my spirit. It sucks on both ends.

I think I'll be happier fully-expressing myself lately. Even if I think it may be scary (for me, or others). That's the direction I'm going to try and take it coming up.

 

Also, that.

 

Even my closer friends aren't exactly "like minded." Our friendships are based more around natural chemistry and the ability to talk about anything. They aren't "normal" by any means, but we just don't share a ton of specific moral values or societal beliefs.

My friends are now dispersed across the world and country. I don't have any close people to where I am now. I really miss having real conversations. I haven't felt like I could act like myself for a long time now. .

 

I don't associate with that many people... Other than family (mom, grandma, my kid, brother, etc.), I associate with (obviously)my husband-who shares almost all the same views as me, and after almost 15 years we still have awesome conversations that aren't just about dumb stuff like our days or the weather (I shouldn't say dumb stuff... more like just typical, routine.)--- other than that, I have three other friends that live within 40 mins. from me and that I hang out with at least once every month or two at most... they are all very similar to me and share same views on music, government (or lack thereof) and pretty much everything else... one of them is way more extreme than me... one is about the same all around and one is a little more mainstream-but not much. In any case, I am happy with the amount of people I can have true (for lack of better word) conversations with...

 

I actually have a lot of like minded friends and I know that I am very, very blessed in that because it isn't always easy for me to connect with others. I met most of these people through one or two mutual friends but I actually very rarely come across like minded people in my day to day life at work and what not, so I know how difficult it can be.

I also agree with asmodean that you can't always judge someone by a snippet of conversation you catch from them. I am a relatively deep person and I love learning about new ideas and subjects and discussing them with others but I also have no problem with shallow conversation on occasion. I have my shows I like to watch and I like to talk about them, I would hate to be judged and written off for it.

Sometimes you just have to dig a little deeper to find a connection with someone. I've written people off in the past because I didn't think we had any common interests only to find out a year or two later they are much more likeminded than I previously thought.

 

This is all very true.

 

You don't have to share beliefs or interest with someone to be like minded. A lot of my friends are very different from me. We probably look like a very odd bunch when we're out and about. There will be hippies, rednecks, artists, musicians, bikers, health nuts, gamers, hipsters, etc. But we all think alike in some way shape or form, and connect on a level much deeper than the superficial friendships that a lot of people look for.


Too many people look for specific qualities in their friends. One of the most important lessons I've learned in life is to have an open mind when interacting with other people. You can have a great friendship with someone who you have no common interests with. It makes it more interesting. I have good friends with whom I disagree with on almost every topic. We'll argue and bitch at each other all the time but when it comes down to it we'd gladly take a bullet for one another.

 

Each friend and i have only limited similarities. What i notice is that when topics that are less agreeable then conversation is stifled. That bothers me. Being open is what makes relationships interesting. Too warm and fuzzy borders on boring.

 

I agree, you just have to connect. Screw overqualified friends or people that specificly meet my requirements (well jk: not all, they can't help it )!

 

Im fortunate enough to have a handful of like minded friends

 

I must say I am glad I have one or 2 friends that are actually likeminded. I guess that I have at least one makes it easier to not long or expect for it in other people

 

Yea... to the above posts. I was thinking I should have qualified what I said about the friends I mentioned-I mentioned they are almost exactly like me in some ways but I didn't mean all ways. There are plenty of things different about these people-- and the things that are the same are more things you wouldn't know unless you were talking for a while to find out those things. A lot of differences too-def not clones of each other. In the way we dress n all that.
And that said there are people in my family and some neighbors that I associate with a good bit that really don't have too much in common with me at all- (well, not really true because I find most people have something in common once you find out what those things are...even if it's just liking local vegetables and all having kids and liking the beach even if music tastes and many other things... political beliefs..religion.. etc are totally different.)- So, my point is, I'll talk to anyone. But I do feel lucky that I have found some close friends that I have a lot in common with..