Me & my 4 year old daughter are looking at life pretty broken. We live in a shelter at night & our life is quite depressing at the momemt. My family is loveless,Lilys'(my little girl)dad & family has nothing to do with us because i refused to subject lily to abuse,hostillity & serious drugs. So we left Mobile Alabama with a in-town, 1-way u-haul. I was married at 16 to my first husband & we had 2 daughters(Hannah & Sky) i havnt seen in almost 5 years cause everytime i stand up on my feet..i get dragged right back down. Tim(my first husband)left me for another woman when i was 19 & gave our 2 daughters to his mom She will not let me even have pictures of them cause she thinks i am "incompitent"which i am not. Lily is by my second husband & i can not make myself watch someone i love soooo much destroy their self & the people that love them most. I left school early & the only work i know is how to clean,organize,cook, counsel,help & take care of babies. I have done work like telemarket,sales..fast food. But where i am now if you dont have good education ..GOOD LUCK! I'd make a good slave. I just need a break. If any even has just good words of encouragment..please talk to me. I am naturally a happy individual...just a little broken at the moment. Merry Christmas & Happy Newyear if we do not meet.
I don't think there is anything I could say to make anything feel better or right for you.... but I'll be thinking of you and yours... Stay strong!
Dear Awnikah, I wam sending you some positive vibes hopefully the will help you spirits. I know right now your spirits are low because of all you are going through. But dear woman please do not say you would make a good slave. No one should feel that they could make it in a life in that manner best. I do not know if you are religious or not but at times like this turning you faith to what you believe in could really help. You have to believe in yourself first sel esteem is ebrything and especially for your child youhave toshow here you have hope she will need your positive reinforcement during times like this. I know fast food is not a glamorous job but you could work your way up a friend of mine did clear to mgr. Her experience exceeded her schooling which helped her move on to better employment. Please remeber thatwe are here for you if you need an ear or sholder {{{{hugs}}}} Merry Christman dear to you and your dear child.
I'm not sure if I'm have really any advice but I really hope things turn around for you and your little girl. Sometimes life just isn't fair and you have to roll with the punches even though they seem really unbearable. If anything, I would suggest finding a job, even fast food, and try and get on some assistance which will hopefully lead you back on your feet. Its a small start but who knows where it can lead you. Good luck!
Every thing is gonna be alright. Aint that what Marley said? I pleed blessings over each angel here. Thank you all. Im going to try to open a kitchen here where i am for now. Thank you all,again. Merry Christmas,Hannikah,Quanza,New Year & all that if we do not speak again for some time. When i figure out where the national forrest is.. kitchens open to all. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ALWAYS!
You should be glad that you didnt subject your daughter to abuse and serious drugs that could have played out worse. Congratulate your self for that...I do! I used to live in a shelter with my mom and 2 siblings, from home to home school to school... I grew up fast, but I look back and I cant even tell you how many wonderful people i met. I mean I think those were the best days of my life.. really. I learned so much from those experiences and they made me who I am today. What you can do, is do the best you can. There are things avalible to you... ask about them...(food banks, subsidized housing, salvation army (chirstmas time)...stuff like that). I hope you and your daughter have a wonderful Christmas! (it sounds like you love her very much, and trust me she will realize this one day)
Mama, everything will be okay. The universe works out in the end. It may be a though battle, but you'll get through it! Be strong and never give up! I wish I was there to give you a hug! If you're around the Philly area I have lots of clothes that I need to get rid of, so you can have them. Medium sized shirts and 7-9 sized pants.
Awnikah, if you were in Illinois I'd gladly open my home to you and your darling daughter. I donate a lot of things to women's shelters around my house because I know women in positions like yours need them more than my drawers do. I'm so glad you refused to live in a place where your daughter would be surrounded by abuse, drugs and an unkind family. I feel terrible that I can't help you and other women and girls in your situation. I hope that you see Hannah and Skye soon. What your ex-husband did is not right - just because you have limited means, it doesn't mean you're an "imcompitent" mother. You obviously care very much for your daughter and I can tell you're doing everything you can for her. I hope this winter brings some pieces back together in your and Lily's life. Keep us updated, and check the Rainbow Family forum if you're looking for any kind of help.
honey, can you do live in eldercare with your daughter? or nanny work? I was a hs drop out with a 3 yo son when I started taking classes at community college. he was in Montessori (on my pell grant) while I was in class. He was eight when I finally graduated uni. it was a load of work, and my son split his week with his dad (a partial blessing). Maybe you can get a stop gap job until your girl goes to school? look into communes, as well. I know there was a start on one in Hawaii -all welfare mamas, back in the late 90s. Don't know what happened with it. But do the social services dance: see what's available so you know your options for housing, schooling/ job training, transport (some offer bus passes), food.
Thank you,All! We need all the words of encouragement & advise. We love all of you Things are not soo bad now & i just feel led to say that i understandwhat im going threw is a valley in my life. Its just painful. I have hope & faith LIFE IS GETTING BETTER!Amen. Please feel free to write me any time. I love to give love.
keep believing in yourself and in the kindness of the universe for things to be ok. Do what you know is right, don't allow yourself to be enslaved by any man. you are valuable, you are special, and you will make it. my heart goes out to you, sister, stay strong.
im not a good judge of stuff but i had a friend his mom n pops were train riders. n wed go do werk in the mornin. he had lotsa good books n vice versa. im shit with names but they were stable. we went to boston n stuff i asked, he was 16. much smarter. wasnt any thing i would say he knew how to jump into n be comfy withj.well he found a sister to hang out with. do your stuff. plus u can get a car for 500 bucks almnost always. im better at runnin etc. if you are stuck in sum place , u can audit classes., more folks etc. lot easier if u got a proper sister. sisters who go thru shit they look out. i got babysat by mad strangers. was hitchin washington. i was all excited she was too.kids are smart too n apeal to there stuff n get goin. ujeanae made well i miss her. kids are always better than adults. so get out.
