life blows

I'll get right to the point. I have something called Aspergers. Along with several other things it does to me, I am at the social level of a 7 year old.(im twelve), I can't understand anything without seeing (opposed to hearing) directions. I am too afraid to even admit this to people in person, because I get made fun of. I get made fun of because Aspergers is pro-nounced Ass-burg-ers. I have absolutly no self confidence, I know tons of girls like me, yet I look in the mirror and think "ugly," and I dont believe I am good at anything (except for me gaming skills). I have no courage to approach girls, or even make friends. Let me put it this way, I go to a school with over 1,000 kids. I have xactly 4 friends.

 

your only 12. theres plenty more time for you to gain confidence and make new friends. i used to be pretty shy till i got to high school, that's where i said, 'fuck it, this is supposed to be the best years of my life so i'm gonna be myself and go fuck things up good!'

and believe it or not I have friends MY age who's only skill is video games...

 

I am 31 with all the same problems. Just because someone names something, does mean its an excuse for you not to try. Quit Whining, your twelve and all twelve year olds think the world is tougher on them than anybody else. Its not, you have it easy, so live it up and enjoy.

 

thx guys.

 

Four friends, that is awesome. How many do you need?

Just live for the moment. Help others, listen, give, support, encourage, and it will all come back to you.

 

hahaha it prety much summed me up in a way as well.. but i am not any good at video games ...in fact i hate the darn things.. your absolutly right.

 

lol. video games are the best thing since the invention of video games. i can confuse people!

 

I go to school with over 4,000 kids, and I have exactly four friends. What you'll realize when you get older is that no matter how many friends you have, you're only going to have about four that really matter. Autism can be tough man, I hope you get through it

 

at least my friends are very trust-worthy and loyal friends.

 

You have 4 friends? ... Hmm ... I wish I had 4 true friends in grade school, and I didn't even have Aspergers ...

An old saying goes, if you have enough true friends to fill up the fingers on one hand, then you are a very lucky person. You're still well off, having 4 good friends. =)

And another thing ... if you look in the mirror and think "ugly," then try to figure out WHY you think "ugly." Your lips? Your hair? Your eyes, your chin? And whatever problem you think you have, do your best to fix it; to make it whatever you want it to be. Remember, your body is yours to take care of and improve, nobody will do it for you.

At one point, I didn't like having a big lower lip. (I think one person even called me "******-lips" once ... haha!) So, I started trying my hardest to keep my lip small by pulling the extra bit back with my teeth, and holding it in my mouth. I did this all the time (whenever I could remember).

A year or two later, I have normal-sized lips NORMALLY, with no bad side effects. And I am VERY happy with that. =) If you think you have similar problems, ask your parents for advice, or try a do-it-yourself method. Not everything has to be fixed with an operation; all it takes is a little bit of brains, which I'm sure you have. =)

 

my parents already make me go this therapist lady once a month. she really helps, but i hate talking to her. i dont like letting people "get in," cuz thier my thoughts and noone has the right to hear about them in any way, shape, or form.

 

Four Real Friends is great

Take it easy on yourself cos you're great!
Love Clairexxx

 

know what aspergers is, and it really isnt that bad. what Im meen is that there are a lot of much worse things you could have. dont mope aound because you have a problem, just work with it. find your limitations and keep pushing them.


i have a verry bad stutter, try growing up not being able to comunicate with other people. You have four friends so youre doing better than i did. I never had any friends, I still dont actually. I've never learned how to socialize with other people, so Im more than a little screwed up as an adult. I just dont know what to do/say/act around other people

I talk with my family once on in a while. but I live alone, eat alone, sleep alone, work alone. I do everthing alone. that is my social life in a nutshell.

i should try to take my own advice

 

finaly, someone who knows what aspergers is!

 

Then you have four friends more than I, also, don't fucking care
about what others think, do what makes you happy, Stay in school
do your best, there are cases like that guy who dropped out of school
real early cause he had a gift/hobbies of sorts, he owns Virgin Records,
Virgin Airlines, and now his on reality TV series, listen to lots of Rock and Roll,
and play it really loud, also, some of the best paying jobs these days require
you to sit and play video games all day and look for ways to improve them,
$$$$ Ker-Ching, just cause you don't feel your swimming up stream as fast
as the rest, YOUR STILL A SAMON!!!!!!!!!!!

Peace......., and don't forget the rock and roll, Black Sabbath, Cirith Ungle,
Motorhead.
Icurus ~

 

I understand you, AwesomePawsome, my son has been recently diagnosed with Asperger's. He's only 5.
If you need to "see" directions, then that's what you need to do. That won't change, but you can learn "tricks" to help you remember what to do in certain situations. Try to remember that school is a short time in your life, and four friends is plenty. Even when you see large groups of other kids, they are not all best friends. Some of them just hang around the others to look cool.
You are just as important as anyone else. Remember that.

 

You may hav ethis but theres something you don't know about you that is that a lot of children can't really learn without seeing and that is normal. Visualization and acting while learning are wonderful things to use to learn. Some kids can't learn by visualizing...some kids are more mobil. Boys tend to learn best while in movement girls tend to be more visual learners. These are proven facts that come from the brain development of girls and boys...but there are acceptions to the way that kids learn because everyone learns at their own pace. Some kids have learning dissabilities that theyll never know about. Some will just never admit it. But everyone..and I mean everyone is at a different level all through life your whole life. not just you. Everyone. Even some of your friends have things they have trouble learning or understanding.
I used to get teased for different reasons. I don't know one person who weas never teased. This does not make it right but you have to look at it like this..if you don't like something about me....don't look...or don't pay attention to it. If you don't like this about me so much then why waste so much of your time bugging me about it.
Also its better to have a couple very close friends that are very nice then to try to be friends with a ton of people who just upset you all the time. Its not worth it. Just because you learn at a different rate tehn others does not mean tha tyou dont like to play the same games or do the same fun things. they dont have to know you learn different. you dont have to tell people everything about you. You just have to have fun doing whatever your doing.

 

Maybe your parents may seem like they are trying to barge into your head and control you..maybe you feel invaded and this can cause you to close off to people.

Honestly that's the last thing you want to do is close off. You can have private thoughts that are yours and you can have thoughts that are for others. I am 22 and I still need to talk to a tharapist every once in a while. Haveing someone you can talk to to help you is the best thing you can ask for. Some people never have that ...how can you solve anything all by yourself if you dont know where to start. Therapists are good because you dont have to see them every day or live with them..you can go and vent and leave. They help a lot. not only that but your parents are paying for it...might as well get it all figured out now...cuz if you dont youll end up paying for one yourself later..and there not cheep